5 Reasons Black Women Should Not Give Up On Black Men.

by Staff August 29, 2014 3 Comments News Opinion Relationships Weekly Columns

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(ThyBlackMan.com) As a black woman if I were to rely on the media’s portrayal of the black man I would be running in the other direction. Black men are said to be deadbeats, criminals, thugs and just no good. And of course all black men are dropping black women like flies.

So it would be understandable if I chose to abandon all black men right? Wrong! Let me give you five reasons I believe that black women should not give up on black men.

1. They Can Relate

Black men and black women have a commonality that mixed couples do not have. Not to pose anything against interracial couples, but black men and women have worries and concerns that only affect the black race. They can deeply understand one another’s fears and apprehensions that only the black race experiences.

2. Our Sons and Daughters Need You

Our daughters need their fathers to love them better than any man ever could. When fathers are there for their daughters they face a lesser chance of looking for men to replace that love they may lack from a father being absent or not active as they should be.

Being the mother of a black male I need his father in his life to show him what it means to be a man. I know I have made some women upset and maybe even some men and I apologize. Yes I can raise him to be a gentleman and even a good man. But being a woman there are pressures I will never experience simply because I am not a black man living in here in America. Therefore I need you to help me to raise our son as only a black man can.

3. I Love Black Men and They Love Me Back

The black men I know have never turned their back on me. Yes I know there are sisters out there that would not agree with me. I know there are some brothers that have tossed the sisters to the waste side, but I still love black men. I know that many, if not most of you can’t get enough of the sistas and I love you for that. And I know that black men are still loving, uplifting and marrying black women.

4. Black Men Are Fine

Black men are fine. No one can argue that fact. You know it, other women know it and black women definitely know it. Your sexiness, swag and confidence are irresistible. When you walk in a room you turn heads. You are strong, intelligent and powerful. You are leaders and wonderful fathers, regardless of what the media may say.

5. No One Is Perfect

I can’t turn my back on the black man. Turning my back is the same as me walking away from my son, daddy and brothers. Yes black men may have their problems. So do other people and that includes the black woman. But God is working on them just as he is working on everyone else. Some have stumbled and fallen. But when they stand back up I’ll be there waiting for them.

Staff Writer; Eleanie Campbell

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Martha says:
May 10, 2016 at 4:08 pm
You’ll probably scub this comment off your blog and I don’t really care because it’s for the writers eyes anyways. Let me tell you why your 5 reasons for staying with black men is so woefully lacking in reasoning and riddled with desperation and one sided loyalty. Reason number 1 is laughable only because it predicates that successful relationships are that way because of some common struggle. The fact is black men and black women have the highest divorce rates among the few that are married to each other. In terms of struggle, black men routinely minimize the hardships of black women because they tend to be the main perpetrators of their abuse and suffering and mortality. Funny how black men cry about racism against them under white supremacy. However when black women are victimized by white supremacy and black male patriarchy all I hear is crickets. So much for black soladarity.
Point 2. Our daughters need their black fathers. Well really now. You got the audacity to write this drivel in the face of 70 to 90 percent out of wedlock child birth rate among black single woman. You can’t be serious as we see the complete nail in the coffin of the black permanent underclass as a result of feral black males impregnanting black women with absolutely no thought to raising his offspring because he knows the white man will do it for him.
Point 3 You love black men and they love you too. It what alternate universe are you operating under because what I see is this. You as a black women may be around for the upstart but as soon as your black man gets a modicum of success your black ass will be out for a brighter and whiter model. Let’s not pretend there’s no colorism among the most successful and unsuccessful black man out there. Look at your entertainers movie stars Athelets politicians clergy and even those bum azz knee grows making YouTube videos about how black women ain’t shit. Well I have no doubt you may love these black men but they don’t love you back.
4. Black men are fine….well I would say that’s a matter of taste. Personally I can find some fine ass men on a global scale especially when the appreciation for my dark melinated self is reciprocated. Speaking of reciprocity…where is it when it comes to black men. Where I’m sitting they seem to glorify every other race of women on the planet except black women especially dark skinned black women. It shows in their movies music videos lyrics to their songs and YouTube videos and the fact they tell us by who they marry and settle with. So while you’re elevating this black men keep in mind they wouldn’t spit on you if you were on fire. Furthermore, the black men who know better are standing up for you as a collective and defending your honor. So you can miss me with elevating black men who find me undesirable
Finally 5. The very thing you need to do is turn your back on these black men because for the most part they’ve turned their backs on you as a collective. We need to stop giving them our wombs time money support love etc. We need to stop birthing them and giving them our undying loyalty because it is literally killing us. We’ve created this monster by excusing his wretchedness and he will never respect us if we continue to plead and beg for his love. He’s betrayal runs long and deep and his inability to stand like other men who love and protect their women is enough reason to turn and walk away. No other race of men spit on the image of their mothers in the manner black men have done to the black women. He is cursed for doing so and that’s why his ass is catching hell now. We will stay cursed if we continue to excuse his pathetic behavior towards us.
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Jumbo says:
September 2, 2014 at 2:04 pm
Black women adoption of loony toon liberal feminist ideology has destroyed the black family. 70% out of wedlock births with uneducated swag thugs attests to this. Meanwhile, productive black men are off to seek greener pastures (with women of other ethnicities or simply opting out of the dating scene altogether). No one to blame but yourselves. The Truth HURTS.
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Dani says:
September 2, 2014 at 12:04 pm
I Love Most People inclulding Brown-Skinned American Men BUT RECENTLY I’VE FOUND that it’s not who I love – IT’S WHO LOVES ME!
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. 11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 12 For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
THIS ATTRACTS ME AND KEEPS ME NO MATTER WHO IT COMES FROM!
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