(ThyBlackMan.com) “It’s not what you know. It’s who you know” – Society
You can go all Boosie Bad Azz on me and tell me you are independent. You can tell me you are team ‘solo dolo’. You can even pump a fist in the air and sing the anthem “Me, Myself, & I“. After you’re done stroking your ego, we can reflect back on your life’s story and pull more than a handful of people that have helped you arrive at your current destination.
Not where you desire to be in life just yet? That just let’s me know you haven’t crossed paths with the right people.
I’ve been engaged in conversations with friends about people who have failed their way to the top and how they managed to get there. I wouldn’t dare pretend that white privilege doesn’t exist in the majority of these cases, nonetheless room still exists for each person in society to reach their fullest potential.
Most of the time we attempt to reach this potential by using our skills, talents and brains. We actually deceive ourselves into thinking that by tapping into one of these areas alone, our dreams will be fulfilled. We completely discount the fact that other people must be involved in the process, you see, success comes thorough people. Everything you desire, everything you think of, everything you are able to do means nothing without the people to support you.
We are dependent on another! We can not survive without one another. We cannot succeed without one another. Interestingly, we walk past one another in the street and refuse to speak, smile and 
many times we refrain from looking in the other persons direction. We live in neighborhoods with people of diverse skill sets, talents & intellectual abilities but our negative thoughts of one another, our suspicions and our illusions of independence have led us down a path of disassociation.
We are no longer able to see one another as a benefit. These days we see one another as competition, enemies and possible victims. We’ve allowed society to dupe us into believing that succuss is what we know.
I’m a true to heart boxing fan. It’s very rare for me to watch any sport outside of boxing and mma. For years my reason for loving both sports was that the fighter stood alone, they had no one to lean on, win or lose, its all on the fighter I thought. Upon further examination I realized that even the lone fighter has a team. Their corner watches every move made letting the fighter know when to move their feet, when to switch stances, even when to unload on their opponents.
On the journey to reaching our fullest potential, we must join forces with a team. Another mistake made is that we mistake our friends and our team, we trick ourselves into thinking they’re one in the same. This couldn’t be furthest from the truth! Just because I enjoy being around a person, having conversations or drinks with them, in no way means we should attempt to do ‘potential’ with them.
In order for your team to be most effective, you must be scouted by them. Your team needs to notice you in midst of whatever it is that you do. It only takes one client to take a barber or hairstylist clientele to the next level, it only takes that one person to read your book to get you on the best sellers list, you only need that one client to wear your design for it to end up on the runway. One person! That’s all you need.
The difficult part is that the one person we need is mixed in the world with all the others. That person may not dress like us, talk like us, or look like someone we’d be friends with yet they may still be that one to take us to the next level in life.
Everyone crosses our path for a reason! Don’t let your shyness, prejudices, bias, fears or dissociations knock you from meeting who it is you need to know. Talk to people! Smile at folk! You never know whose able to help you.
Staff Writer; Dina Tuff
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