What I Don’t Like about the Mister Cee Scandal.

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(ThyBlackMan.com) We’ve all heard the news, right? Legendary DJ Mister Cee was caught up in a scandal last week after footage of him soliciting a transgender prostitute surfaced. Apparently, on the audio, the DJ can be heard negotiating prices for sexual acts with “drag queen” Bimbo Winehouse.

After the recording leaked, Mister Cee resigned from Hot 97 (he’s since returned). He said the footage was from an arrest in 2011 after he was allegedly caught soliciting sexual acts from transvestites.

Now, initially the DJ denied all allegations from 2011, yet after this new leak, he finally came clean.

During an interview with Ebro Darden, Hot 97’s station director, he said:

“I am tired of trying to do something or be something that I am not.”

“Have I lied about getting sexual fellatio in a car by a transsexual? I have lied about that. I feel bad for the listeners that it did take a video for me to say this because I have been in denial with this for a very, very long time.”

“Now the funny part of it, and I know I’m gonna get hit with social media when I say thi,s but I’m gonna say it anyway: Do I consider myself gay? No, I don’t consider myself gay.”

Now he has a new PSA out where he has linked up with the AIDS Healthcare Foundation to talk about this incident and officially “come clean.” One thing he said that stood out to me was:

“For me, I felt worried about how my family would be affected, how my coworkers and my friends and even my friends would be affected by this decision, because in this hop-hop community of ours, it’s not cool to be gay. It’s not cool to be bisexual.”

He goes on to talk about how now he’s exercising his right to sexual freedom and that’s why he’s teaming up with the AIDS Foundation. And how we all have a right to a sexual life that’s free from shame and disease.

Okay, now there’s something about Mister Cee’s actions (and now his reactions) that I just don’t like. Everything is about him. It was about him from the jump satisfying his curiosity and/or desires to be with transvestites. It was about him not getting caught and destroying his image, so he lied. It was about him not being “shunned” or exiled, so he lied…again. And now that he’s deciding to tell the truth, it’s about him being able to be free and unashamed.

Excuse me, but what about his wife?

He said he was concerned about how his family and friends would be affected with his decision to come out because being gay/bi isn’t “cool” in hip hop. Translation? Oh no, what will they think of me? Umm…that’s selfish.

There was no “Oh no, how will this affect my wife because it’s not “cool” 1) for a husband to be unfaithful and 2) for a husband to publicly be unfaithful with a transgender prostitute.” He still did what he wanted to do; there was no concern back then for his wife.

Then he talked about every person having the right to a sexual life that’s free of shame and disease. Does every person exclude your wife? Was Mister Cee thinking about her “sexual rights” and how he was ultimately putting them at risk by publicly shaming her and putting her health at risk with his infidelity?

I don’t know; this whole “Oh, I’m finally coming out” thing just rubbed me the wrong way. It seems like his focus is more on him now not having to be ashamed of who he is and promoting health awareness now that’s he’s openly gay (or whatever), but it’s like, dude, don’t just all of a sudden embrace truth and sexual rights when it benefits you.

He said himself he was in denial…true. But he was also selfish; own that sir. It’s not just about him coming out and can finally be himself in the world of hip-hop; it’s about you were selfish and risked your marriage and your wife’s sexual health. She isn’t affected just because the hip hop community will now know you’re gay (or whatever); she’s affected because she is your wife. You were selfish, DJ, and it certainly appears that you still are by turning your selfish acts into a “Oh I was afraid” and “hip hop is so homophobic” and “I don’t want anyone to be afraid of who they are so I’m standing up for AIDS.” Stop solely focusing on how this benefits you, DJ. It’s like he’s saying, “I wasn’t wrong for not being honest because it was adultery and illegal and I humiliated my wife, I was wrong for not being honest because, as a gay man (or whatever), you should be open and free no matter what.” Take responsibility for your selfishness and its affects on everyone, not just you and your stunted sexual freedom.

Maybe it’s just me, but I’m not feeling the one-sided approach of Mister Cee’s “new enlightenment.” What about you?

Source;
http://www.webpronews.com/dj-mister-cee-amid-sex-scandal-returns-to-hot-97-2013-09

Source; (PSA and interview)
http://allhiphop.com/2013/09/12/mr-cee-admits-to-soliciting-transgender-men-decides-not-to-resign-from-hot-97-audio/

Staff Writer; Shala Marks

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Service is her passion, writing is her platform, women and the Black Community are her avenues. Shala Marks is a writer, editor and soon-to-be author. Through her work, Marks aspires to demonstrate “The Craft of Writing, and the Art of Efficacy.” She has a B.A. in journalism from ArizonaStateUniversity. Connect with her at http://www.sisterscanwespeak.tumblr.com.

toomanygrandkids says:

September 24, 2013 at 9:09 am

Remember The Ricki Lake Show? She was one of the first, if not, the first talk show host to unveil the down-low syndrome. On the show, the viewing audience could see the face of the openly gay dude. The married w/ children dude would sit behind some kinda cutrtain and they disguised his voice. Back then it was clear that down-low dudes were ignorant and selfish health hazards. Only time they confess to such trifling behavior is when there’s an audio or video.

Most of these sexually confused bastards are on the down-low for years and years and years before they finally get caught. Wives and children are kept in the dark while these so-called heterosexual dudes live a secret, double life. He doesn’t consider himself gay because that would mean that there’s really something wrong about a married man engaging in sexual acts with another male. To clear his guilty conscious, Mister Cee only views the transgenders/transvistites as homosexuals. They’re the ones who’s doing wrong, not him. They’re the ones who are gay, not him.

“I’m tired of trying to be something or be something that I’m not.” That would mean he’s tired of pretending to be a heterosexual man with a wife. She’s used for appearances to mask his homosexuality. He’s tired of being a husband because he’s not attracted to women. Mister Cee desires a male dressed up as a female.

Hopefully, she has left his pathetic ass. And I hope she’s able to file a lawsuit against him for placing her health in danger and pain and suffering.

Papacool says:

September 24, 2013 at 12:46 am

This is not the first and nor will it be the last. Homosexuality is about to reveal itself in the music industry on a scale that most people will be in a state of shock over. If the truth was known, people would find out that once people obtain a certain level of success they start experimenting with new choices. Bro Cee has been outed in the past and in the spirit of Eddie Murphy, he denied the whole thing. The saddest part about of this is the fact that people want the best of both worlds. Bro. Cee needs to truly repent and apologize to not only his wife and family, but mainly get real with himself. Actions of this type assist to initiate low self-esteem and questionable moral character of both sides of the fence, aka men and women. When we as people tend to accept incidents of this nature as just another day in the life, it is a wonder we as people are still in existence. People need to go to Streetpimps.com and read about how several artists have crossed over, only to deny themselves when confronted. For those that are in this unfortuate situation, you have my prayers and sincere hope that you can turn your lives around. Although I do not think of myself as being homophobic, I will honestly admit that I am not down with this type of lifestyle personally. But in this age of taking a chance of hurting the feelings of my fellow beings and violating their rights of freedom, it takes courage to make a stand without trying to sound or be judgmental. This stuff has been in the world since the creation of man and in the battle of good and evil, it will be here to stay until Judgment Day arrives. Until then, we all have to take it one day at a time. Peace out, Papacool.