(ThyBlackMan.com) In many urban areas across the country, particularly here in The South, urban kids are more likely to be harmed by in many cases their mother’s boyfriends than cops, teachers, or even vigilantes.
What’s even more disturbing to me is that the vast majority of urban parents in this country support corporal punishment to “better their kids” when in fact, it often does the opposite and I have seen this up close.
Lawrence Phillips was a talented, but very controversial football player in the mid 90s that won two national titles for a major college football program in Nebraska, but his performance on the field were greatly overshadowed by his off the field issues.
Like many urban kids, Lawrence Phillips’s childhood was a dark and chaotic one in which he was not only abandoned by his mother, but 
was often the victim of verbal and physical abuse at the hands of his mother’s boyfriend and these traumatic experiences from his childhood created emotional and psychological trauma that negatively affected him for the rest of his life.
After the second game of his junior season, Phillips was arrested for assaulting his ex-girlfriend, a Becky by the way and that notorious incident made national headlines on ESPN and the incident was one of many in which Phillips physically assaulted Becky.
It’s no secret that mainstream America is not very sympathetic to brothers who make mistakes, especially harming Becky because in their eyes, “He’s guilty until proven innocent.”
I remember thinking that if this brother had his father in the home that could give him advice and mentorship as well as teaching him the importance of being a strong man, than his life would’ve turned out for the better.
I remember back when I was a kid back in the 1990s, my grandma would sometimes whip me with a belt, switch, extension cord, and shoe if I acted up at home or at school, talked back, said a bad word, or didn’t do as I was told. I did not enjoy getting those whippings back in the day because they had played a role in why I was such a terrible student in school until my fourth grade school year.
Throughout my childhood years in the 1990s, I used to often have nightmares of the whippings and the emotional and psychological trauma that came along with them, but I don’t have none of those things nowadays.
Corporal punishment is a huge issue in our community that tends to be thrown under the rug by “conscious” folks in particular because they don’t want to talk about the emotional and psychological trauma that comes from it. It’s deeply embedded in Christianity and Western Culture that was forced on to our people in America during Jim Crow and slavery.
Here in The South where I live, urban kids get whipped all the time and urban parents do often go to jail for physically abusing their kids and I’ve seen plenty of real stories of those cases.
When an urban kid is subjected to not only verbal, but particularly physical abuse in many cases at the hands of their mother’s boyfriends because not only their father is not in the home mostly because of being systematically removed from the home via mass incarceration.
Also, an urban kid that is vulnerable to verbal and physical abuse is left with severe emotional and psychological scars that are too deep to heal for many of them.
Many “conscious” folks on social media and YouTube claim that mainstream media is the sole reason why some young urban boys are gay, but are too blindly ignorant to even acknowledge that the reason why some young urban boys are gay is because they were verbally and physically abused by their mother’s boyfriends.
The Conclusion – To prepare our kids to be strong and competitive in The Game Of Life without physically harming them, it’s time for all of us to put down those belts, switches, shoes, and extension cords in front of our kids and read Dr. Stacey Patton’s new book “Spare The Kids“.
Staff Writer; Kwame Shakir (aka Joe D.)
