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Dr. Boyce Watkins; Roy Williams, Interracial Dating and the Beauty Queen Who Tried to Take His Money…

July 10, 2011 by  
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(ThyBlackMan.com)  Dallas Cowboys star Roy Williams got the world’s attention when he sent a $75,000 engagement ring and videotaped proposal to former Miss Texas, Brooke Daniels.  Daniels had been Williams’ girlfriend for a year, but she turned down the player’s engagement request.   She did, however, decide to keep the ring.

A signed affidavit by Williams says that he asked for the ring back, but Daniels says that she lost it.  However, an insurance company investigated and found that she’d given the ring to her dad for “safe keeping.”   Williams then filed a lawsuit to reclaim the ring, and Daniels finally coughed it up.

One can only imagine the number of black women in the world who are having an “SMH moment” over this one. Not to say that we can’t love who we want, but  you can’t pretend that you don’t know why every black media outlet (including Your Black World) placed a picture of Williams next to the woman who embarrassed him.  Yes, my friends, the scandal of it all (for some) is probably because Daniels is white.

Although love can come to us in a variety of packages (and it’s always a beautiful thing), I admittedly wonder why so many black male professional athletes seem to hold white women at a premium.  I remember a consultant for an NFL team telling me that he once had a meeting with all the wives of the black athletes on the team, and there wasn’t one black woman in the room.  Now, this was way back in the late 1980s, but things haven’t changed much since then.

When I was at The University of Kentucky, I could have sworn that the basketball players thought that black women were part of another species with which they couldn’t mate.   Working at the desk in the dorm for basketball players, I would literally count five white women for every black girl on the continuous carousel of females hoping  to win some kind of really nasty sexual lottery ticket.  It’s not that dating white women is some kind of crime; the problem is when  you hold white women on a pedestal that is not accessible to nearly any black woman on earth.  Skin color should have nothing to do with the threshold of female attractiveness.

In the case of men like Williams, I see an easy connection to his apparent affinity for things non-black.  Roy was raised in Texas, where lighter skin is considered a premium in female beauty.  So, if Williams weren’t attempting to marry a white woman, it would be no surprise to see a man of his stature with a light-skinned (or “light skinned-ed,” depending on where you’re from) black woman.  In fact, a southern woman could have the face of Miss Piggy and still be considered attractive if her skin is light and she has “good hair” (you know, that long, straight or curly hair….anything other than the “disgusting” nappy stuff that reminds us that we’re from Africa).

From a Financial Lovemaking standpoint, I can say that Williams’ decision to take such a significant and public financial risk appears to be a bit illogical.  One would expect that a man who puts so much on the line would make sure that he was going to get the answer he expects.  We’d also hope that he’d be sure not to marry a woman conniving enough to lie about losing the ring.  A beautiful woman is attractive on both the inside AND the outside, but it appears that this woman may have been a thief.  When I was engaged to an amazing and conscientious woman at one point in my life, I wasn’t surprised in the least when she returned the ring once we decided not to marry.  Note to Roy:  That’s what decent women do.

So, while some of us may have our concerns about men like Roy chasing after the  deceptive beauty queen with blonde hair, we can at least fault him for being a little stupid.  But then again, the words “Cupid” and “stupid” often end up in the same sentence, and all of us have fallen victim to the drug of love.   Let’s hope Roy chooses a little better next time and that he also remembers that beauty is more than skin (color) deep.

Staff Writer; Dr. Boyce Watkins

Dr. Boyce Watkins is the founder of the Your Black World Coalition. For more information, please visit http://BoyceWatkins.com.


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9 Responses to “Dr. Boyce Watkins; Roy Williams, Interracial Dating and the Beauty Queen Who Tried to Take His Money…”
  1. Thor Heyerdahl says:

    I have seen black men following white women like rabid gorillas – why cant you make women you want? If you are so special, why do white women leave you once they find out what you are all about? You are so damn proud of yourselves, when every indication is that you should be the most ashamed-of-yourselves race on the planet. Do you realize how pathetic OJ Simpson was – and that many of you admitted he was guilty but you were glad he got away with it – he killed an angel, you idiots !!!

    Why do you think you are so dysfunctional in the USA? Very simple – you do NOT belong living amongst white people anywhere – you are a different race and there is a different place for you – Africa. God put you in Africa – and it was EVIL that took you out of Africa. Why don’t you get wise and do the only thing you can do to defeat evil – go back to Africa – undo what it did to you. No BS – you need to think bigger than you are currently thinking to fix the problems of your people. Right now you are polluting your own people – and you are polluting others too. Did RJIII need a white woman? – There is no black woman who wanted to be with him? Billionaire Tiger Woods – 2 blondes have left him now. Wake up already!!!

  2. Milagros says:

    The Afrikan made a choice and it came back to haunt him..He got just what nhe didn’t think he would get..NADA!

  3. rashaard says:

    Roy has not been embaresed. He was saved! This women got her family out of debt. She couldnt even pay for her rotten tooth. You think it is odd that she only goes after an athlete? Aint nobody want her from her old town. She doesnt look nothin like this picture. Airbrushed, fake hair. I was in her class at Sam Houston. Dumb. Been with everybody, and will be with anybody that can pay her bills. Good luck Roy. You have been done a favor man. Everyone in HTown knows how she uses people. crazy family.

  4. grace says:

    Let me enlighten you. This women and her family are money seekers. The mom trains her daughters to go after athletes or anyone with money. This girl looks nothing like the pictures on the internet. She has fake hair, teeth, the works. Plus airbrushed pictures. She is Not a catch! She was bleeding Roy dry along with another man and supporting her family. No morals at all. She had another boyfriend the entire time, buying his love with Roy’s money. Dont think she has worked a day in her life. He is so much better off because this family is full of drama and lawsuites. Crazy from way back. Think “Pageant and Tieras”…. Roy, this was the best 70k you have ever spent.

  5. Bradie says:

    If they have been “dating” for about a year it can be presumed that our dear brother Williams lost quiet a fortune even before this ring. However, I promise you Mr Williams could have fallen into a worse situation if she had decided to “accept” his proposal and marry him for a couple of years, then accuse him of violent behavior then ultimately “divorce” him. Mr Williams is probably a very lucky man. Good luck Mr Williams.

  6. marcel says:

    dr watkins hates on hip hop rather than blame poor pareting now hateing on black athletes with white woman even tho 90 percent of black men have black woman. this is not a big deal a person can date who they want and rap about wat they want u are a hater boyce

  7. Personally, I don’t care who you date, but just don’t trash your own race in the process as an excuse to “jump the fence.” I think too many of us do that.

  8. Sapphire says:

    I have to ask why you Dr. Watkins are embarrassing this man even more by publishing his photo next the woman he was having a relationship with for over a year!

    Human beings can be with whom ever they want to be with. Please stop the racist crap!

    Does it make you feel good to further embarrass this man? What is your point?

    It would be an embarrassment to most men under these circumstances no matter what color/race the woman was!

    Also, the percentage of black men with white/other women is still very low, I would say about 2% overall. So again stop playing this man’s issues even more by your commentary.

    This is not something a “decent” man would do!

  9. George says:

    “When I was at The University of Kentucky, I could have sworn that the basketball players thought that black women were part of another species with which they couldn’t mate.”

    And white players who did dare to mate with black women were given a warning that it was totally unacceptable….

    http://destee.com/index.php?threads/chapman-says-kentucky-discouraged-interracial-dating-in-80s.32351/

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