Black People When Will You Learn.
(ThyBlackMan.com) Too many of us believe the lie that love can fix any and everything. This couldn’t be further from the truth. The foundation of a relationship is built upon the ideology and beliefs of both parties involved. The interesting thing is the foundation is not just built on how two people feel about each other…it is also built upon how they view life. We cannot just look at how a person views, or feels, bout us as the basis of love. We must be honest about how they view the world; this is important because one day when we least expect it that view will affect us.
Let’s just put it out there all interracial relationships are not a bust. There are some people that are of different races together that truly do love and support each other. In these situations, you will see that the parties involved love and respect each other’s cultural differences. If they are not close to the family of their significant other, it is not for lack of trying. With that statement being made its high time we acknowledge, as black people, that this is not always the case.
Yes, some of our people are in relationships with, specifically, white people that don’t care for their kind. It is not healthy to be with a person that says they love you…then when they feel a certain way spew racial hatred. The election of Donald Trump has some white people feeling they can take the gloves, and filters, off regarding their feelings on race. The core of who a person is has a lot to do with what they bring to a relationship…love cannot undo that core. That person has to make the decision to change their view on life on their own.
Black people when will we learn that “love”, or more like being in a relationship, with a white person is not a guarantee to cure racism. There was a video on Facebook recently about a sistah whose white boyfriend hurled racial slurs at her after the election. Some may have thought to themselves…what did she expect. Well, she more than likely thought that her presence in his life meant that he didn’t harbor racist feelings. Before black men say she should have known better…there are black men in relationships with white women that accept them, but can’t stand anyone else in their life.
So the white women like this show their feelings about race in how she disregards your sister, mother, father, brother, friends…or anyone else black that is not you. It is very apparent when the family just wants to see him happy so his white girlfriend is welcomed with open arms…but she merely tolerates his “people”. Love is not going to fix these situations whereby black men and women can find themselves ostracized as their kind is deemed unacceptable to their significant other.
It is important to remember that the acceptance of a white person doesn’t give you better standing in this country. If you are going to date outside of your race then be with a person that truly loves you, and everything that is the essence of who you are. Be with a person that will fight for you because hatred towards ALL people is wrong. It can be argued that love is not real where humanity is lacking.
With that being said love yourself enough to know you are wonderful the way you came into this world, and it is damaging to subject yourself to racism where you lay your head. If you are with a closet racist…one day nigger is going to come out, and you will feel like your heart was cut out. That is no way to live. When our people get hurt in this manner…only their “people” (mom, dad, sister, brother, elder, friends, etc.) will be there to put us back together again. Love is a beautiful thing, but it can only truly be found when the foundation of two people allows it to flourish. Love the one that truly does love you.
Staff Writer; Christian Starr