(ThyBlackMan.com) Most people give up on New Year’s resolutions within a few weeks of setting them. The reason New Year’s resolutions fail because people focus on results and not on the changes they bring. You may be having a list of New Year’s resolution that highlights your goals related to fitness, health, business, education, career, finance, travel or relationships. Here we are not going to discuss them because those intention and discipline-based resolutions are not for everyone.
Here’s a list of ten New Year’s resolutions that don’t force you to give up anything or put stress on your mind and body. These are simple, effective techniques that you can start today regardless of the date on your calendar.
1. A crazy little habit
Make a habit that you’ll go outside for some time – just for ten minutes or half an hour. Do it every day and when you go out, start looking for something positive happening around you. It can be anything – a group of friends having a laugh together or someone working to earn a living. It can be literally anything. All you have to do is to just observe and when you come back, just write down what you saw or did. You can do this any time but make sure following the rules – observe and write about your experience.
2. Talk to yourself
Now is the time for self-love. Speak up about how you feel and do it every day. In the beginning, you may feel nervous and there are chances that you will struggle to find words to express your feelings to yourself, but try it. It’s hard to put thoughts into words, especially when we are being brutally honest with ourselves, but this is how you’ll start making a difference. Once after you learn to put your thoughts together, you will be able to communicate the same. You’ll be able to make others listen and understand how you feel.
3. Take out “I’m trying to” from your thoughts
Stop saying “I’m trying” and start believing that you’re already doing it. This small change in the way you speak to yourself and others can make a huge difference. Our mind believes what we tell it and you probably don’t want to be in that “trying” phase forever. So start paying attention to what you think and how you put it in words and tell yourself and to the people you meet.
4. Stop comparing
In a world where social media is given more importance than real life interactions, people tend to compare themselves and their lives with others. They want to do things others do. They want to eat, travel, and dress like people they see on Instagram, Facebook, and in real life. This year, break the habit of comparing yourself or your life and start living it in the way you want. It will set you free.
5. Talk to your friends and family
Brush up your communication skills. Make improvements on that part so that you won’t be struggling to find “things to talk about.” If you can’t stay in touch regularly, make sure setting up a schedule and call them. This year, also break the habit of waiting for people to text or call you first. If you genuinely care about them, just call them. Set reminders if you forget, and when you get time, just talk to them.
6. Break the good guy contract
Always doing favors? Break the cycle now because there are people who take advantage of kind souls. You should not stop offering favor because your sincere desire to help people should not get hurt and those who really need your support should not be left alone. The point here is to see if you have developed a habit of doing favors to the undeserving people. If yes then it is killing your time which you can use to do something better.
7. Don’t let politics spoil your mood
People who genuinely care about their community, country and the world often get involved in social media wars. In reality, fighting over a Facebook or Twitter post has no positive effect on your actual life. Those emotional responses that you write on social media won’t make any difference because you can’t fix people’s mindset, but they will certainly spoil your mood. Stop getting involved in such things and spend your time on better things. If you really want to do something for your people, there are better ways to do things. Just come out of that toxic social media space.
8. Worry less
Wanting certainty is a very natural need, but life isn’t certain. Things change and life is unpredictable. Many good and bad things can happen at any time, but start forming a belief that no matter how small or big, whatever happens, you will be able to accept it, cope and adapt. Life will not stop there and you will also not stop at that moment. Focus on the present and tell yourself that you’re completely safe right now and nothing bad is happening to you.
9. Make more money
Money stresses people out even more than many other serious issues. You may have heard people saying money is bad or it’s not something you should think or discuss. It’s true that people avoid talking about money, and it is good because those who do, most of them brag about it or discuss things that are not really helpful in any way. As long as you keep in mind that love, family, friendship, charity, and kindness are the best things in life, your wealth won’t become a problem. To maintain a balance in life, money is needed and there’s nothing wrong in making more as long as you earn it through legitimate sources.
10. Stop expecting people to be perfect
The characters we see in movies and TV shows often make a deep impact on our mind that we start looking for the same qualities in people we meet. We want to see the same perfection and most of us start expecting our loved ones to behave like a reel life character. If you do this, stop it. Stop expecting people to act in a certain way and start focusing on their real character traits. After all, the people you see on the big screen are actors with a script, but those you spend time with are not.
Staff Writer; Corey Shaw
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