(ThyBlackMan.com) One of the greatest joys in life is finding someone to spend your days with. Women are not the only ones who desire this kind of connection. Many men want to build and grow a life and legacy with a special someone. While the want to find companionship is pretty much universal, the “rules” for men and women in relationships can be a little different.
That is mainly due to the fact that men and women are as different as night and day and have all kinds of opinions on various aspects of romance and relationships. Nonetheless, when it comes down to it, if you’ve taken that step to commit to one person, the ultimate goal is to make it work.
So men, here are some rules to follow and remember to help make
You’re Not a Mind Reader, So You Should Ask What’s Wrong
In those moments when your wife or girlfriend has an issue, the best thing to do is NOT ignore it. Especially in those times when you are the cause of her consternation, you need to find out what’s wrong. Women know that you aren’t a mind reader, but we do expect you to want to know why we feel the way we do about a situation. Put in a little more effort.
You’re a Problem Solver, But It’s Nice to Show Sympathy
Men are strong and powerful and get things done, and sometimes that take-charge characteristic can kick in when your woman comes to you with a problem. Yes, she wants you to listen and even offer some advice, but it’s also good to show some sympathy in your responses. It goes a long way.
She’s There to Help You So It’s Okay to Talk to Her
Some men don’t like to talk about their feelings. While the reasons vary, talking about your problems to your significant other (SO) can be a great help to you and boost your relationship’s morale. I’m not talking about being mushy (that’s perfectly fine if that’s what you want to do). I mean sharing something that is really bothering you so that you can get through it together. Too often what men deal with, unbeknownst to their women, can negatively show up in other ways that can end up hurting the relationship.
Physical Affection is But One Way to Show Love
Naturally, men love the physical aspects of relationships. That’s not to say that women do not because we most certainly do. However, our view of sex, touching, feeling and other physical interactions are rooted in meaning. This is an aspect of relationships that men need to understand and embrace more. Having sex is a beautiful way to connect with your SO but it is not the end of the story. Learn what makes your woman happy, appreciative and loving and do those things. It can be taking out the trash, washing the car or fixing a much-needed repair around the house. Women see those things and we love you all the more for taking care of them.
For long lasting relationships, it takes purposed effort. These are just a few tips to help you along your way to relational success.
Staff Writer; Rasheda Abdullah