(ThyBlackMan.com) A brother does not always need more weight on his shoulders. Sometimes he needs a porch, a fishing pole, a good book, and a long walk back to himself. That may sound too simple for this loud age, but simple things have saved plenty of men. A rocking chair ...
(ThyBlackMan.com) A Black father’s greatest flex is not what he owns, what he drives, or how many people praise him, but whether his children can look around and know he is still there. That may not sound flashy to folks chasing noise, but ask any grown person still healing from ...
(ThyBlackMan.com) One thing I had to learn the hard way is that a brother can be doing everything people asked of him and still not know how to enjoy his own life. That sounds strange until you have lived it. You can get up early, go to work, keep gas in ...
(ThyBlackMan.com) For many brothers growing up through the late eighties and nineties, Denzel Washington felt familiar long before most of us ever saw him in person. He carries himself like somebody you might hear speaking wisdom at a cookout, sitting on a porch late in the evening, or giving game ...
(ThyBlackMan.com) A quiet kind of exhaustion has settled inside countless Black men across America. You can spot it in tired eyes during long grocery lines, inside forced laughter at family cookouts, or within silence during late night drives home after another draining shift. Plenty of folks assume toughness means somebody ...
(ThyBlackMan.com) There comes a point in life when a grown brother has to slow down and really think about how he presents himself. Down South, old heads used to say folks size you up before you even shake their hand. A man can tell his whole story without saying much ...
(ThyBlackMan.com) Every summer I notice the same thing happening. Parks fill up. Basketball courts get louder. Brothers start jogging through neighborhoods again. Gyms stay packed later into the evening. You can almost feel people trying to shake stress off physically. As an Older fella, I understand exactly why that happens. ...
(ThyBlackMan.com) A lot of younger brothers are carrying pressure quietly and thinking their value as a man only comes from what is sitting in their bank account. I understand why some think like that. Most of us grew up hearing the same message over and over. A man provides. A ...
(ThyBlackMan.com) Some days a man can sit alone in complete silence and still feel pressure all around him. Bills waiting. Work draining him. Children needing his attention. Expectations coming from every direction. Then somewhere during those long nights, thoughts start creeping into his head that he never says out loud. ...
(ThyBlackMan.com) Breaking generational patterns as a Black father does not start with some big speech. It starts when you finally sit still long enough to look at yourself for real. Not what you show people, but what is actually there. I had to do that. Had to look back at ...
(ThyBlackMan.com) I been noticing something shift over these past few years, and it is not small. You go into a gym now, or even a park on a Saturday morning, and you see more Black men moving together. Not just lifting side by side, but really locked in. Talking, pushing, ...
(ThyBlackMan.com) We’re taking a trip down memory lane, fellas. I hope your long term memory is still sharp—or at least decent enough to remember parts of your childhood. Growing up, was your street an old street? Were there a lot of elderly folks who knew your family? Growing up, the ...