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Devout Christians: Are We Fair With God?

April 25, 2023 by  
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( It is hard to understand walking in faith when life seems to be falling down around you. There are people that you love, and sometimes those we love can be some of the most selfish people on the planet. Relationships can exasperate the concept of selfish to another level when you are pouring all you can into a significant other, or spouse, only for them to treat you with ill regard. They question your loyalty, trust others over you, and make you have to fight for a stable place in their life. these behaviors are hurtful and can cause quite a bit of mental anguish. Some of us are parents. Raising a child is a very selfless act, and one of the greatest accomplishments of many, however, there are times where our children are quite thoughtless. Everything they achieve is because of them…and they look for someone to blame when something goes wrong.

This is where, as parents, we must teach them to acknowledge those in their life that make sacrifices on their behalf, and to take responsibility for the mistakes they make. In all of these situations, and many more we tend to stick with those we love, and believe in, through many hardships. However, our patience for God isn’t quite the same. Many of us are in a one-sided relationship spiritually. We work hard for everything we have…and for everything we don’t have God has failed us.

Devout Christians - Are We Fair With God.

The understanding of many is God sees us, he knows our heart, and he’s as all doing as he is all knowing. If God wants better for us he will bless us with it better. If we are struggling it’s because God is trying to teach us a lesson, or we are being punished. There is nothing we can do to undo the path God has us on, so no matter what we do God gives us what he wants us to have. God is in total control, and we just need to survive and wait on him. With that being said if life is a continuing storm patience can run thin with God quickly. If we don’t have the job, lifestyle, education, spouse, child, etc. that our heart desires it’s because God doesn’t want us to have those things. We are just left to walk this earth understanding that the longing of our heart is not important to God. If others try to suggest otherwise it’s hard to receive when all our life we have been led to believe God is in total control. This position can lead us to consider walking away from God.

When we get to know a person we spend time with them, we have to talk to them to learn more about them. It is not wise to get to know a person based on what others tell us of them, or what we assume about them. Truth be told we don’t want anyone to do these things to us. If you want to know who I am talk to me…take the time, invest the time, to know me past the surface. This is what we demand, its what we give others and honestly it drives our patience with people. With that being said are we fair to God. Do we take the time to truly get to know him for ourselves? How often are the scriptures we know best the ones that have been poured into us from church and elders? Many of us have never really read the bible for ourselves so what we know of God can be considered an assumption.

If one is studying God’s Word, they will find that faith, accountability, personal responsibility, and being active in the our relationship is a part of walking with God. There are things we have to do in this relationship as is the case with any other relationship. If we look as our expectation of our children as parents…we can get a better understanding of the expectation of God as he is that parent in our relationship with him. I would never tell someone what decision they need to make for their spiritual self.

However, I will say my spiritual life, and its manifestation in my reality, became more apparent as I took the time to actually have a relationship with God that was not one sided. Consider the treatment you deserve from others and ask yourself if you are fair with God. If the answer is no…take comfort in knowing he’s not angry with you; he’s just waiting to have a real relationship with you.

Staff Writer; Christian Starr

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3 Responses to “Devout Christians: Are We Fair With God?”
  1. AK says:

    Dearly beloved Valerie.

    The Lord is telling me to tell you this:

    God is your best friend.
    God is your best ally.
    God LOVES you beyond anything you can ever hope or imagine!
    His love for you is deeper than any well!
    Nobody loves you or will ever love you more than He does.
    His love for you is Eternal.
    His love for you is EVERLASTING.
    He will never ever not love you.
    He will never love you any less.
    He will never forsake you.
    Until the day you pass away, His door will always be open to you.
    You are so precious to Him that when you talk to Him or pray, He listens.
    You MATTER to Him and your life matters deeply to Him.

    He is telling me to tell you this.
    He is also telling me to tell you that He cannot help you without you believing the above.

    Our sorrow, our tears and our pain pains God. But he is even more heart-broken over our unbelief.

    Our unbelief ties His hands. If we don’t believe that God loves us and that He is for us, then we tie His hands.

    The world says “Show me and then I’ll believe.” With God, it is the opposite. First we believe, then we see.

    That is why Satan tries all he can to cause us to doubt that we are loved and that our lives don’t really matter. The truth is the complete opposite.

    Years ago, I was having major problems believing God. I was judging God’s love for me by my own interpretation of my life experiences. I was doing so by leaning to my own understanding. But the Bible tells us to trust God with all our heart and lean not to our own understanding.

    I asked the Lord what He wanted me to understand. He told me “Understand that you don’t understand.”

    He asked me that I should instead trust Him by CHOOSING to believe that He loves me.

    When I deliberately and with difficulty chose to believe that He loves me, that is when the breakthroughs came. When I chose to believe Him, He caused me believe Him.

    When we believe God, GOOD things happen.

    Valerie, the Lord is telling me to tell you that He has SO MUCH for you to live for. He is telling me to tell you that just as He did with Job, He will give you double what Satan has stolen from you. He wants to RICHLY BLESS you with LIFE. You will have so much Peace and Joy and True Life in Him that it will cause you and others to be in awe of His Power in your life!!!

    Cheers Valerie! God loves *you*!

    ps. I was born and raised Moslem and I became a child of God through The Lord Jesus Christ. Jesus Christ is God and God is the Lord Jesus Christ: Father, Son and Holy Spirit. Amen?

  2. Valerie Withers says:

    I have been abused by hundreds of people many calling themselves socalled christians.I have been raped,beten,abandoned left for dead homeless and made fun of by everyone i have ever encounterd,now i am on full disability,i suffer from severecptsd,nightmares,and triggers.I tried to commit suicide in two thousand and eight.god never protected me from my pedophile grandfather,all of my fathers drunk friends and I maried an addict to escape my original family ened up on welfare and have had to fight men and women off of my body sine i was born.i seea private therapist.But i no longer trust my fellow human beings.i pray to die every single day,i have been institutionalized five times.

    • Ron says:

      Hello Valerie,
      I planned suicide more than once and thought about it often. You have been through more hell than me.
      It took BobbiJo 30 minutes to tell her story of being pimped out, left for dead and other horrendous things. Watch her movie (below) and contact her.
      I try to reach out to the homeless a little and I know it is hard to believe God loves you but HE loves you more than you know and at the end HE will be there.
      I said God help me stop drinking. HE did in one night. The most ignored verse in the Bible is HE that raised Jesus from the dead dwells in you Rom. 8:11.
      I can’t explain why we go through so much turmoil but when you get through it you will forget how bad it was – ask BobbiJo.
      I cn tell you a little more if you are interested.

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