(ThyBlackMan.com) Father’s function differently than mothers in most spaces. This is a wonderful thing because it brings balance to the child. There is a lot of focus put on the maternal instincts of a mother; because of this, mothers are made to be the authority on parenting. Often times a strong message is sent, if things are not done moms way it’s wrong. Some fathers are treated like less than a parent. We see shirts and such that poke fun at a father not knowing what to do with a baby. There are movies that depict dads as incompetent when a child is born…like they can’t even change a diaper. Far too often mothers forget the father isn’t just a relative…he’s the other half of what it took to create that wonderful little person. Father’s are different. They do things their way, and its often amazing. It is quite okay for a father to be a parent within their own right, and there are times when mom needs to fall back. She should give the respect as a parent that she demands.
Dad you didn’t carry your child your nine months, nor go through labor to get that baby into the world. However, you are a capable parent. You have instincts that serve you will in parenting, and as you bond with your baby you will find that you are just as awesome as mom. You see the strength and ability in the child rather quickly. You are nurturing, and gently…you are also playful. Dad you are adventurous, and your baby loves you for it. One of the most amazing moments is when baby falls asleep on dad’s chest.
That child is safe, and comfortable in the arms of the dad that loves them. As your child grows you tend to find out what they can do sometimes before mom. As mothers we often times cuddle just a bit longer, and the child tends to use it to their advantage. But you, dad, are not afraid to let them show you they can hold the bottle, or stand, or put themselves on the potty. You help develop their independence in a way that is truly dad logic, and it works. Dad you come up with amazing ideas on how to get things done in ways mom would have never thought. Foster these skills and have faith in your ability to parent.
It is important to let mom know you got it dad. It’s okay to express that you do things differently, and you should be treated with the parental respect you give. If mom understands you intend to parent, she will may also realize she doesn’t have to do everything by herself. She can find the rest she needs because dad can help her carry the responsibilities of parenthood.
Dads need the room to be themselves and develop their style of parenting…this is unique and something mom should not seek to control. Children benefit from the areas that parents are alike, and just as much from the areas whereby they differ. Fathers are not mothers, and that makes them special…it’s okay for them to be themselves.
Staff Writer; Christian Starr
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