(ThyBlackMan.com) January is history and a lot of people have already begun to feel the burnout associated with keeping their New Year’s goals. Whether it’s for health, wealth or love, it doesn’t take long for “dream burnout” to happen. It all depends on how committed you are and who your circle of friends are.
Commitment and your closest friends; those two variables alone determine a lot of our success. Many a dream has died due to one or the other.
What we must also consider is that long-term success is much better than short-term desire.
We must hang in there; dig in our heels and tough it out. Consider
these three mental hacks for preventing your dreams from fading into oblivion.
The dream is free but the hustle is sold separately!
We Are Conditioned More to Fail than to Succeed
This conditioning comes from numerous sources: friends, family, co-workers and even social media. The message we get from these sources is predominated by ‘now is not the right time’, ‘you don’t have the skill-sets’ or ‘you need more capitalization’. The truth is there is no better time than now; you can learn the skills you need; and if you wait until you get more money you’ll be waiting for a long time.
‘Failure messaging’ is a rampant disease among our so-called inner-circle; if it doesn’t come in words, it does come in non-verbal language, as well. If we are not careful, scoffers can deride our dreams to the point they become irrelevant.
Be careful about the company you keep; birds of a feather do indeed stick together.
We Focus Too Much on the ‘How’
Closely related to the first mental hack is our tendency to focus on the ‘how’ of our dreams, as opposed to the ‘what’ and the ‘why’. What and why are very powerful motivation influencers; they propel us upward and onward and virtually secure our greatness and our dreams. Rarely is the how apparent at the beginning of the dream.
It pains me when interviewing a person who’s been asked what was the biggest reason they had not launched their dreams and to hear the cacophony of reasons why their dreams remain grounded.
What really motivates you? Word of caution: while it’s a good thing to be motivated by your children or the need to want to provide for them, that’s not enough. Be inspired because you have greatness in you and that greatness must be shared with the world. That’s a greater principle your children will benefit from in the future. It’s all about legacy, about unfolding to the degree that your ‘how’ comes in and of itself.
We Expect Instant Results
The third mental hack for pushing the restart button on our dreams is tied to the reason why most people discover their dreams go up in flames by the end of the first month. We expect unrealistic and instant results. In short, we have starting power but we lack staying power.
This is an instant society we live in; everybody wants something without waiting, without paying a price. It’s trickled down to our dreams.
The best dreams come at the end of perseverance, struggle and long-suffering. If your last name isn’t Kennedy or Rockefeller, you probably weren’t born with a silver spoon in your mouth, and you likely have to work to make your dreams come true.
If we are going to be successful with our dreams, we must dig in for the long-term and understand that success is not built overnight.
The dream is free but the hustle is sold separately!
Staff Writer; W. Eric Croomes
This talented brother is a holistic lifestyle exercise expert and founder and executive coach of Infinite Strategies LLC, a multi-level coaching firm that develops and executes strategies for fitness training, youth achievement and lifestyle management. Eric is an author, fitness professional, holistic life coach and motivational speaker.
In October 2015, Eric released Life’s A Gym: Seven Fitness Principles to Get the Best of Both, which shows readers how to use exercise to attract a feeling of wellness, success and freedom (Infinite Strategies Coaching LLC, 2015) – http://www.infinitestrategiescoaching.com.