(ThyBlackMan.com) No matter how old you are, grief can strike in unexpected ways and come from unexpected sources. This problem is no different for your teenager. In fact, the problem can even be worse for them, as your teenager is old enough to be exposed to a variety of grief-causing situations, yet their minds are still developing and learning how to cope with it all.
Therefore, it is essential to be aware of your teen’s emotions so you can assist them when they’re dealing with grief, whether it be from the death of a loved one, the trauma of a break-up, or something else more deep-rooted. Here are a few ways to help your teen through their time of grieving.
Have Some Fun
A great way to help your teen, especially if their grief has few, if any, long-term implications, is to allow them an opportunity to have some 
fun. Organize a day trip to their favorite destination, or go all-in and schedule a weekend away. Or, if going out of town isn’t feasible, treat them to some local fun, whether at a mall, a day at the go-kart track or spa, or even simply making popcorn and watching their favorite movie at home.
The key is to help them remember that life exists outside of the circumstance that caused them grief. During grief, it can seem as if life will never go back to normal and could never be as good as or better than it was before the circumstance occurred. Through simple gestures of fun and relaxation, you provide hope that they can build on, moving forward.
Consider All Possibilities
If grief seems to linger in your teen’s life, no matter the original cause, it is essential to consider that outside assistance may be required. Finding mental health help for teens and young adults can seem overwhelming at times, especially if substance abuse is involved, but if it is truly needed, it is one of the most loving and caring things you can do for your teen.
Lingering grief can lead to depression that could ultimately have catastrophic consequences if left untreated. Throughout this process, it is vital to show your teen unconditional love, reminding them that they are not “broken” simply because they need some assistance. Of course, it is essential to consult with your teen throughout the process to ensure they have a voice in any treatment options which may be necessary.
Share Stories
One of the most debilitating side effects of grief is feeling isolated and alone. Especially for a teen, who may be experiencing some form of bullying in addition to the grief-causing event, it can seem to be a case of “me against the world.” This belief can have many negative consequences, including the onset of depression.
Of course, one of the best people to speak truth into your teen’s life is you. Every chance you get, try to share stories from your own life that apply to your teen’s situation. Show your teen that others have faced similar problems before and have come out okay on the other side. Most of all, continue to remind them how much you love them and care for them, no matter what.
Help for the Helper
Loving a grieving teen can be difficult, at times. Seeing someone you love so dearly suffer so deeply can leave you with grief, as well. That’s why it’s crucial that you continue to take care of yourself throughout the healing process. Otherwise, you risk experiencing burn-out, which will make you less effective in helping your teen. With your tank full, though, you can come alongside your teen and help them through their difficult situation.
Staff Writer; Mark Wall
