Ten Ways to Get Your Kids to Talk to You…
(ThyBlackMan.com) Parents can often be frustrated by their kids’ unwillingness to share their lives with them. Whether your kids are toddlers or teens, there will be times when it’s difficult to “break through” and find out what‘s really going on.
Here are ten ideas on how to create opportunities for your kids to open up and share their lives with you.
2. Slow down your own life and be available
Kids have a keen sense of how busy you are. If you’re providing enough down time for you and your kids, they’ll be more likely to feel comfortable talking to you.
3. Engage in a physical activity that they enjoy
Some kids are more comfortable when they’re moving. Shooting baskets, playing soccer, or a game of catch may have your child chattering away. Moving the body can serve to move the mouth as well!
4. Be as non-judgmental as possible
If your kids feel they won’t be judged when they talk to you, they’ll have no reason to hold back. Have a sense of curiosity and wonder about what they’re saying, and limit the lectures about what’s right or wrong.
5. Use open-ended questions
Questions that begin with “why” tend to create defensiveness, and yes or no questions won’t get much of a response. Learn to use questions that stimulate conversation. “What did you notice about that picture?” works better than, “Did you like that picture?”
6. Use the car as a place for conversation
You’ve got them and they can’t get out! Don’t allow video games or music to interfere with your opportunity to talk with them.
7. Reflect back what you hear from them
It’s still the best way for your kids to feel heard, and the best way to encourage them to expand on the subject.
8. Talk to them while they’re coloring, painting, or drawing
Using these activities to allow your kids to express themselves can help them communicate to you as well. And joining in on the activity yourself can produce an even greater sense of connection and sharing.
9. Provide opportunities for fun and excitement
When your kids are doing something they love to do, they’ll want to share it with you. Provide these for your kids, and listen to them talk about it afterward!
10. Be a parent, but be a friend as well
While you must be a parent first, being a friend to your kids will help them to want to share with you. Don’t overdo the strict parental stuff.
Written By Mark Brandenburg