(ThyBlackMan.com) I remember speaking with a 14 year old over the summer, and asking her what type of career path did she want to take, and her response was that she wanted to have children, so she could collect child support like her mother does. I also saw a YouTube video where a young Sister was pregnant and rubbing her stomach, singing about how she was going to get her child support.
I am wondering…… when did the wombs of our daughters become expendable? I am guessing around the same time OUR wombs did. What are we teaching our daughters? That it’s ok to hustle our wombs for “child support”? Apparently so. It seems like being a baby mama is the newest occupation, with “child support” as the “benefit package.” Before I continue, 
let me go ahead and insert my disclaimer. **This is specifically geared to women, who use their wombs to manipulate men SOLEY for purpose of collecting a child support check.”
There are young Sisters out there, refuting the thought of marriage, because their thinking is, “If I get married, then I won’t be able to collect child support”. Do we see the type of warped thinking that we are passing on to our daughters? Let’s compare marriage and child support. With marriage (if the two people entering in to marriage have a proper understanding of what marriage REALLY entails) there is security, there is commitment, and the child receives emotional support, financial support, spiritual guidance, security and stability, and example of a productive relationship by having BOTH parents there. If you receive child support, all you are receiving is a check, and while I understand that financially taking care of our children is important, it is NOT the only factor.
These reality shows give a green light to this type of thinking. Getting a baller is the key to stability. Not a husband, but a baller! So you have women that literally seek out a “million dollar baby” to carry in their wombs. Again the idea of marriage never even crosses our mind. We use our wombs as insurance plans, making children not of love, but out of lust, greed and what we think will give us stability. While we think we are “hustling men“, it is the children that get hustled. We treat our wombs as if they are tax deductible and children are a business plan. They are hustled, used and abused, because in their conception giving birth to a God wasn’t on the mind of the women, instead they’re giving birth to paycheck.
We also know there are some women who use their child support as a form of revenge when the relationship doesn’t work out. It’s unfair to use your children as pawns because you failed to protect the Queen! This type of bitterness will only come back to hurt and haunt you in the end.
There are PLENTY of Brothers that are currently handcuffed by the system known as child support. I don’t’ know why we would seek justice in a system that is designed to destroy families; ESPECIALLY the Black Family. Now to my brothers, let me speak to you for a minute, let’s let go of the “she trapped me” rhetoric. How did she “trap” you? Were you forced to have sex with her? No you WANTED to, and you did not protect yourself. You have to stop being swayed by big breasts, big thighs and a big behind. If you don’t want someone to tell you when you can see your child, how much it will cost to see your child, and the threat of jail if you miss a payment, then be mindful of whom you lay with. BOTH of us need to start exercising more discipline about whom we give ourselves to.
Staff Writer; Nojma Muhammad
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