(ThyBlackMan.com) I have had this discussion with my husband several times. I often say “Is there any hope for my Sisters regarding marriage?” Wherever the Black Man plants his seed, he is reproduced, but what about the Black Woman? Is she in danger of becoming extinct? With the number of Black Men that are engaging in homosexuality activity, incarcerated, those that want to be “a player”, to those that don’t even desire a Black Woman……where does that leave Her (Us)? It seems like Brothers are navigating more and more to White, Asian, Native American, Chinese, Latina and Mexican Women. Not to discount other branches of the original family tree, but it seems like being a Black Woman isn’t appealing to Brothers anymore. The beautiful lips, curves and features that Black Women had a monopoly on, are now found everywhere. Are we not beautiful to you anymore? Not exotic (so I heard a brother say) enough?
Homosexuality isn’t just running rapidly among Black Men, more and more 
Black Women are becoming “lesbians”. Some say because they have been hurt by men, or that a woman understands them better. Regardless of the reason, whenever we step outside our Nature we increase the risk of diminishing our existence. Two of the same kind lay together, they do not have the capability to reproduce themselves. So again intimate relationships among women are growing at rapid speed.
I heard Regina King say that more Black Women should date outside of our race because we limit ourselves when it comes to options but Brother’s exercise their options among other races. When Black Women go outside the race it seems as if they are more ostracized or receive more condemnation than Black Men, why is that? What exactly are her options when so many desire a Black Man?
When a woman is single, She becomes obese with responsibility that is not hers. Whenever you are made to carry excessive weight, whether its mental, emotional, financial or physical, you become sluggish and weighed down. She is unable to be effective in her role because she is to busy to try to perfect a role she wasn’t designed for. I will say that women do have a false sense of being independent. We are all dependent on each other; we can’t even bring one another into existence without one another.
When a man is unable to keep his duty, and the woman is forced to pull his weight, she can become hardened and because she is forced to do it without you, she will begin to think that she doesn’t need you, and because she was unable to rely on you…this is when she gets the incorrect mindset of being an “independent woman”, and if she had daughters she will instill that mindset in her, and that mentality is passed through the womb, so you have generations of daughters that will already think “Black Men will fail them and abandon their duties”. This society even has it set up where you can just go shopping and get a sperm donor so you don’t even have to lay down with a man to have a child.
This doesn’t mean that I give Sisters a pass to escape accountability for the choices and actions on their part. However, I am gravely concerned about state of the Black Woman. Is the Black Woman facing extinction? She carries your seed, carries your weight, and risks her life to bring you into existence, but yet so many struggle in raising children by themselves. So many are not married, don’t know the joyful feeling when a child moves in their womb, and don’t know what its like to be bonded in marriage because no one will marry her. How will you save her? Will you marry her? Cultivate her? Love her? Respect her? When there was no one was else around; She (WE) have always been there. Nursing your babies, and teaching your babies Now once again, we have become casted out in the wilderness like Hagar. Will you come and save us Black Man, just as we have saved you?
Staff Writer; Nojma Muhammad
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