Black People When Will You Learn. : ThyBlackMan

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Black People When Will You Learn.

December 14, 2016 by  
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( Too many of us believe the lie that love can fix any and everything. This couldn’t be further from the truth. The foundation of a relationship is built upon the ideology and beliefs of both parties involved. The interesting thing is the foundation is not just built on how two people feel about each other…it is also built upon how they view life. We cannot just look at how a person views, or feels, bout us as the basis of love. We must be honest about how they view the world; this is important because one day when we least expect it that view will affect us.

Let’s just put it out there all interracial relationships are not a bust. There are some people that are of different races together that truly do love and support each other. In these situations, you will see that the parties involved love and respect each other’s cultural differences. If they are not close to the family of their significant other, it is not for lack of trying. With that statement being made its high time we acknowledge, as black people, that this is not always the case.

Yes, some of our people are in relationships with, specifically, white people that don’t care for their kind. It is not healthy to be with a person that says they love you…then when they feel a certain way spew racial hatred. The election of Donald Trump has some white people feeling they can take the gloves, and filters, off regarding their feelings on race. The core of who a person is has a lot to do with what they bring to a relationship…love cannot undo that core. That person has to make the decision to change their view on life on their own.

Black people when will we learn that “love”, or more like being in a relationship, with a white person is not a guarantee to cure racism. There was a video on Facebook recently about a sistah whose white boyfriend hurled racial slurs at her after the election. Some may have thought to themselves…what did she expect. Well, she more than likely thought that her presence in his life meant that he didn’t harbor racist feelings. Before black men say she should have known better…there are black men in relationships with white women that accept them, but can’t stand anyone else in their life.

So the white women like this show their feelings about race in how she disregards your sister, mother, father, brother, friends…or anyone else black that is not you. It is very apparent when the family just wants to see him happy so his white girlfriend is welcomed with open arms…but she merely tolerates his “people”. Love is not going to fix these situations whereby black men and women can find themselves ostracized as their kind is deemed unacceptable to their significant other.

It is important to remember that the acceptance of a white person doesn’t give you better standing in this country. If you are going to date outside of your race then be with a person that truly loves you, and everything that is the essence of who you are. Be with a person that will fight for you because hatred towards ALL people is wrong. It can be argued that love is not real where humanity is lacking.

With that being said love yourself enough to know you are wonderful the way you came into this world, and it is damaging to subject yourself to racism where you lay your head. If you are with a closet racist…one day nigger is going to come out, and you will feel like your heart was cut out. That is no way to live. When our people get hurt in this manner…only their “people” (mom, dad, sister, brother, elder, friends, etc.) will be there to put us back together again. Love is a beautiful thing, but it can only truly be found when the foundation of two people allows it to flourish. Love the one that truly does love you.

Staff Writer; Christian Starr

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4 Responses to “Black People When Will You Learn.”
  1. Barak Obama says:

    “[There are people of different races who truly love each other]”

    That is only the case ‘ON THE BIG SCREEN’. The left’s whole agenda is to make the public think that jungle fever is what we all want. And when a black woman says ‘white women are at the top of the female social ladder’, it is because that same black woman herself put the white woman above black women.

    Blacks are separate from whites because of natural order. Or simply because of the b-word [Black] and the n-words [a-z]. It’s a black mess!

  2. Marque Anthony says:

    To The Author again, when you make everything about color, you play into the very narrative that racists use in this country.

    It amazes me how many of you are still brainwashed to call yourselves BLACK. Black is not an identity and scientifically black is not even a color. It is next to nothing. Black is the “color” of your car tires, not your skin. The white oppressive slave trader called you black and himself white to set up a contrast and to attach negative images and denotations to you based on a lie about color. Look up BLACK in the dictionary.

    Research even shows that blacks are perceived by other groups as very different from African Americans. But we still keep calling ourselves what someone else defined us as, what we are not and what has a negative dictionary denotation in society. WAKE UP. LOOK AT THE REAL COLOR OF YOUR SKIN. YOU ARE NOT BLACK. You are an African American.

    The lie of calling us black and defining us by color (the wrong color) has been in place so long that our people accept it as truth – but it’s not. Know your colors.

    Native Americans do not allow others to call them red men. Asians do not accept being called yellow men. Hispanics do not answer to “what’s up brown man”. And Caucasians are not white, notebook paper is white. Wake up and see the plan where white racist supremacists plotted to redefine our people from Africa. STOP CALLING YOURSELF SOMETHING THAT YOU ARE NOT!

    Black is the color of your car tires, not your skin author. Being called “black” is a lie and it should be offensive. Haitians, Jamaicans and even Africans do not accept being called “black”, Why do you think that is?

    They are identified by tribes, klans, geographic areas and their respective countries. By using the very term black to describe us, we are doing the following:
    1. Using a term white oppressors and slave masters gave us.
    2. Letting someone else define us other than our own people.
    3. Calling ourselves something we are not.
    4. Buying into thee lie and the negative denotation. Check the dictionary.
    5. Being set apart in a way that no other ethnic group allows. Native Americans are not called Red Man. Asians are not called Yellow Man. Hispanics are not called Brown Man. They do not and will not accept being defined by color and by some other race or ethnic group at that.
    6. Ignoring our actual color (brown) which means brainwashing has worked. Any time someone can get an entire race, ethnic group or culture to ignore what they are and call themselves what they factually are not, THEY HAVE BEEN INDOCTRINATED, ASSIMILATED AND BRAINWASHED.
    7. Playing right into the oppressor’s profiles and stereotypes. Did you know studies show there is a different perception of black people than there is of African Americans? Words create perceptions and perceptions create actions towards us.
    WAKE UP. You know your colors. And even though others around the world equated our ancestors with the color of the soil in Africa or the meaning of negro/negroid, that does not change the fact that WE ARE BROWN – NOT BLACK.

    If you look in the dictionary or send an email to, I will send you the research. Facts are facts and YOU ARE BROWN, NOT BLACK. When you receive the revelation of why they keep calling African Americans “black” and Caucasian people “white”, you may just wake up!

    STOP LETTING OTHER GROUPS DEFINE YOU WITH AN OBVIOUS LIE that we have heard and accepted so much that we believe it’s true and forget our colors. The de-programming has to take root or African Americans will forever be defined, limited and oppressed by those who get us to accept a lie.

  3. Marque Anthony says:

    To The Author,

    The Bible says love covers a multitude of sins so who are you to say it is incorrect. REAL love can fix almost anything. The problem is that most people do not understand real love, unconditional love and what God is talking about. As a family, marriage and relationship counselor, I know you need to do a lot more research. Love gives, forgives, helps, rebuilds, reaches out, helps a person to be the bigger person.

  4. Alison says:

    I am a white woman who dated a black man for four years. Most of my family welcomed him with open arms. All they cared about was that he treated me right. HIS family, however, did not welcome ME. Some did- but his Mom and especially his daughter resented me for being white, and resented him for dating a white woman. Racism can go both ways.

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