(ThyBlackMan.com) So everyone is talking about the situation that occurred between the Brother that was driving the bus and the Sister that was a passenger, and I wanted to give my thoughts on the matter. I posted the link on both of my Facebook pages and I must say, the amount of deflection that was exhibited by some of the women that commented was almost unbelievable.
When I watched the video, my initial thoughts were just how aggressive she was towards the Brother and I thought his reaction was just. This is what happens when you become the aggressor regardless if you are male or female. In my house I had to jam my oldest daughter up because she hit her brother and said you can’t hit me back because I am girl. I quickly corrected her and told her that doesn’t give you or any other female who thinks like that a pass. You place your hands on a man, be prepared for the possibility that he might place his hands on you.
This was one of the comments left on my personal Facebook page; “He’s a BYTCH! I guess men can hit girls/women — if warranted. “This type of response is typical for those that wallow in deflection. This wasn’t a random incident where he just walked up to the Sister and punched her, if it was then to lay blame on him would be valid. However this is a man REACTING to someone’s actions. So he’s a bytch for responding to the female that hit him? What does her actions make HER? As women we are so quick to cosign, enable and pass out “victim” cards for one another. That’s not the case with me; I keep a deck of “accountability cards” in my pocket. When you’re wrong, you’re wrong. Women wanted to talk about the effect (him hitting her) but not about the cause; her INITIAL violation of him.
Look at the language that was used. We are so quick to call Black Men out of their names, just totally disrespectful, but remain mute on the disrespectful Black Woman that was the catalyst of the situation. As women we are VERY hypocritical, we want the errors of men center stage with a bright spotlight,
So many Sisters wanted him to handle it differently, but all of this could have been avoided if SHE would have handled herself differently in the FIRST place.
It also comes down to trying to test a Brother’s manhood. Because of the emasculation and effeminization of the Black Man, Black Women have become more masculine in their thinking, which is reflected in their actions. Because we have been placed on this “make shift throne” we have convinced ourselves that we really do rule over men, causing us to treat and speak to them any type of way. So obviously she felt like she could “punk” him. What has she witnessed that made her think that was OK? Has she done something like this before and got away with it? Most destructive behavior is learned behavior. We live in a society where women play the victim and in some cases are enabled to pull these kinds of stunts.
I also noticed comments like “he didn’t have to do her like that” or that his actions weren’t “justified.” This is the thing, if you run up on me, you can’t dictate my reaction. You touch me and I have the right to kill you. She should be happy she’s still breathing. If that was my daughter I would beat her ass and make her go apologize. Don’t play those big girl games if you’re not ready for big girl consequences.
I will tell you just like I tell my son, anyone puts their hands on you, male or female, you have the right to body bag them. Many thought his reaction wasn’t “fair”. Again we want Black Men to just take our shyt right? Everyone has a breaking point, how much disrespect could you honestly tolerate before you retaliate? She should consider getting chin checked as mercy. This was a lesson that she had to learn the hard way.
His actions weren’t fair? Really? Why is it that we always deflect back to him or men in general? What about HER actions? Were they fair? Was she justified? If you slap me and a few days later you find yourself waking up in the hospital you can’t say that’s not fair I just slapped her. You will not violate me by putting your hands on me and think you can dictate my reaction to YOU putting your hands on ME. That’s not how it works.
This incident is a viral billboard to those women who become physically aggressive towards men, and try to use “you can’t hit me because I am a woman” shield. Like the Brother who was driving the bus said “”She want to be a man, I’m gonna treat you like a man.” Please don’t misconstrue or mistake my stance as consignment on domestic violence regarding women. The two are NOT related. For every action there is a consequence and in this case, the consequence was a smooth uppercut.
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This is why all guys think this is funny. Most guys will not hit a woman no matter what. We all want to hit a woman when she is running her damn mouth especially right in a man's face but we dont. So we enjoy seeing that. Its like he was hitting a woman for all of us. Not to mention the uppercut was vicious!!! HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!
@ Greg Brown
You said he would have never hit a white woman like that. Well guess what...a white woman wouldnt have been talking all that smack. Now, I think he should've done something back but that uppercut was a little overboard.
This woman hit and spit on him but HE's the punk? He's the "b". My God, this is ridiculous. Spitting on a person is one of the MOST disrespectful things you can do. The level of simps and deflection is sickening. I've never seen such an unwarranted defense of wrong in my life. I got an email saying that Black Men are cowards and won't protect our communities. It's not so much that Black Men are cowards as it is that they don't have the desire to protect a bunch of rebels! We talk all that talk about Brothers taking back our communities, but would probably look at them sideways, curse them out, when they do. It is amazing that people would use this incident, to stress how the Black Woman is not protected, when the Black Woman in the incident was the aggressor! Her actions and attitude didn't invoke a man's protection. What man wants to risk his life over a foolish woman? All that sounds good, as you write on the site, but be honest. If you see a woman disrespecting another man, what the hell would stop her from disrespecting YOU, if you stepped in?
This is a society that has effeminized the males to the extent that we would watch a female verbally and physically abuse a male, the same society that chastise a male for verbally and physically abuse a female...this present society will watch a female hit a male AND not do anything UNTIL HE hit her back....then those watch will all of a sudden beat HIM up physically and verbally. THAT is the sign of a punk. And any males that would ignore the hypocrisy in that is not only a punk, he is apussy and a bitch. There is a clear distinction between being a male and being a man. Further more all this shit about restraint is uttered by people who have never been in a fight before and I am not talking about pillow fight.
As for the females, who FOCUS on the end, but not the beginning...it is a lie, you CANNOT have your cake and eat it too. Not in the context to which reality says it is. All this shit about he is a man, he is stronger, bullshit, negates the fact that each of you will not be talking the same shit if you were at the receiving end of her attacks.....unless YOU are the punk. Another name for turning the other cheek.
If she would have hit him then it would have been somewhat justified. But I think he's a coward, if she would have been a he, and as big as him, the outcome would have been differently. He's a punk!
with all due respect sister i could not disagree with your position more. the level of force he used in retaliation/reaction to the 25 yr old woman's stimuli was extremely overly excessive. yes i am quick to call any man who hits a woman with a closed fist out of his name especially if he or his family is not in life or death danger because of the actions of a female. most importantly i'll call any man out of his name who after uppercutting a female with all his might starts pulling her hair after she got up and demanded more.
as men we are blessed with strength and a heavier bone dexterity than woman which makes hand to hand inter gender combat a naturally unfair endeavor.
this is why our parents and the rules of organized society frowns upon the activity. granted the woman was extremely excessive for spitting on another human being. she deserved to be removed from the bus with great immediacy, the cops called on her, prosecution to the fullest extent, a thorough and proper ass whupping from a female in the man's life and any form of open handed blow but the closed fist to the face of a woman is the embarrassment and great example of the failure of the village not the "ghetto" or "ratchet" appearance and behavior of the female victim.
First, Nojima, i respect the points you have brought up. i understand that the young female was totally wrong. i can understand his reactions. the bigger problem is that in today's culture the respect between black men and woman has deterioated. the word bitch, hoe, and goldigger etc. are used too the much by us when addressing our women. black women are no longer looked upon as african queens. a black man is looked upon as a sucker if he works while she stays home with the kids.black women are equally guilty. they want to talk disrespectful and put unobtainable economic demands upon a brother. i live in Harlem and have been in situations with women that could have ended much worse than the situation on the bus. it takes alot to show restraint and i can understand a man losing it after being spat on.that is why it is good for us to discuss these situations and maybe help to us have better respect for one another
Peace to all! To my Brothers Mack and Sankofa, it's always nice to "see" my Brothers
So I see folks have reached into their tool box and have pulled out their handy dandy deflection drill as usual. I am not going to play what if, I am going to play what DID. What DID happen is that a grown Black Woman, started disrespecting a grown Black Man. What DID happen is that a grown woman starting calling a grown Black Man out of his name FIRST. What did happen is that a grown Black Woman spit on a grown Black Man. I mean what else did you want the Brother to take? I mean you can "say" that you would be calm if you want to, but it is always easy to say what you would do in a situation you haven't been in. For all those who feel like Black Women should be protected, what did this woman do that warrants protection? What did she do that would have motivated the men on the bus to jump in and defend her? Not a damn thing! Why would any other man tried to defend her, when she is already disrespectful to the man that she is talking to? Protection is automatically given it is EARNED. Nothing about this Sister screamed "protect me".
So you say HIS response wasn't justified? Was SHE justified at all? No she wasn't. Like I stated in my article, you don't have the right to control someone REACTING to your INITIAL ACTIONS. To those that are trying to flip this to a "woman beater" situation you are really reaching. This is not a case where she was randomly attacked and she was pleading for her life and she was just getting beat down, this is a case where a woman made the conscious decision to be the aggressor, and the brother was JUST in his reaction. I mean did some of you even watch the video? But I forget about that deflection tunnel vision, that blocks out all that the woman does, apparently you just see the uppercut and nothing else.
This case is so clear,but only to those whose vision isn't distorted by deflection.
HE WOULD NEVER HAD DONE THAT TO A WHITE WOMAN. SECOND, UNLESS ITS LAILA ALI, A REAL MAN WOULD SUBDUE WITHOUT HAVING TO PUNCH HER LIKE THAT. TO SHOW THE VIDEO OF A BLACK WOMAN BEING PUNCHED THEN SHOWING A SCENE FROM FRIDAY MAKES ME COMPARE THIS TO TO THE MOVIE 'BIRTH OF A NATION' YOU MAKE STEPHIN FETCHIT SEEM LIKE MALCOLM X. MOST MEN THAT FIGHT WOMEN RARELY FIGHT ANOTHER MAN. WE RESPECT OUR BLACK WOMAN LESS THAN ANY OTHER RACE RESPECTS THEIR FEMALE COUNTERPART.ONLY A UNCLE TOM WOULD MAKE A SONG 99 PROBLEMS BUT A BITCH AINT ONE. ONLY A PUNK ASS BLACK MAN SHOUD RESPOND LIKE THAT.
For those who argue because they like to hear themselves talk, all this post is, is pearls before swine's feet. They say ignorance is bliss...but ignorance is just ignorance.