(ThyBlackMan.com) Have you ever engaged a person in conversation and asked about their well-being and they replied, ‘Under the circumstances, I’m doing ok’? I can’t remember how many times I’ve heard that, but it occurred to me recently that we are not divinely designed to live ‘under’ any of our ...
(ThyBlackMan.com) OK, I need to rant for a minute. I just need to get this off my chest. Sisters, I love you. God knows I do. But sometimes love includes criticism. Personal pet peeve of mines: I’m tired of these extra-average, baggage-laden sisters complaining about the supposed lack of good ...
(ThyBlackMan.com) Stockholm syndrome, or capture-bonding, is defined as “a psychological phenomenon in which hostages express empathy and have positive feelings towards their captors, sometimes to the point of defending them. These feelings are generally considered irrational in light of the danger or risk endured by the victims, who essentially mistake a lack of abuse from their captors for ...
(ThyBlackMan.com) I was recently inspired after bumping into noted relationship expert Demetria Lucas this week at the Congressional Black Caucus Convention. Demetria and I had a chance to chat after doing panels in our respected fields. My panel featured the Janks Morton film, “Hoodwinked,” and focused on finding solutions for ...
(ThyBlackMan.com) The culture wars. Not the variety supposedly being waged on the national stage in America this election season. No, this one falls under another category. One that I would wager a greater number of black men of a certain age are grappling with. The hip-hop variety. A struggle that ...
(ThyBlackMan.com) One of the main themes in the political conventions was centered on how hard it was for the speakers’ families, their parents and grandparents, and how they struggled to make it. Virtually every top speaker reflected on the hard times they went through and how their relatives struggled to ...
(ThyBlackMan.com) Dear Black Men, I have never really been the type to write love letters because I was always told “when a word is spoken, you can feel the emotions in it” but today I woke up feeling very inspired, and what was the cause of this inspiration you ask? ...
(ThyBlackMan.com) Me and a white friend of mine were having a conversation over lunch the other day. The topic was world peace. All he wanted was for past wrongs done to African Americans to be forgotten, and everyone to just get along. I explained to him that this isnt the ...
(ThyBlackMan.com) Sisters, here are some ways WE can & SHOULD take accountability. 1. RESPECT YOURSELF. I was speaking to a Sister who told me that they are only a “few” good Black Men left. I asked her by whose standards? Because I know PLENTY of Wonderful Black Men. She then ...
(ThyBlackMan.com) Sil lai Abrams, the relationship expert at Ebony.com, just wrote an article in which she challenged the notion of the “Ride or die chick.” The “ride-or-die chick” is defined, by some, to be the woman who stands by her man, no matter what. Sometimes, standing by that man might ...
(ThyBlackMan.com) We’ve all heard of her; she’s been crooned, immortalized and hyped since the beginning of the 1990’s as the strong, self-sufficient black woman. She’s appeared in film, literature and theater as the saving grace of the black family and the antidote to black male patriarchy. In the process, she’s ...
(ThyBlackMan.com) recently began working at a school, and upon doing so, I have come face to face with some of the ills that are plaguing our community. My encounters have been with young boys dealing with bitterness towards women because of the resentment they have for their mother that abandoned ...