(ThyBlackMan.com) It’s amazing what women tolerate and what’s even more amazing is the fact that we are aware of it and either can’t do anything about it or choose to do nothing about it. When you get married or enter into a relationship the usual mathematical component is two people but what happens when those two suddenly become three? Do you stay or do you go? Is loving him accepting his behavior or is loving you more important? Come with me on this ride ya’ll.
Okay so your man is cheating, you caught him boom. You go off state your position and say “it’s either me or her” and lay your cards on the table. He doesn’t respond instead he feeds you the normal pseudo bullish that sista’s often fall for it’s over it’s nothing between us and blah blah blah but she is still 
blowing up his phone, he is ignoring her calls, he is texting and not talking do you get the picture? Sista, do you have a clue? Men often times get their fill of a woman who is accepting of their behavior, too passive to tell them straight up that they are full of it and they will not take it.
I have found myself having countless conversations with myself wondering how the hell do you keep on accepting that. Am I saying that I too have not been the victim of love-struck stupidity? Oh no please believe we have all been victimized by some form of it’s not what you think it is or the mixed up mind of a woman kinda of thing, I personally will admit though my patience is pushed to the limit when the same woman that he says he is done with is still around. Now you’re playing not only with her emotions but with mines as well. Pretending to be something to the both of us because you are too greedy and selfish to make a decision so ladies, make it for them.
You don’t have to be second in your own marriage/relationship to another woman, and truth being told who gave him the idea that you had to? You of course, you never stopped for a second and thought that the only reason he was doing is was because you simply just let him. As human beings with meticulous thinking and calculative moves he knew what he was doing and you sat back and said to yourself oh well, as long as I don’t lose mine you turned your head the other way and allowed him to leave you and go to her until his fill off her sexual walls was satisfied and then bring back what he got from her to you. No way in hell are you as a woman supposed to accept any disrespect from a man before I let someone tell me that they need to roam, I would prefer to be left alone. I don’t need a woman calling my phone because she needs her fix or my man/husband telling me that he won’t be home tonight. I can do bad alone and I can be sad alone as well.
Don’t allow yourself to be pulled into the repertoire of someone else’s behavior because you are too afraid of being alone. Unless you were born a twin the majority of us came here alone and therefore should learn to live so if we are not being treated right.
The longer you allow someone to continue with behavior that is not appropriate the longer they will continue to do it, why would someone stop doing something that makes them feel so good if all parties are participating. You don’t have to, you can make a stand for yourself and other sista’s by showing these brotha’s that they don’t have it like that and if they do, their time with you and the other woman is coming to an end. Take inventory of yourself and recognize that as long as you let him he will continue to do it and that you have the power to decide for yourself if this is what you want. We all want a relationship that is based on the love that we share with each other and not what he is sharing with someone else. The choice is up to you either you allow him to continue with this charade on you move on and find someone better because believe me he is out there, but in the mean time and yes, I mean in the meantime be firm in your position I know I had to…
And these are, just thoughts from a sista…
Staff Writer; Nicole Moro
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