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The Top Ten Reasons Men Have Stopped Attending Church.

March 31, 2019 by  
Filed under Christian Talk, News, Opinion, Weekly Columns

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( In April of 2018, I wrote an article for this publication entitled, Adam, Where Are You: Why Black Men Have Quit the Church. That article pointed to four major rationales for why brothers have stopped attending church weekly, including too much judgment in today’s churches, the rise of personal spirituality, the church offer no impactful ministries for black men and other religious entities have offered more resonance (including Islam).

Today, I’d like to expand on the list of reasons as to the decline of weekly church attendance among our men.

It’s an important topic because for so long the black church was the epicenter of religious and communal life and was also the linchpin for activism for peace and justice. With the collapse of our male worshippers, we have witnessed corresponding erosion in our families and communities, in particular the presence of qualified role models for our young black boys.

Make no mistake: the invisibility of the black male in our religious and communal life as African Americans has had catastrophic effects in other parts of our community.

It is not the intent of this brief article to exhaustively treat each of the ensuing rationales for why black men don’t go to church, but rather to spur dialogue and, hopefully, act to reverse the trend.

Overall, church attendance has been on a steady decline for the past twenty-five years across most denominational lines, but is a quite succinct phenomenon in the black Protestant tradition, mostly among Baptists and Methodists.

With the male population, though, it’s a huge issue. Recent studies, for example, point to the sobering reality that, although more than 90 percent of American men believe in God, and five out of six identify as “Christian”, just 35 percent of the men in the United States say they attend church weekly. A Pew Research survey shows that black men are more likely to be religiously “unaffiliated” than women (22% vs. 14%).

So why have our men stopped attending church? Who’s to blame? The men themselves or church leadership? It is likely a combination of both.

Before we answer that question, though, let’s put it out there. For every individual male who made the conscious decision to stop going to church, that decision was not made in a vacuum. It came as a result of a confluence of events and experiences, including but not limited to, upbringing, socialization, consciousness, personal circumstances, demographic changes, personal growth, the economy, spiritual maturity etc.

Very few men, if any, just randomly woke up one morning and said, “Gee, I’m gonna stop going to church.”

Obviously, more germane reasons – such as working on Sunday – contribute to the decline of male attendance at weekly worship.

Although not absolute, here are the top ten (among many) rationales (reasons) black men have stopped attending church weekly:

One: men tend to indulge in stereotypical arguments regarding the pastor which leads to disenchantment; things such as how much money the preacher is making, driving expensive cars, sleeping with female parishioners etc.

Two: men tend to believe the Holy Bible to be the “white man’s” book.

Three: men tend to believe Christianity to be the “white man’s” religion.

Four: men have become more pluralistic in their world perspective and see less need for “religion”.

Five: men may have had run-ins or disagreements with the pastor or lay leader over church doctrine.

Six: men believe the church has become too secular (type of music, presence of atm’s etc.)

Seven: men have trouble submitting to male authority and have a problem with women as leaders or pastors.

Eight: men have become turned off by traditionalism (the “ole one hundreds”).

Nine: social media and online churches offer alternatives to traditional worship and liturgy.

Ten: the rise of non-denominationalism offers alternatives for contemporary and doctrine worship.

There may be other reasons that were not listed above, but the bottom line is this: we must act now to reverse the trend of our brothers quitting the church or our communities will continue to extract a heavy penalty.

Staff Writer; W. Eric Croomes

This talented brother is a holistic lifestyle exercise expert and founder and executive coach of Infinite Strategies LLC, a multi-level coaching firm that develops and executes strategies for fitness training, youth achievement and lifestyle management. Eric is an author, fitness professional, holistic life coach and motivational speaker.

In October 2015, Eric released Life’s A Gym: Seven Fitness Principles to Get the Best of Both, which shows readers how to use exercise to attract a feeling of wellness, success and freedom (Infinite Strategies Coaching LLC, 2015) –


3 Responses to “The Top Ten Reasons Men Have Stopped Attending Church.”
  1. Trevo Craw says:

    What about good, strong and godly men who refuse to submit to women pastors? Timothy made this quite clear when he said a woman should not teach nor usurp authority over a man. 1 Timothy 2:12

  2. Trevo Craw says:

    What abut those of us who have discovered false teachers, pulpit pimps and false doctrines flowing from the pulpit that seek to manipulate and control the men and often the women?

  3. Common Sense says:

    Why Indigenous man is leaving the 501C3 church….4 the same reason Economics Impowerment wasn’t 1 of the 10 reasons for us to turn our backs on this Castrating Institution…501C3 Puppet…..

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