(ThyBlackMan.com) Quiet as its kept Valentine’s Day can causes fights and break-ups instead of a time of celebrating love. Some would argue if you aren’t going to put actual heart into the celebration it’s best to stay away from it. Gifts are not just a reflection of ones’ love and care…it can also be seen as the measure by which one knows the person they are gifting. Should you decide to gift your lady love for Valentine’s Day take the time to think about her…not what you want for her nor what is considered the norm for women.
No woman is the same so gift ideas should be tailored to your lady. There are a few cliché gifts that tend to surface for Valentine’s Day that just so happen to turn run the risk of being the most horrible gift you could give her. Below are four items that can turn your beautifully planned evening into a Valentine’s Day nightmare.
1. It would not be wise to spring a pet on a woman just because the animal is cute. Puppies, and kittens are wonderful animals that require responsibilities in the areas of time and money. If you’ve never heard her mention she likes animals, this might not be a good surprise at all. If you happen to love animals, but she is indifferent this is not the gift for her. It might be a good idea to randomly bring up owning a pet, well in advance, to gauge her likeness before showing up with a pet.
2.Lingerie can be sexy, and a sensual option. However, this is another area that knowing your lady comes into play. It is not a good idea to show up with lingerie that is too big, or too small. Getting the correct size is very important as getting the size wrong either way can send the wrong message. Furthermore, one must ask is the gift for you or her. If you know she is more modest it might not be the best idea to gift her with lingerie that she would feel uncomfortable wearing. If you don’t quite understand her preference in this area…choosing a different gift may be wise.
3. Candy is always a given, as is flowers, right? Wrong. Candy should not be a stand-alone gift. For the most part it screams you didn’t put much thought into it. Candy is at best an accessory gift. Furthermore, beware of those assorted heart boxes of chocolate. They very well may contain a gift-wrapped trip the emergency room if its loaded with things she is allergic to. Lastly, I know it may be hard to believe, but all women don’t like candy nor chocolate.
4. Household appliances are awesome. There are many women that love these different gadgets for many reasons, but not for Valentine’s Day. Let’s not be petty buying her a vacuum cleaner. Are you sending the message she should clean more? If so, this isn’t the right time, and it’s guaranteed to blow up in your face. Many women, like myself, love cooking and cooking gadgets. However, I don’t want to see one as a Valentine’s Day gift.
There is no need to go for broke to she her you love her on Valentine’s Day. However, you want to find gifts that personify who she is, and what she loves. Just as women are urged not to be lazy and buy a man socks…the same rules apply. If you are going to deal in the holiday put some real thought and effort into it. This could save you from creating a rift in your relationship when that should be the last thing happening.
Staff Writer; Christian Starr
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