(ThyBlackMan.com) Let me begin by saying I am a black woman, a daughter, sister, wife, mother and friend. Last I reached out to this sister she thought I was a brother. I want to be sure it is understood this is not the perspective of a man, but indeed that of a woman. I applaud brutal honesty, and believe everyone should stay in their lanes. However, when I wrote the first piece I considered myself reaching out to a sister…one honest sister to another. I pretty much felt at that time, February 2015, maybe you were seeking, learning and challenging the status quo. I appreciated your creativity, and agreed with you regarding subjects such as your views on T.I., and cultural appropriation. However, I was a bit concerned that delivery would take away from the points you were making. When will we learn that it’s not always what we say, but the manner and method by which we say it. Our words and art can affect the course of another human beings life…or it can be wreckless.
Sistah, at this time you are indeed wreckless. It’s not a judgement, but currently a fact. I can only hope that as you get older you become wiser whereby this passes from you completely. There seems to be quite a bit of anger, and self-rejection on the table. I could be wrong, and hope I am. You have used Twitter, Instagram and periscope to rant and showcase a level of hypocrisy that could be considered the “anti-thesis of feminism”. It’s as if you sit on high casting verbal judgement and chastisement on others, celebrity and not, for their use of language and art, for not knowing their place and partaking in behaviors that you yourself engage in. This is not about having an opinion, but offensively ranting while thinking you are keeping it real or schooling someone. Your position on some matters is brutally honest and on point, but it gets tossed out the window with every b*itch and c*unt you use.
Example, It’s not your opinion on Beyonce’s Lemonade that raises my eyebrow, but who are you to call it the “anti-thesis of f
eminism” behaving as you do. I just can’t understand why you’d down other artists, several of whom are black women, for breast implants and butt injections then go get implants yourself. How can you be about feminism and women’s issues but tell a dark sistah on Instagram “She a dumb field n*igger. She needs to shut up and keep picking my cotton before I giver her 80 lashes.” Azealia you speak like you are so pro black, and pro indigenous belief systems…if that’s really your energy Sistah this is foul. To add to the insults you suggested she bleach her skin…that’s a combination for self hate. You know what it means to be a dark skin sistah in the US, and in the world. How could you speak to another black woman with language that reeks of a slave master? Think about that if you will? You can’t creditably call anything by Beyonce an “antithesis” regarding feminism when your words publicly towards other women embody such.
For a moment I thought that I would just try to send positive energy your way in silence until I saw the fall out on Twitter between you and 14 year old Skai Jackson. So Azealia let me begin by saying I TOTALLY AGREE that a child ought to stay in a child’s place. I personally don’t believe, regardless of fame, that minors have any business engaging in social media. I do not think it is healthy, overall all, to have children in a space by which they can mingle with, confront or be attacked by adults. With that being said you BLACK WOMAN are the adult in this situation, and just as she was not in her lane NEITHER WERE YOU. Basically you fought with a CHILD, and were outclassed by a CHILD. This in its very nature is a problem. Grant it she merely responded, in a non-disrespectful comment, about a rant you were having that was horribly offensive in nature. Even with that being said…no she should not have been present, but what did you teach that young black girl…you showed her the face of immaturity and self-hate in an adult.
You showed her everything she ought not become, and if you are as conscious and involved in indigenous belief practice (not merely witchcraft) then your behavior my Sistah is indeed out of order. Again, her presence was wrong, and your response was shameful. Black women, especially those that are mothers, should be looking at you asking one question…WHY. There is no excuse nor justification for you calling her a c*unt and b*tch…for you suggesting she get some hips and a chest…to assume she will be a drug addict by 21 due to her affiliation with Disney. Sistah, you can’t talk feminism, Orishas, goddess, pro black consciousness…NONE OF THAT and handle a 14yr old in that manner. From first glance one would have thought she paid you the HIGHEST disrespect…but she did not. Even after issuing a public apology, mostly aimed at Zayn Malik, about your Twitter rants you still referred to this young girl as a c*nt. So, no apologies for the little black girl…just the male offended. Yes, your credibility is SHOT regarding feminism, anything regarding women’s issues or race right about now.
I realize we live in a society now whereby we can’t say anything to anyone without them being offended. Believe it or not…I do care what happens to you because I am a black woman. I believe strongly in Womanism, and Humanity. I believe that we, as Sistahs, must love, encourage, support and even levy criticism to each other. It is not okay for us to sit back and say in our minds…Azealia Banks was foul for that…a Sistah that cares will risk your anger to say Sistah you are behaving wrecklessly and it is NOT okay.
There are some that will say she doesn’t define me I’m my own woman, and that’s cool. However, that is only true in part because it will not be said that this woman is angry and doing the fool; the enforced stereotype is Black WOMEN are angry. We can’t say on certain topics we are about empowerment and movement…but leave this unchecked. We can’t get angry when Black men disrespect black girls saying we feel our daughters are not deemed as important as our sons, but remain silent when a black woman disrespects a black girl. We must speak up not in the spirit of shaming each other, but in that of holding one another accountable so that we may be stronger.
None of this is okay…Azealia when you are tired of hurting, ranting and being angry…whether you believe it or not…there is a whole community of black women waiting to walk with you. It means just as we will say we love you Sistah… we will also say you are being wreckless when it applies. We will say such because we don’t want to see you shamed. That’s care, love…community.
Staff Writer; Christian Starr
May connect with this sister over at Facebook; https://www.facebook.com/christian.pierre.9809 and also Twitter; http://twitter.com/MrzZeta.
