(ThyBlackMan.com) I was a bit taken back by this article. In my pondering over the points of the psychological diagnosis spewed by this brother, it resonated with me, that the seemingly endless depth of sickness we suffer, as a people, infects the root at an even deeper layer. It infects our community at the core, and it affects our daily lives in regards to our relationships to one another, and the effects of this rotting root controls what we choose not to see around us presently, but moreover, our refusal to acknowledge our role as silent contributors in the cycle of generational genocide.
As one of history’s greatest writers, James Baldwin, would describe the role of a writer worth their weight; is their contributing their gift to our world via The Arts. He compared the writer to the painter: The painter has the responsibility of creating a painting, one brush stroke at a time, until the blank canvas reveals the image the painter imagined in his mind. But, as a writer, we have the responsibility of penning words, syllable-by-syllable, to blank pages, until we have created a story which, hopefully, makes a point, or causes a thought, or, most importantly, moves the audience. As writers, our words are gifts to society.
Now with this great gift, and the responsibility of carrying this gift, we must pause from time to time and ask ourselves, what message are we relaying to our people through our penning?
I authored the article, “Sisters, Stand Up” on this site. For those who read it, hopefully, you understood my point to be, as sisters, we need to stand up for our brothers, try to understand their struggles, become their helpmates, and to tame our tongues against negativity towards our brothers. It’s a part of our responsibility to our community, and we must heed in taking on this role for the sake of our children and our future.
I feel it’s necessary, especially, after reading the comments from the article, “Kenya Moore the Doppelbanger”, that I speak to the brothers about standing up for us. We struggle as Black women in this society of inequality and injustice. Some of us struggle psychologically trying to fit into this physical world where we are sometimes made to feel that how the Father created us is not good enough (especially, for some of our Black men who are successful). Yet, some of us struggle with balancing our career with family, all the while hoping the necessity of motherly nourishment of our children isn’t being affected, nor the required skills of maintaining a healthy, loving relationship with our mate isn’t being compromised. Then many of us struggle with carrying the weight of our Black males (whether son, husband, father, uncle, nephew) who have succumb to society’s pitfalls of drugs, imprisonment, etc.
Just as you, brothers, we struggle in this society where we are thought of as inferior due to our ebony hue, and also due to our gender. In the eyes of white supremacy racism we are labeled by society as loud-mouthed, gold-digging whores. Brothers, that’s a horrible image for your wife, daughter, sister, mother, aunt or niece to bear. We need you to stand up for us and proclaim to society that you, as Black men, as our bothers have our backs too.
The point I hope to bring about in this article is, it doesn’t matter if you are a painter, writer, entrepreneur, ball player, or mechanic, we all have a responsibility to our community as a people to uplift one another, and not tear one another down. If you observe a problem, ponder what you can do to remedy it, pray about it and move change it if you can. Other than that, if you don’t have anything encouraging to say that may uplift your brother or sister, then tame your tongue against the negativity, and don’t say anything at all. Let’s end the cycle of spewing the poison of the tongue against our own people.
Staff Writer; La Royce
One may read over more of this sister writings over at; http://laroyceblog2014.com.
Wow Pat Barrow.
You hit the nail on the head with a sledge hammer.
You actually echo my thoughts.
Email me to read copies of my articles.
brainstormonline@yahoo.com
That being said, it is not hopeless. We have to focus on solutions as much or more than we focus on the problems.
Marque Anthony
Family and Relationship Counselor
Life Coach
Mediator
As a family and relationship counselor, life coach and mediator, I must first suggest that we look at what perceptions of our people are largely correct. Certainly stereotypes do not describe all of us, but they describe far too many of us – both African American men and women.
Our people are still stuck in an identity crisis. Many of us think we are “black” when black is the color of our car tires, not our skin. We continue to be brainwashed and allow others to define us by skin color. The Mexicans, Indians, Africans and Asians do not tolerate that.
Our people have to want mental freedom. But instead, many of them will battle to stay hidden in the darkness of ignorance.
I would like to send you a copy of my article entitled Lifting Our People Up. I work a lot with deprogramming our people from the slavery mindset. To request the article, email be at brainstormonline@yahoo.com. I am also a writer on this website.
Marque Anthony
jdean,
From your comment it’s obvious you have not read, or somehow, have not comprehended what I’ve written from this article or my article, “Sisters, Stand Up”
Although, this article is about our relationships to one another as Black people, it is not about your personal preferences in choosing a woman as a mate. In fact it is about respecting us as Black women as a whole.
May I suggest you take a moment to reread. Then ask yourself if you respect any Black woman?
I pose the question because of your blatant disrespect for Black women you have shared by telling me to….”Shut UP”…
Peace and many Blessings
Black women . You got it way better than brothers. The employer hires you more and you are the number one in graduating college. Successful brothers are looking for you but if you are not sexy, wear weave and have a bad attitude we will for something better no matter the race so….Shut UP
The fact is Black people are in a Matrix, a system, a cage controlled by the powers that be at hand, Europeans.and they will continue to dominate your thinking, your moves, your education, you are bound by their limitations, and your children are already counted for. $500 Million dollars for example is the cost for the new prison in Calif. All for you. Did you know that 50% of the Black poplulation in the US is sitting in prison systems? while the remainder of us are killing each other, in poverty, no respect for each other, and the very one that hates you controls your child education because you love the white man so much you cannot trust yourselves to build your own schools. But let us say you actually built a school just for your Black children? There would be an Indian and Cat fight over who is in charge. Black people are a brain washed people going slowing down the drain. I do not care what your title is. When a Black man can be kicked in the head , shot down like an animal, kids catching bullets, beaten to death by these demons, and all you do is march, (while buying their products) you don’t support Black business but you will buy from the white man) That includes everyone here!
When you as a people whine and cry for JUSTICE THAT YOU WILL NEVER GET and refuse to be one people you will continue to be doomed. I think your mentally ill, no matter how natural you wear your hair.
THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS BLACK POWER, THAT IS ONLY A SONG. THE THING WE LIKE TO DO MOST, PERFORM. AND LOOK AT THE PERFORMANCE OF HOLLYWOOD BLACK TODAY.. YOU HAVE BECOME WHO THEY ARE, LEWD, INDIFFERENT AND LUSTING FOR MONEY. YES we have a few millionaires here and there, Sports figure earning millions of dollars, no charactor, low life, and spending it all on the beast that gave it to you.
Now, let me hear you say Oh but we all Gods children and we should all get along.
Do you hear Europeans saying such thing? Oh! Kerry Underwood, the TV whore. Gosh, so elegant, so cute, got the money, gucci shoes, walking the red carpet of hollywood, but she like so many others playing a scene with her legs wide open to a man who is not her husband and on top of it he is white! Kerry is a symbol of the mindset of many Black women. Lost and a whore for the European dollar by any means necessary. Now, you wanna hear positive or you wanna hear TRUTH?
Kenya Moore spoke truth and the truth shall set you and us free. There needs to be positive change made by both male and female counter parts. We need to have a real conversation instead of sweeping the problem under the rug.