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Dating Tips for Black People.

November 13, 2019 by  
Filed under Opinion, Relationships, Weekly Columns

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(ThyBlackMan.com) Love and dating is hard for everyone, okay? Literally nobody is granted any exception or invincibility – although we sometimes wish it was possible for us to be given such bliss. After all, falling in and out of love is such a hassle, experiencing the excruciating pain of heartbreak is no joke, and second-guessing yourself because you got cheated on is not a very healthy feeling. Love comes with a lot of pain but I know that many of us still want to believe in it. Why? Let’s just say that it’s for the simple reason of love being one of the most exhilarating and soul-reviving feelings on earth.

It makes you feel alive.

In this seemingly “dead” world wherein people live and die working for the economy, we need something substantial to keep our souls alive. In order to get a hold of this feeling, we constantly gamble our hearts in the game of love. Sure, there are days when it would seem that you have no hopes for winning but there are also days when little rays of sunshine peek through your window. They shine on your life enough to make you think that the search is not over yet. That someone, somewhere, is definitely made just for you – to give both your loves meaning; to fulfil the void in each of your hearts. Check this out: https://thoughtcatalog.com/mike-zacchio/2015/10/any-love-worth-having-is-a-gamble/.

The world we live in today is far from perfect. Although we now have much, the important things have also grown little. Still, it’s not all too bad when you know how to set your priorities straight. In fact, you can easily make use of today’s vast technology to work on things that truly matter. Love, for example, is something you don’t have to wait for. You can grab it by the hand and take it for yourself if you want to. This is now possible through the help of the internet.

How The Internet Changed The World Of Dating

Now that we have the internet, many impossible things have become “possible.” Before, when you wanted to do research, you had to spend long hours in a public or school library. You’d have to browse dozens of books just to get one or two references. Nowadays, all you have to do is type in a few words in a search box and hit ‘Enter.’ The next thing you know, you’ve got hundreds, thousands or even millions of search results staring at your face on-screen. It is now that easy. The same thing goes for meeting a new date.

Back then, you would have to spend countless of hours just to get someone to hit on you. You would have to sit in bars holding a single drink throughout the night or sit in coffee shops sipping the same cup of coffee for three whole hours hoping some hot guy will turn up and ask you for your digits. There’s also the option of joining your friends in a mixer wherein you get to meet random guys and girls who’re also looking for a match. While this kind of activity has its own charms and is fun in its own roundabout, time-consuming way, it doesn’t guarantee a high degree of success. Most times, you’ll meet someone you can’t jive with. Other times, you’ll meet someone completely obnoxious!

Although it’s fun getting to know people like that. It can be pretty wasteful in terms of time, money, and effort. You just can’t judge your compatibility with a person based on what you see. This is why the internet has greatly changed the game for daters – for the better, of course. This goes for daters of all kinds: Western, Asian, white, black, male, female, and LGBT. The internet has made big waves in the dating industry and finding love in this busy world has never been easier!

But I’m Black – Is Internet Dating Going To Work For Me?

Of course it will! You can’t even begin to imagine just how many people are in search for the love of their lives online (check this out). For all you know, your destined match has been wandering in the cyber universe all this time waiting for you to show up at some point. Black or not, the dating world has become more open for all kinds of people coming from all sorts of backgrounds. So it’s really not a question of whether internet dating is going to work for you. It’s a question of HOW you’re going to make it work for you. Here are some tips on how you can successfully find your match online:

Keep An Open Mind

When you’re dating online, all sorts of people will come and go in your life. You will meet all kinds of faces and personalities. Some would be normal while others would be crazy. Some would be boring while others would be downright crazy. Anyway, you have to be open to all sorts of experiences. It is only when you do that you can truly enjoy everything the online dating scene has to offer.

Stop Thinking That Everyone Is Racist

If a white person shows interest in you, why not? It’s 2019 so we all better stop worrying about racial differences and color. The world has become more accepting and beauty is now recognized in all its forms and hues so you don’t have to worry about stuff like that anymore. In fact, the more you insist that people are still like that, the more you’re driving away chances of falling in love with the right person. Love works in mysterious ways. Don’t forget that. You can check out these 10 Best Black Dating Sites to start your online love adventure.

Be Yourself

Yes, be your fun-loving crazy self or weird and enigmatic self – or both if you’re feeling like it! Pretending to be someone you’re not online will not only suffocate you; it will also drive genuine people away. People who are looking for something real can sense it when someone is being half-baked or untrue in the relationship. Just be yourself and the right person will come find you.

Staff Writer; Peter Jackson


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