(ThyBlackMan.com) As a writer I’m fascinated by the concept of Body Language as a matter of fact after careful research; it has prompted me to write a new eBook with the same title. Body language is an important tool in our day to day lives. Recognizing other people’s’ body language and being able to perfect your own can help in many ways, from your love life to your career. For the purpose of this article we will confine it to these 2 areas. Body language is a form of nonverbal communication that is completely involuntary, but that doesn’t mean it’s not manageable. Body language is how you sit, what your hands are doing, what your eyes are saying. It’s extremely important to know how to project good body language for a multitude of reasons.
At a job interview, body language can be an immediate deal breaker. If you go into a job interview, kick your feet up on the desk and lean back in your chair, guess what? You’re not going to get the job. You don’t need to say anything, it’s simply how you act that can tell a prospective boss all he needs to know. ‘This person is unprofessional and careless’. Though you may think inwardly this display of confidence is admirable, it’s unprofessional and undesirable in an employee. That’s not to say confidence isn’t attractive, it’s one of the most important types of body language a person can display. Keeping your back straight and your chin up show that you are confident and dynamic, someone who can take charge, be assertive and do their work well.
However, some people naturally have an unconfident way of standing and/or sitting. Legs crossed, arms crossed, head down. You’re trying to make yourself as small as possible because you don’t want to be scrutinized. However, studies have shown that ‘posing’ (also referred to as the Superman stance), is an ideal form of body language to use before a job interview, as it can help with confidence. If you’re going in for an interview and feeling nervous research has shown that posing, standing dynamically in an 
empowering way, for a few minutes before you go in can make you feel more confident during the interview. It makes you feel like a superhero (ta dahhh), like you can take on the world. Now, you shouldn’t do this during the interview, you may come across as being downright foolish. But just five minutes in the bathroom can fill you with confidence. And confidence in an interview is vital.
If you’re trying to attract people of the opposite gender, body language can be a great way of not only making yourself more appealing but allows an opportunity for one to see by interpretation, what they think of you. For example, if you’re talking to a lady and she has her arms crossed and is avoiding eye contact, you can best assume that she’s not really “feeling” you. Crossed arms is generally a sign of hostility or insecurity, and avoiding eye contact is a sign of her being uncomfortable. On the other hand, things like head tilts and crossed legs denote comfort and calmness. It’s easy enough to read when a lady isn’t interested based on how she moves. She will usually freeze and try to move as little as possible if she isn’t interested; conversely, if she has her arms swinging by her side when walking, or balances her shoe on her big toe when sitting (shoe dangling), accordingly, she is moving in a carefree manner; she’s more than likely comfortable around you at this point.
You can appear more attractive to others by altering your body language. It’s essentially the same principle as preparation for the job interview. Confidence perceived is eye-catching! Things like not fidgeting and steering clear of looking down are more attractive than the alternative. When you’re twitching, pulling imaginary lint from your clothes and studying your shoes you look nervous! A confident posture is much more appealing. By projecting a natural and self-assured posture, you are more likely to be seen as desirable. Maintaining a confident stance can also make you appear a more confident person, even if you’re not one naturally. The phrase commonly associated with this principle is ‘fake it till you make it’. If you act confident sooner or later you’ll realize you actually ARE confident. The closing lyrics to a song this writer has written to coincide with the soon to be released eBook: Body Language: It’s All About You! Speaks volumes:
“So keep on moving in the right direction mindful of that thought! Body Language is telling off on you; whether you want it to or not!”
Staff Writer; Stanley G. Buford
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