(ThyBlackMan.com) One way of changing your life is to move to a new city. It will separate you from people and circumstances holding you back in your current location and provide you with a world of new opportunities.
Still, it’s much harder than merely moving across town. You’ll need to find a new job and a great place to live in a nice area. You’ll also need to make new friends and engage in new activities. In short, things can get complicated quickly.
Here are a few tips on making all these things a bit easier:
Making a Smooth Transition
First, make sure that you have more than enough money to make the move. This may require you to save up for some time in advance. Without enough money, you’re going to experience a lot of unnecessary hardships.
Next, focus on security: find a job and a place to live. Do an online search for jobs and the best places to live in the new city. If possible, go to the new city to talk to your new employer and to review the apartment, condominium, or house you’re thinking of renting or buying.
Finally, after you’ve found a job to sustain you and a good place to live, you have to actually get you and your stuff there. That’s where North American moving companies and other providers can 
help. Many offer a suite of services to make the move easier and less stressful. These services may include full-service packing, loading and unloading, storage, and installation of appliances and assembly of furniture. While there is much to be said for a DIY approach, it usually doesn’t work too well when you’re moving long distances. There is simply too much you need to figure out and too many things to do. As a result, you might make a lot of bad decisions and your anxiety and costs will spiral out of control.
Settling Down
For some people making new friends is easy, for others, it feels uncomfortable.
If you’re somewhat introverted, making new friends can be the hardest part to moving to a new place. You suddenly find yourself in a position where you need to get good at making new friends quickly.
With that in mind, here are two tips to help build a community of like-minded people around you:
Tip #1: Change your attitude.
If you have no friends or only have a few close friends, then you have to change your mind about what it means to create a positive social interaction.
Some people are introverted because they are highly-intelligent or exceptionally creative and other people find it difficult to keep up with their line of thinking. Others are introverted because they have an irrational fear of rejection.
The first step to changing your attitude about human relationships is not to try to change your personality. The goal is not to do the impossible: switch from an introvert to an extrovert. Nor is it to dumb down and play the fool to fit in better or to completely lose all traces of excessive self-consciousness overnight.
Changing your attitude is simply about changing your approach by using your natural listening ability. An introvert is someone who pays attention long enough to absorb information well through reading, watching, or listening.
Listening is a great way to build instant rapport. Few people listen well; instead, most people are simply waiting their turn to speak. Listening, then, is a rare and beautiful skill. This, of course, doesn’t mean that you rarely speak at all, but that you say just enough to keep the conversation going.
Tip# 2. Learn how to network.
Once you start meeting people, you need to learn how to build long-lasting relationships.
The way to meet people is by joining groups by attending events or joining a Meetup group. Events are often based around industry-related themes, but not necessarily; and meetups can be about anything, from learning languages to an interest in a particular sport.
When you meet a number of people over a short period of time, it’s difficult to keep track of information about them, so it’s good to keep an address book or some other type of organizational system.
Revisit Your Past
A change of environment and circumstances will give you a fresh perspective. This is an excellent time to mentally revisit many recurring problems that have been holding you back in life and find new solutions. For instance, if you have problems with relationships now is your chance to figure out what hasn’t been working out for you and what you can do to get a fresh start.
Staff Writer; Greg James
