Rant Against The Extra-Average Black Woman.
September 26, 2012 by Staff
Filed under News, Opinion, Relationships, Weekly Columns
(ThyBlackMan.com) OK, I need to rant for a minute. I just need to get this off my chest.
Sisters, I love you. God knows I do. But sometimes love includes criticism.
Personal pet peeve of mines: I’m tired of these extra-average, baggage-laden sisters complaining about the supposed lack of good black men. If I hear that old tired line ONE more time, I swear…
First off: sisters need to come back down to earth and lose that haughty spirit they carry. What about you is so special that good black men should even want to get at you? What things do you bring to the table that will enhance his life by him getting with you?
Sisters who are usually asked this question never can give a clear answer other than the usual: “well he’s getting a down female who’ll have his back.”
Really? You can’t even stand by black men and have our backs in the public eye. How do we know you’ll honor him if you do manage to catch one?
And stop thinking that you are above criticism. You’re not.
For many years I watched black women dog out the brothers in every possible public forum known to man. They did it in songs, on radio shows, in TV interviews on ABC, CNN and even on Russian TV, in the movies, in the streets. 
Hell, they even dog us out at church! So guess what? Now it’s YOUR time under the spotlight of examination. Let’s really get at the root to why so many of you supposed ‘good’ sisters are without a mate.
Most of you don’t have a good black man yet because you’re not worthy of one. There, I said it. Hate me if you want, I really don’t give a damn, because this needs to be said.
What makes you worthy of a ‘good’ man? Because you have a nice butt… a sexy body…? Or is it because you were born a diva? What qualities as a woman do you possess that men should find valuable enough to entice them to marry you? I’m really curious!
Many of you are uncle Toms and sellouts, quick to go in front of white folks and throw brothers under the bus. You’ll air your dirty laundry in front of the whole world, just to gain support in your hatred and disdain for black men. Which really is just a disdain for yourselves.
You’re not even aware of how sick this makes you look in the eyes of women of other races and nationalities. For example, I talk to sisters from Africa and the Caribbean all the time. And guess what? These women think you are highly disloyal, impossible to get along with and greatly deluded. They totally don’t understand your way of thinking.
You’re quick to throw in our faces how successful you are, when most of you work average jobs just like we do. There’s nothing extra special about working an average job in an average industry. From the way many of you make it sound, one would think you worked as CEO’s of billion dollar companies or something!
Stop thinking you are above the average black man when you’re not.You work ordinary jobs, just like we do; pay taxes just like we do; pay bills just like we do. At best you’re equal. Nothing less. Nothing more.
You’re quick to mention how independent you are, as if being independent is some badge of honor to wear. Maybe for an emancipated teenager it is. But it spells nothing but trouble for a brother who’s in the know. Because relationships are a team sport. And nobody wants a ball-hogging player on their team always trying to steal the spotlight.
Ever heard this one before: I can do bad all by myself. Really? And why would you want to?! How silly is that line of reasoning? If two people were trapped in a ditch together, wouldn’t it be easier to get out if the two worked together, than if one person was trying to get out on their own?
Statements like this just helps to point out the nonsensical views many sisters have about relationships.
Maybe the reason you can’t find a good black man is because you’re so used to dating down.
Perhaps if sisters were to stop dating the lowest common denominator type of brothers, they could actually position themselves to meet the decent ones.
Now there’s a thought!
Hasn’t anyone ever told you that in relationships you attract what you are. So if you’re not attracting good brothers, what does that really say about you?
And don’t give me nothing about how educated you are. Because there’s plenty of highly educated brothers that most of y’all just ain’t checking for. In many of your eyes they’re either too soft, or too corny, or not man enough to handle you. Don’t you know that the only things in life that get ‘handled’ are usually problems?
Why is it that all these educated brothers keep slipping under your radar? Because a well put together brother who’s on his game will require you to step your game up to his level. And when it comes to relationships, many of you ladies are just plain lazy and comfortable with dealing with ratchet brothers. Real good brothers intimidate you.
Trust me when I say: if you were such a hot item, even dudes from other races would be snatching you off the market faster than you could blink. Because that’s exactly what happens to the sisters who are on top of their game in every way: body, mind, career and spirit. They get snatched and wifed up quick.
But aha! Other races of men aren’t really getting at you like that either. Why is this? After all: by your own admission you’re ‘successful’ and ‘beautiful’ and soooo independent. Either the world is blind to your value and worth or maybe, just maybe, you’re not actually the hot catch you imagine yourself to be…
Funny thing though: the ‘successful’ black men (who are successful according to your low standard of success) aren’t having this problem. When you don’t recognize them quick enough, women of other races move in swiftly to take a good brother off the market. While you’re wasting precious time and years fooling with Tyrone from the block, Marquez from IBM just got married to an Asian chick. A fine one too.
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No dear my parents were married. I don’t smoke weed or drink. And I was married for six years and oh by the way I ended it just in caes you think my ex-wife divorced me. But while my trust investments are gonna be making money for me, you will be slaving (willingly i might add) for your your white slave master. Matter fact he can have ya. The black woman is not my problem and thank The Divine Architect of the Universe that she’s not because that would be tragic. If what you all say is true that the reason you’ll are so stupid is because of that the white man did to you all in slavery then what that means is it’s his responsibility to cure you’ll. You’re his Frankenstein project. I didn’t make you and have actually wasted time trying to save you miscreants. And if you want to learn how to be a Woman i’ll let you talk to my grandmother who’s been married for over 40 years. She can teach you a few things because I doubt you are married with that mentality and doubt you ever were honored like that, although slime does ooze through the cracks every once in a while. Lol. You mofos are some pathetic ass brawds for real. Bunch of wannabe video vixens who only know how to appeal to a man through flesh but not heart and that probably won’t ever change. Notice when i speak on here I never take it to a personal level even when someone disagrees. However, if you all notice, whenever a black woman comes on here and really disagrees, she not only defies logic but she tries to make it personal. Chick you are not even fit to even say my grandmother’s name and she probably could tach your entire family full of women a course on proper etiquette because in her words “not every woman will grow to become a lady.” That is an art form that most of you hoes lack the brush and the easel to create the masterpiece from which a man can marvel at. And oh by the way I look forward to getting married again I’m not bitter about my first marriage not working the way it did but one thing i can say i enjoyed being married more than being single and I am running in terror away from you derelict brawds. You better off forming your own twerk team. Cause we all know nigger bitches only good for fucking anyway. A bunch of sexual deviants in my opinion. Not something i would want to marry. We all know you can;t keep your mouths closed. Question is, can you keep the legs closed? I think not. You mofo’s better be glad I don’t run government because I swear to The Most High, I would put the yolk around your neck myself because at least that would contain you untouchables. But I don’t have to do that because the world offers way more better than the American Black woman. See when I talk about foreign women I don’t exclude the foreign ones in other countries. It’s specifically the america one who is dreadful to me. The beautiful thing about a Woman (Lady) is that she makes a Man feel alive. You females make men feel dead because you are spiritually dead and who wants a dead flower and who has the time to try to bring her back to life. Better off starting with some pure (virgin) so that you don’t have the headaches that black women consistently give you. And by the way here’s a link of a female bus driver who whipped a black chick’s ass on the bus for the typical behavior your kind exhibits http://tommysotomayor.com/?p=12325
. Let’s see how many of you all criticize this black woman for doing the same thing what the brother did in cleveland. But most you derelicts will be silent. You don’t even have the numbers to be relevant anymore. You are a dwindling species and coupled with the homosexuality the group is wiping itself out from the inside out. We just saw in the last election how black people’s collective is nonexistent. See we are under the illusion that because we overwhelmingly voted for barack (i didn’t) we are relevant. Clearly this is not the case. Most of the coverage focused on how powerful our aztec brothers and sisters have become as a voting block. See I embrace our people who consider us family. In the 60’s martin Luther King embraced Cesar Chavez and his programs see article https://www.chavezfoundation.org/_cms.php?mode=view&b_code=001008000000000&b_no=11&page=1&field=&key=&n=3
The number one issue black people fight for is gay marriage (the so called new civil rights issue). I met a 17 year old girl from Trinidad at my school today and was breaking down the notion of positive culture and negative culture. And even at 17 she recognizes the wisdom of my words. Why as so-called educated women you dummies can’t? I also acknowledged the problems that exist in the mentalities of African who come here arrogant as well as some Carribeans. However what they don’t come over here with a sense of entitlement. I told her about the phenomenon of strip clubs here and I asked her if the women where she was from could come here and go to school or strip in clubs what would they choose. She said emphatically they would choose school. So don’t fucking try to clown me like my shit is off base. The Problem is with someone like who has been punch drunk with dick, you can’t clear your thoughts of the next dick you want to hop on long enough to actually take my thoughts in and actually self-reflect on things. See I’ve done my self-reflection in life. Have you? I blame myself for some of my decisions in choosing black women in the past based solely on race. I purposely have passed up other groups of women just because I felt black women needed black men to marry and that they needed me. Instead i should have focused on my happiness first instead of theirs. I take all responsibility for that. That’s maturity dear. However, it still does not deflect from the main theme: that most black women are not marriage material. Remember I’ve never gone to the strip clubs. I’m 33 and have been to the dance clubs maybe 5 times total and haven’t been since 04. Does that sound like a Man that’s about fun and games? But I’ll take the library over a dumb ass black chick anyday because I can’t get in trouble with the books. My focus is on money. Mind on my money money on my mind. The reason why I read these books is because when i surveyed the landscape, i realized that our women are not on our side as a collective. And just like men in typical fashion we make other arrangements. Females like you are of no consequence to me because you’re walking doormats. Getting different men’s cocked stuffed in your mouth is a religion for you. I don’t want to kiss those types of lips. What does your degree mean to me when I look at you as a whore? I used to dog brothers out back in the day for turning their backs on black women who needed good men. Not realizing that these brothers knew something I didn’t know: that they were happy without a black woman. Every time I see a brother with a chick that’s not black or black american, he tends to be genuinely happy with his family. He plays with his kids and all that. I’m a family man by nature. I like marriage, white picket fence, and all that shit you independent brawds think is lame. But truth is brawd you’re lame and your pussy is stretched too and the best thing you can do moving forward is get you a chick to strap on a dildo and go inside you because a real man you do not deserve. if you want to play we can play. But listen clear. I have no expectation that the black woman in america will change because she is stiff-necked like the scripture says. This is something has to be dealt with on a spiritual level but as we know the black woman does not like to deal with things on a spiritual level. yes she will wear crosees and ankhs around her neck but she will not delve into the esoteric and metaphysics of the relics she wears around her neck. She has become a joke not realizing people are laughing at her (se nicki minaj and rihanna). These are your idols which you praise and because you praise them you destroy yourselves in the process For dudes who find good sisters more power to them but most of the time you find a good one, you’re so exhausted in the search you don’t even want them anymore. Black men are not angry, we are tired of you mofos. You’ll are consistently inconsistent. i see why Pac talked about not putting his seeds in you all back in the late nineties and this was a brother who cared deeply for you’ll. Well we see how you all responded to his songs. You can delude your self if you want. I accept the reality I see.
http://tommysotomayor.com/?p=12325
This is soooo true!!! He is on it and hit it on the nose. I am a black woman. I came from the ghetto BUT did not allow poverty to define my character and mannerisms. I am an average woman, master level education, one child and married. I married a man that some may say is soft or corny, but guess what he has my back and I have his and I would rather deal with someone who messes up my lipstick than my mascara!! BTW…I cook, clean, believe in God, encourage him, take care of him…and guess what he does…the same !!!! So tired of the stereotype Ghetto , trying to be a housewife messy women in all the races but especially in the African American race.
I became a wife quick because I had something to bring to the table…dignity, and common sense!
I am a “single” black woman & I wholeheartedly agree with everything..not speaking for anyone but myself. I have this sense of entitlement that I should have the creme’ de la creme of pickings. Mercedes, lots of money, tall, no kids, house, good credit…When I drive a Toyota, live paycheck 2 paycheck, short, 2 kids, live in an apartment, need a co-signer for every line of credit I apply for…etc….On the flip side we as black women fight so hard to keep our black family together that sometimes we lose it. We hold our brothers down through everything they do & when we’re fussing about something it’s usually due to the fact that disrespect is taking place. We are probably out of control because all our BLACK FATHERS left our homes & gave us that resentment towards our men & the new generation is continuously tearing our families apart thinking it’s better on the other side…whenever something is a challenge for a brother he runs for cover….where It’s less work…guess that’s why black men can’t get & keep a job cuz they’re LAZY & always quit when things get rough
@ My heart hurts for the hatred:
So now we’re talking about grammar. Are you serious? What a way to deflect from the topic at hand! This isn’t some scholarly treatise, which usually gets us nowhere. Its a discussion.
Apparently you failed to proof-read your own comment because you made a few errors of your own there. What’s that thing about throwing stones in a glass house…? I guess that was your way of trying to establish educational dominance over the poor plebs who agree with my rant. SMH. Some of you sisters just don’t get it…
Grammatical errors notwithstanding, you failed to address the issue at hand. This isn’t about talking down to anybody. Its about asking you to step your conversation UP to a higher level. Its about being able to dialogue and discuss this subject matter minus the massive amounts of deflection and nonsensical emotional ramblings: what I affectionately call trying to get us to ‘fall for the banana in the tailpipe’.
Nitpicking whether someone capitalizes an ‘i’ is as silly as bringing up the subject of peanut butter. But it requires a certain amount of maturity to discuss subjects like this one. Apparently not all are adult enough to handle it.
Good LORD, the author needs therapy.
Ramsey, I am going to tell you about yourself. Firstly, you need a job. You obviously stay with a over weight white woman or your grandmother. You are dark-skinned with dreads and probably smoke a lot of weed. I’m going to need for you not to address any of the ladies on this post, everyone can tell that you are 1. ignorant and 2. in no position to give advice. You are a delusional loser. You stay on that dirty mattress and read all of those books because no black woman worth anything would have anything to do with a disrespectful, belligerent underachiever like yourself.
i stumbled upon this website and shocked to see this nasty rant. Thyblackman (brotherhood at its best)??? Seems like you’re at your worst -(angry black man syndrome) (self-hate syndrome)(praising other races like they dont have issues syndrome). What, you dont watch lifetime movies? Hey Angry man – you suck…probably literally (but thats just an assumption). lol…
another example of this hoe shit but i betcha one of you college educated mofos will say these are misguided black queeens!!! lol http://tommysotomayor.com/?p=12265
it’s the white man’s conditioning in slavery that did this….get the fuck outta here with that dumb ass shit. This shit is not deep. These are hoes and for all you mofos who want keep peace just for peace sake, and think no matter what these are good females, even your scripture calls these meretricious females whores.
why you mofos don’t say anything about this when i put it up?
http://tommysotomayor.com/?p=12265
cat got your tongue.
You have females on here who get on here who actually try to tell you how to write your responses. What the fuck does grammatical errors have to do with anything? And I was an english major and got plenty A’s on papers just for your info but typical. The mistake you made is thinking, like most black women do, they can control what the fuck comes outta man’s mouth. I have never let any woman, let’s be clear, (so you don’t think i let other women disrespect me) tell me how to respond because she doesn’t have the physical force let alone the intelligence to match me on either level. But this is common. Deflect from the issue. My ex-wife who I divorced use to do the same thing. She couldn’t take criticism so if i said words like “fuck” then she would make an argument out of me saying fuck taking me down a path that is meaningless. If we criticize black women’s behavior then it becomes “well other women do it too.” We’re not arguing against that. The problem we have is those females who try to blur the line. When these chicks in other cultures live loose lives, it’s a clear line they cross. Black chicks want to Crosse the line and then front like the virgin mary when they meet a new dude. If you a hoe be a hoe go ahead and don’t be scared (T Moe Goodie Mobb). But you never address the real issues. Your defense is well white girls do it or toher women do it. That’s your fucking defense? Not that yeah some of us are sucking too much dick and fucking too many men, but that other women are doing it. What kind of shit is that? i got more of a standard for black women than they do yet they fight me when I say the shit when I’m saying be my wife and not my hoe. I have never had a problem getting a piece of ass. Trust me. What man in his right mind wants to keep having empty sex? Now women sell pussy and can detach from that shit but hell i can’t do it. Now who’s more spiritually mature me or you. I’m saying I don’t want empty sex and you mofos are saying “well other women do it.” Excuse me for thinking you’ll were better than other women and never would i have thought a black woman would use a white women to justify her whorish behavior. Damn how shit has changed. There was a time when you wanted easy sex from a black chick and she would tell you “you better go get you a white girl.” Bt the only thing this mofo can say is fucking grammatical errors. What the fuck yo. I’ll never marry a woman from this land who has the heart you’ll have you’ll are like monsters for real. I’ll take my chances trying to marry a klansman daughter. that shit seems safer. Lol
And @Mo some females were never bred to be wives. Wife is inbred in you from a young age. I remember when my ex aunt said two things to her and her sister. One time she said “I hear you young sistas talk about getting married and wanting a man to marry you and what you expect for him to do for you. However, i never hear you talk about what kind of value you will add to his life. How are you gonna lighten his load.” Another one was when her niece (who had a baby by a married man) was complaining about her kids father not being in her life and not supporting the child. The aunt replied “you lucky you get what you get now. Back in our day, you would have gotten nothing at all.” she knocked that sense of entitlement out her ass real quick and this was her blood aunt. See females like this use kids to get sympathy but i don’t feel sorry for them because if they are boys, they turn out to be criminals that rob and steal and kill. If they are females they turn out to be like the girl on the bus in cleveland where they get the daylights knocked outta their asses. Men don’t ask women to be in their lives to make their lives miserable. They ask them to be in their lives for marriage to make the load a little lighter.
LOL I like how all the men who agree with this discriminatory rant have grammatical errors that would make my English Prof. split his toupe. For the misguided soul who said that “White women and Asian women don’t have these problems.” You are sad.
My son’s father is not the best of men that this world has to offer, not even slightly close and I’d bet that in your typical mind, you’d expect me to talk down about him, to rant. Fortunately my mother taught me better and not even when I’m talking with my “homies” do I ever talk down about him and the reason is because what we have between each other emotionally, stays between us because the moment you let your dislike or hatred from someone else escape that bubble it should stay in, you filter that hatred on anyone who you think resembles that person and that is what all of you men in agreeance has done.
Let me be the first (in case no other woman has ever done so) to say how sorry I am that you came across a woman, an African American woman that put such a bad taste in your mouth. I am not going to tell you to not think all women are the same because I don’t care what you think, I will say that karma, well she’s real.
AND OH MY HEAVENS. . . .capitalize your damn I’s. Jesus.
Did this dude say go to church or college to find a cultured woman? Cause praising a white deity definitely helps your psyche so much and getting an education in which you get into exorbitant amounts of debt just to get an entry level job she could have done straight out of high school. Me personally this is how I view women. Number one you have to be spiritually inclined. Number two, business inclined. See when you run businesses (instead of your mouths) then it becomes about the bottom line. From my experience, black women do not support black men who tend to be business inclined. I remember when My homie Mac, who used to live in Atl, was in real estate and not one of the black chicks was interested in supporting him on a business level. They only showed interest later when they tried to exert some control over him. Now since he has moved to Cali, he doesn’t nor any of the black men in Cali for the most part even waste their time with black women even out there. He’s with a Philipine chick who told him that she’s really about family and doesn’t even want to a Man who doesn’t value the family structure. He put up a picture of him and his Queen helicopter recently flashing the pearly whites. In other words the brother happy. He also told her how important business is to him and they have agreed to set up non-profits moving forward. Now when you thinks like that, on a business level, you don’t have time for an obnoxious female talking silliness. About what “she ain’t gonna do.” I tell dudes the moment you hear a female say she “ain’t gonna do” something, no matter what it is you throw up the deuces. You don’t even wanna woman who says “I ain’t….” no matter what it is because it’s a rebellious mentality. You can fuck with my emotions, I can get over that, but don’t fuck with my money period. I am about ownership, not working for any man. A woman talking about her degrees and who she works for is a clown to me because to me that’s a happy slave. You should never be comfortable working for someone for 20 years+. If a Woman sees a Man with business interests, especially a Black Man, I’m not saying just believe his word necessarily. Research with him and see if you can invest with him. Jobs are only meant for you to build capital enough to invest in things you can acquire. Jobs are not the end all be all. Black women think this and this is why the study that came out showed that with all the money they claim they have and affluent jobs they think they go, they are only worth 5 dollars. One of the best things I decided to do was open my own business because it changed how I looked at things. See this is the stupidity of the black woman. You have a job and black men are underemployed or unemployed but it’s ok. Men tend to have a tak-a-chance mentality. We might start a business here, it doesn’t work, we go back to the drawing board. We try something else, it doesn’t work, back to the drawing board. On that third try, he might hit the jackpot, which because you were his wife and supported him, naturally you benefit from his work ethic. You know what they call that: reciprocity. Not equality but reciprocity. But most of these hoes out here want to put on a pair of heels, where their name brand clothing they get from Ross and Marshal’s just so they can flirt with men on their jobs they work, which they think they own. Now these are things your parents should have taught you but because they did such a poor job, we were left to do their job which has been a tiresome endeavor. I could never understand or want a woman who wants to work because that means to me she wants independence. If she had to work because we were in a financial bind that’s one thing but I’ve asked black women enough over the years that if you had the opportunity to be a housewife instead of working a job what would you pick. And you know what the concensus was? All of them responded back with i would rather work because I don’t want a man controlling me even though your Bible you read tells you to obey your husband. And Black women’s notion of their Men controlling them is actually them protecting them. So when your man tells you not to go the club with your friends because it’s not a good environment, usually the response is you can’t tell me what to do, and then when you lose this man to a white girl who clubbing days went out of style in college and is looking for family, you and the same girl end up the bitter black woman book club and end up licking on each other. But hey it’s your call. We’re dumb black men and we know nothing. Lol. I’m not taking classes in school but I am studying business techniques everyday. I am readin this one book called the complete guide to estate planning right now and it’s 745 pages. I stay up all times of night reading because I can’t put that shit down (notice how many of my posts are late at night). I study banking manuals (one I study is 1352 pages). I study tax code books that show you how to take advantage of the system like people like Romney does. I read books that were written in the 180’s on trust law to figure out how to not only create wealth, but how to preserve it. While some dudes in the strip club, I’m spending the nights in libraries trying to get knowledge so I can get money. The way black women have you chasing their silly asses it will have you broke. Broke in the pockets and spirit.
Your blog should have been titled; “Rant against the Extra-average woman.” The sad fact that you called out one specific race of women when this rant applies to all women is actually typical. You can’t possibly love African American women to talk so down about them. The question is, what makes you worthy of downing ANY woman this way? Because you have a blog? A lil’ website where you obviously have a true hatred for all women. Honey, all of the success in the world couldn’t mask what you are.
The beauty and a downfall of this country is the often”too free” freedom of speech. I know women of multiple ethnicities that your rant applies to…sadly, its just your distaste for African American women that you chose to call out. Your mother should be so proud.
Although, sadly, I know a handful of men like you; African American, self-absorbed and believing that an African American woman isn’t good enough for you because she isn’t like Marquezes seemingly perfect Asian wife…because of course, African American women are the only ones with these issues. The reason some African American women are single is not for the lack of good African American men but for the upset at so many African American men judging them because they aren’t “some other ethnicity” enough. Your rant actually sounds like the shit my girl Kenda says …you sound js like one of them Extra-Average black women you dislike so much. Sometimes you can get so close to an enemy that you become just like them.
I dislike raising my son in a world where not only does every other race of men dislike African American women for all the wrong reasons, but so does African American men. If my son so much as ever grows up to have such a tongue like you, I’d rip it out of his mouth with my bare hands. Fathers teach their sons to respect women. If you see a woman who is not respectable, talking down to her is not the key. Pulling her aside, addressing your concerns and helping her (her of any ethnic background) to see how important she is. That one day she will be a wife, a mother and more importantly, a role model but instead you men choose to write up blogs to show how angry and controlling you are. Some women are like this but it is not for you to call out and disrespect so rudely. I assure you that at one point, you were not as high as you hold yourself. . .I know that for a fact and I don’t know you. What one woman says about a man has nothing to do with you, like that R. Kelly song, “One man can make one woman hate allmen.”. . .it can be reversed, “One woman, can make all men hate all women.” Kudos to you sir and your wonderful freedom of speech.
I’m an AA female, 26, no kids, pretty, educated and so forth — I guess I’m basically the opposite of everything the author of this article is ranting about. I don’t need a millionaire, I just want a man who loves me. I will probably marry in the next few years. If not, no biggie. Love comes when it’s good and ready.
I’m sorry you’ve had such awful experiences with BW, but there are always exceptions to the rule.
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This one is for the ladies. I was married to an attorney…educated…fine. We had a beautiful baby girl. Notice I said..was married. He wasn’t a bad man but he wasn’t a great one either. He didn’t know how to be the man of the home. I had to beg for money for rent, money for daycare, heck…money for pampers. One day, I got tired of begging and that’s where the phrase entered my mind ‘I can do bad all by myself’. Fast forward a few years…I met that average looking guy with a smile that lit up the room. I probably wouldn’t have paid him one bit of attention in my younger days. This is the man who treats me and my daughter like a queen and a princess. This is the man who took the time to court me, learn me, know me and finally, love me. This is the man who proved to me that he is the head of household and I will gladly follow him. There are good men out there. You just have to open your eyes and find him. AND, stop limiting yourselves to black men. Love has no color.
Like your comment James!
@ James:
i see you skimmed through my post but didn’t read it. If you did read it you didn’t comprehend which is comical. Im educated myself so i alomst exclusively date educated women. Both women in the instances i mentioned were fine but i CLEARLY stated they were also educated which is an oxymoron. One would expect a drug dealer to get the “hood” chicks but they get the educated woman also. This shows the ignorant state of mind alot of black women have. The problem is not that im attracted to fine women because ive met average looking black women with alike mind.
I think my post may have went over your head…so let me simpify. A mans opinion on black woman is going to differ depending on experiences. Based on my experiences there is an overt amount of black women with issues….wether it be attitude problems, big mouths,baggage from other relationships, unsubmissive or viewing drug dealers as their ideal mate. With that being said there are some black women that do not have those issues…and im going to find one.
This article is so typical and negative…Mr. Angry with black women, tell us something we don’t already know. Overall, men and women have issues. And we all as a whole need to work hard to better ourselves. Most likely you or someone close to you is fighting some type of issue… If the type of women you vented about in the article bothers you so deeply, then maybe it’s your purpose to step up and turn the negative into a positive. Grow up!
TO MACK: My only concern with this whole rant you went on is this…What grown man writes an article and talks about his “homeys”? By looking at your gravatar your the exact type of men I steer clear of. You look like a young thug. I can definitely see why you attract these types of women and I feel sorry for you. I hope that one day you straighten your act up and stop playing the blame game so you to will not have to deal with these women who are products of YOUR environment.
P.S. Happily engaged BW with a WM.
Successfulblckman you may need to look for some black women who are not fine. Maybe that is your problem, either you look for women who are responsible and educated or look for women who are fine.
Sometimes you need to look at yourself because you attract these women. In NYC there are plenty of educated and well to do black women. You cant generalize because you met a few who were irresponsible. I know a few sistas with bad attitudes but I know an equal amount of black men with bad attitudes and lack of morals.
Go to a college, church or the library and meet some women who are good cultured and smart. Attraction should be there but the criteria you push as a chick being fine and thats what makes her a great catch is comedy.
Looks only take you so far and take it from a guy who has been wit some pretty women, I dont even look for looks to be the deciding factor for a relationship anymore. A woman who you have some attraction too and is responsible, cultured, educated and great in the kitchen is better then some chick who is a model and has a bad attitude or irresponsible.
Go out and find a woman who isnt fine and who is responsible, the problem is you.
First I am speaking my thoughts not writing a paper so excuse me for my many grammatical errors. I understand the position you are taking on this widely discussed topic, but what I don’t understand is why we(blacks) don’t think that this is a cultural issue. When our parents were courting the man had his position in the relationship and the woman had hers. As time went on the so called nuclear family was torn apart by( war, drugs,incarceration etc.) and with it went the roles of healthy mating between a man and woman. More black woman had to take on the role of being the head of the house hold while being single mothers and in the interim raised these so called “Extra average black woman”. Fast forward some decades later the little girl that watched her black mother get a degree, work, run her house and raise her children, unfortunately built a resistance to Men. In her mind she can be all and do all without a man because this is the environment she learned in. This young lady go to college possibly get a degree or take that regular job to survive. She makes some mistakes during her young adult hood and as I remember no one is perfect. Going back to my cultural point the American black woman have been abused and looked down upon so often when she act out on these emotions she is labeled as to strong, ghetto or “EXTRA AVERAGE”. I wonder if these good men out here ever heard their mothers disrespected by a man(black etc) or ever thought that their own fathers could be part of the process of killing the black woman’s self esteem by fathering a child with another woman. There are so many dynamics to this problem that there will never be a change until we all admit our fault. Black women have to KNOW they are here as a help mate for the man allow him to wear the pants and treat you as delicate as you are and black men have to see that you are here to support her mind, body and soul and not to misunderstand her so called ghetto antics etc. A real man can turn any stone into a diamond. So write an article on how we all can correct this wrong before its to late and we lose our American black woman.
I just hate to see self hate. When you hate your race (or women within your race) it is a reflection of how you feel about yourself. I am very fair-skinned, you would be amazed at how many self hating black men try to get with me; telling me things like “your hair is so long and I love light skinned girls” I have even had men wanting to “have children with me so that their babies would be light”. I have zero tolerance for self hate. It is pathetic and very unattractive. I don’t know why so many black men today hate themselves but what I will say is while black women are bashing black men and black men are bashing black women, white people are sitting somewhere enjoying the fact that they rule our nation.
SHOW ME ONE ARTICLE OF A WHITE MAN CRITICIZING HIS WOMEN.
You will not find ONE! White men know that nations and communities are lead be men being responsible and women will follow suit. When black men got locked up, drugged up and sorry, the women were not far behind.
A persons opinions on this topic are gonna be based on their experiences with black women. I agree with %95 of this “rant”. First off black women are different depending on the location. Im in Detroit which is home to some of the most finest….ratchet black women on earth. I could write a book but ill sum it up with two instances.
I met a fine black woman who was a journalist with no kids so i was excited to get to know her. Our first convo she tells me she has a man and it turns out hes a big time drug dealer from my hood. Im like y did u give me your number if you have a man. Her response “I aint married, he do what he do i do what i do”.
Another woman i dealt with is Japanese and black so you can imagine how fine she is. Shes educated and had a corporate job and didn’t have attitude problems. I was involved with her for 4 months and was very much into here. Her baby daddy was doing 6 yrs in prison for selling drugs. I eventually found out that she talks to him daily, sends him money every month, bought him a tv and provides anything else he needs. Ive got a bunch of similar stories just like alot of other successful black man.
I don’t know where Mack is from but here in the D finding a fine black woman without any issues is RARE. Seems like all the woman who dont have issues are taken by men who know how rare they are. My job sends me state to state so now im going to start getting seriously involved with women out of state because women in my environment have serious issues…and thats me putting it in a nice way.
I agree with Kris, I wouldn’t date an unappreciative and/or ghetto black woman to save my life. White women and Asians don’t have these issues. Mack was right to address these issues with black women, they are a mess and are undesired by all of the other races of men. They are some how smug while being usually ill raised and ill mannered. Good luck Mack, I would recommend giving up on American black women altogether.
When will we take this conversation that needs to take place between black men and black women off the internet?? We look stupid, constantly going back and forth about what we do and don’t like about each other PUBLICLY. It’s embarrassing.
I actually had this conversation recently with someone I am dating. He began to voice his discontentment with Black women, and I let him get it out, but then I informed him calmly that I have my own gripes about Black men, but does that mean I will stop dating Black men or go on my blog and go on and on about what they need to change about themselves? No, because it’s counterproductive.
I don’t have the problems you speak of. I don’t date or attract thugs or ex cons while leaving smart geeks to themselves. I I actually prefer smart men, but this has not kept me from experiencing a wealth of problems with THOSE Black men being non committal, carrying baggage from past relationships, being cheaters or emotionally unavailable, and who have “good black man” syndrome (never settling down because they know they are highly desired and catching all manner of diseases as a result).
The difference between you and I is, I have those conversations with the men I date (not on the internet), and it often leads to a very civilized discussion about the frustrations both of us experience. Black men need to lead, and their women will follow. Period. You do contradict yourself by saying that “you are what you attract” and then stating that the women you and your circle of friends have encountered have been this way. Maybe YOU need to step YOUR game up, instead of being the pot calling the kettle black.
And if you really want to “help” Black women, be a man that you would want your sister or your mother or your daughter to date, have integrity, and stop furthering the division between our culture by giving so called “constructive criticism.” Divide and conquer – the best way to destroy any culture, any unit or institution…Your website talks about unity among Black men, but seems to completely miss the mark. How can you have unity among Black men, and discord with your women?
OMG-TC you hit it on the nose sista!! Please say again and again. I looked up this dude too and saw his picture and just started laughing. Im a model and have no problem with men, but I never date outside my relationship-BLACK MEN FOREVER. Unlike this man, I would never let 1 or 2 bad apples keep me from dating my brothers. And yes girl, we did trade Mack LOL.. OMG, thank you for really putting it out there. WE ARE LEADING IN AIDS BECAUSE OF THE BLACK MAN AND HIS INFIDELITY!..But he would never speak the truth lol…
Oh and then if 80% of women have kids out of wedlock- then there is another 80% of men who had those kids with that women-There needs to be a reality check somewhere men. I know to many good black men that have kids with a woman they aren’t with, but the men commenting on this board are forgetting that your sperm contributes to the birth of that child LOL
Appreciate it @Mack how did she get gay from your comments? That was some left field shit for real. It’s funny…if all black men got their shit together right now and decided that would only deal with divine flesh women. most black women couldn’t meet that test. If 8o% of you all have kids out of wedlock what if men said they wouldn’t deal with females with kids? Where would that leave most? You know what’s so interesting? This is a sight that’s supposedly dedicated to black men yet mofo get mad when we express how we feel.
These brawds be bitter and mofo say they have a green light to be bitter. Mofo actually get on here and mock brothers for feeling hurt? This shit proves what we say is real. Brawd can be bitter and stank rude lewd and then when she is held to account for this people always want to blame slavery!!! I’m not letting you mofo get away with this shit. If the white man has so much control of your mind since slavery time then you should be enslaved it’s that simple. You obviously can’t think for yourself. So what else can you do but be a slave? And let’s state for the record that there were blacks during slavery time in America who owned other blacks. Hell if I had my way i’ve seen some niggas out here would look better in them chains again. Hell if you’re gonna let the jews build jails for your ass and make money off of you then hell i’m your brother let me make some money off of you too. Like I said ask the right questions. Are you married? have you been married? Are you a virgin? What’s your standard of family? You can’t assume these chicks want family.
I saw a chick downtown Atlanta today carrying her baby around without a stroller, covered with a thin blanket, wearing some boots lady gaga would perform in with tights on!!!! Damn chick the reason why you have that burden in your hand is because you dress like that in the first place. Mack you can’t save these chicks cause they are not pure. You can’t bring a flower back to life once it has died. You are dealing with spiritually dead females. And majority of these chicks go to church and that can’t help them. If God can’t help them what makes you think we can.
scripture says: Don’t marry a divorced woman or a woman who has served as a temple prostitute. You are holy,
They shall not take a wife that is a whore, or profane; neither shall they take a woman put away from her husband: for he is holy unto his God.
A priest shall not marry a woman who has been a prostitute or a woman who is not a virgin or who is divorced; he is holy.
Like i said this is spiritual, why you all think it’s racial and this is what they fight Sun. They’re not fighting you they’re fighting themselves Sun. We speaking priesthood shit and we didn’t have to go to no stupid as theology school to learn about the Creator. We learned in these deserts fam. When you can’t find a wife in this land you know its a problem
I think that most of you are missing the point. He was just stating the obvious. It’s not JUST our fault as black women portray. He’s not gay or bitter childish women. He’s just honest. Truth be told, there are so few good ones on either side. The good ones are stuck dealing with the side hoes and scrub ninjas. Black women do think to highly of themselves but then go out and date ninjas wit the wrong type of money (I.e. entertainers, stars, ninjas wit street money) cause those are the types that they are looking for. You all are confused. Good black men ARE looked at as soft, corny, uncle toms, etc. and because we don’t break our backs to chase you it’s our fault? We just need to look ourselves in the mirror and realize that we have all been bamboozled for a reason: So that we won’t have successful, beautiful and healthy families with good values. That’s the goal and we are making their dreams come true. Breaking up the black family is the most successful psychological experiment that has ever been recorded and we continue this cycle by preaching this ignorance. Once we stop hating ourselves we can begin loving our brothas and sistas. Women do need to stop putting us on blast for ours and their faults. Accept some responsibility and stop validating exactly what the white folks think: That we are the enemy. Especially because its our innate kingliness and surviving spirit that they relish. The only people that believe that ignorance are non-white men and black women. Open up a book and your eyes wit yo dumb ass and right these wrongs. Why do you think all other races of women love us? Because we are more of men when we are down and suffering than their successful counterparts will ever be. It’s true! These messages just ruined my damn day because everybody takes shit so personal and doesn’t think… And I’m not gay. I’m successful. I have a mixed child and now that I have grown wiser I see where we have all been led astray, I have been working on myself so please do the same. It’s never too late. Good article bro! I love you ladies too! Keep talking.
LOL.. Ladies, looks a this little man lol.. Black men and women out there- You ever hear of a racial draft? Let the white women and other races have this man. We traded him for Robin Thicke LOL. Look at his profile picture and then read his article. Who writes and article and states “me and my homies”? Im a therapist for HIV/AIDS patients and lets also point the facts out; Black women are leading in HIV/AIDS all from the black man who cheats and wears no protection, are on the down low, or from previous relationships that carried over. When you want to talk about black women talk about how we are actually on top of our health. Talk about the fact that a lot of the drama and baggage you refer to comes from black men. Talk about how black men hate using protection during sex. Talk about that fact that black men often trick off on a stripper first, before actually deciding to court a women. I not on the cover of Vogue magazine, but I’m definitely not handicap in the looks department, and I can honestly say these are the pick up lines I hear often from BLACK MEN: “Damn, you doing it like that? How can I be down” or “Damn you wearing the hell out of those jeans, can do you have room for me”. or “Aye, aye, excuse me- Oh damn I cant talk to you, fuck you then bitch you not all that anyway”- however I was all that because you broke your neck trying to speak. Mack, I wish you the best. Black women, keep doing what your doing to pass these men up and make them believe your not worthy. However, when they leave, put back on your worthy appearance for the man who hasn’t been passed up on and dogged like Mack has.
Wowwww…Black women certainly have baggage and challenges, but no more than black men that have mommy issues, were hurt by someone in high school or their freshman year in college and want to make the next 12 women pay for it and some of you hate women all together and still have not realized it. Let’s not forget the parents out there that don’t take care of their own children, but happily set up shop caring for the girlfriend’s or the wife’s children from her previous marriage/relationship. If we are going to be honest, and work together, let’s be honest and work together. All women aren’t described above, as all men are described in my comment either.
If anyone is offended by this its probably because it “mashed their corns” … (corn pudding anyone?)
Anyway, I’ve learned that Awareness is the greatest Agent for Change. I’m dying laughing at MizzPicklezz .. Cause that’s something I witness everyday in my office. What’s really bad is when you point this out to young ladies (out of concern) they suddenly want to quit or have a stink attitude that makes you want to fire them. At the end of the day a man (any race) sees his woman as his solace, his abode. And when he retires to his abode he desires PEACE not GRIEF. That’s so simple but we went at made a Conundrum out of it. If more of our black women aspired to emulate Michelle Obama than Evelyn Lozado we wouldn’t end up with butts upside our heads.
LOL, I think this is a great article. Many women claim they want the type of love and family that the First family has , but most women today won’t even look at brother driving in a VW. Michelle met and stayed with Barack while he was driving a VW with a hole in the bottom of it, that he covered with a mat. Most “educated” women wouldn’t look twice at a man in a VW.. All I am saying is that some of these women need to expand their horizons. I totally agree with Kris M. ..these girls are out here trying to change a thug , but won’t give cute Marquez from IT the time of day because he has a 9-5 and you say “I ain’t about that life girl, I need a real man!”. But that’s OK ’cause Marquez and Ling-Le are gonna have cute, adorable, multilingual mulatto babies. Marquez is going to get off at 5 driving his Chrysler Towne and Country while you at the office still waiting for Kilo to pick up in your car when you got out of work 2 hours ago!
I fully understand that the author was attempting to isolate his comments to only a group of women. I can even admit that there are some women in our race that could us some enlightenment. I just question the source. I believe the author to be a homosexual male. I live in Atlanta, the land of beautiful and successful black people (both male and female), we also have a large Gay community. Many of the gay black guys down here are very jealous of black women. Many of the author’s comments read as jealous; a person would only be jealous of black females if they were in competition with them. Why else would he concern himself with this group of women. I believe myself to be a wonderful specimen as a black woman, to one man I may be considered “extra average” I have never aimed to please the world as I know it is impossible to do so.
I wish the author would have dug deeper and admitted his true feelings. He is either gay or a “white girl dater”. This is a male that is looking for excuses to date the type of people that he is really attracted to. If you have slave thoughts and desire white women, just say so – If you have a thing for black men and see no error in them then just say so. Creating a way too long article that is supposedly only aiming at one group of black women was a digression from your true inner feelings.
I am a black Woman and its sad that I have to agree with everything that the author said. Sisters, even educated ones, prefer to be a side piece to some niggas than One man’s Queen…. And I’m not saying anything bad about my race. I love my black people. Especially MY Black Men, but I hate niggaz…. Its about time we stop lying to ourselves ladies
Mack, great article bro. I have been feeling this same exact way for a long time now. I love black women, but current gf and soon to be wife is from Africa. And trust me when I tell you, she treats me like a king. I look forward to reading more articles from you in the future.
The guy who wrote this is an idiot, Mack you are an idiot. You did to much generalizing and did exactly what you claim black women do that you dislike in this piece.
You spoke in generalizations, you talked about them not supporting black men without acknowledging ones that do. You spoke in absolutes and that was the problem along with your long list of generalizations. Your story read like a hurt little boy angry at black women and generalizing and insulting their intelligence with your article on what they should do rather then what black men need to do in terms of relationships.
For instance you mention that the reason black women can’t find a good black man is because they are so used to dating down.
Ask yourself something, why are there so many black brothas in that category of the lowest common denominator. Statistics show that their are more black men in prison then college so finding a good black man is harder they you even tried to rationalize.
You did nothing but generalize rather then target a specific kind of sista and specify issues that were non bias and rational. The funny thing about your post was that you did things in this article that you hate black women doing.
You threw many of them under the bus, you aired dirty laundry out in public and literally insulted black women in your piece rather then talking to them professionally and using constructive criticism.
There were some points that you missed that could of been pointed out better had the article not been riddled with generalizations and one sided opinions.
Mack,
Also, turn your hat forward, what professional sista wants a man with his hat sideways.
If you cant stop from generalizing stop making articles.
@ Selah:
Where have I met them at? Hmmm, lets see:
Church
Grocery store
Car lot
Mall
Bank
Sporting events
Clubs
Stuck in traffic
Book store
Coffee shop
In the military/out the military
I could go on, but hopefully you get the point.
And you’re right: you do attract what you are. Hence why I no longer have this problem. Doesn’t stop me from running across these types all the same. They’re so abundant, finding a sister minus the baggage and emotional issues, with her head screwed on properly is like spotting a damn Yeti. Hence why so many brothers are frustrated and incredulous.
spoken like a true member of the small peter club. Little too much rejection on your hands…..lump all black women into the same neat little box so that you feel better about your SHORT comings. Every gender, race, creed, and color comes with baggage in some form. so while these “sistas” are passing judgement on black women, lets hope they have a mirror in their pocket that they Take out from time to time and look in it.
LOL. Oh, brother. No, literally. This sounds like my brother. He says that these women you describe in your article are the only kind he meets. Except, I don’t know any of these women, so I ask him — where are you that you’re meeting them? What are you giving off that attracts them? perhaps it’s time to expand your horizons Mr. Author, because if you keep finding these kind of women, it might be saying more about you. Good luck!
No problem Dee. Thanks for your response.
For the record: if you were to go through the comments left over the course of the last few weeks and months, you would probably get a better grasp of my position on this matter. It gets tiring repeating the same things over and over again.
Now you referenced Jesus. Interesting. As I read the gospels, particularly the writing in red, I notice many places where Jesus not only used words to sting, he even resulted to outright insults at times. As needed I’m sure. He called one lady and her daughter both dogs. He called the rulers of Israel sons of snakes. He even referred to the King of Israel as a fox, which is a veiled way of calling him a sissy. So Jesus wasn’t as fluffy and soft like the pictures you see of the white hippy dude with the perm. He was a man who dealt with things the way a man does: with strong forceful love. Not that soft Downey love so many people today seem to prefer.
My credentials for ranting and offering a critique is one: my manhood. I DO happen to date black women, and know quite well of what I speak. Secondly, that old fashioned word called LOVE, which I just made reference to up above. Lets just say my love for my sisters won’t let me remain silent on this issue. But again: its a man’s type of love. But love nonetheless.
Am I a bit of a jerk? Probably. I’m sure you can read the sarcasm in the article. But I’m a good jerk at the end of the day. 😉
I hope that answered your questions.
Sorry for the typos, sending this from my phone
Initially I agreed with some of the points you made. However, you lost me when you made the comparison to a physician and plumber who received specialized, formal training in their respective fields. So as I am not a regular reader, please provide your formal training/credentials in this area that appears to be your personal opinion. I would honestly appreciate who fairly cricized both black men and women without making either feel inferior. Truth be told, there isnt an abundance of good black men. And there may not be an abundance of good black women either (i dont know for sure because im not interested in dating them). Some black men ppear to be bittee because of the way the message is delivered. Dont tell me you are trying to help make things better when you are using words to tear people down. Now i dont mean to get all spiritual on you but Jesus was perfect and seasoned his words with love. Please try that. It is possible to be direct without demeaning someone. At the end of the day we all have work to do and need for improvement. Im sure things will get better if we focused on our own flaws instead of pointing out others in an attempt to deflect from our own imperfections.
THAT WAS ON POINT! I LOVE IT!
I gotta admit…this article is true. Glad I have enough sense, confidence in my femininity and a light-hearted approach to life and love to truly not fall into this sector of sisters! I challenge ALL women to become modern day goddesses! Drop the attitude. Add mystique. Smile. Laugh. Be interesting. A good woman is good. She doesn’t have to pat herself on the back…ijs.
lol..’Think of me as that little voice deep within your subconscious, attempting to reason with what’s left of your sanity, calling you to come back home” .. hmm sounds a bit along the lines of talking ‘ish doesnt it?.. Those were your words sir not mine.. another quote from ‘Mack”: Those who don’t can go join the lonely cat-woman’s club. I’m simply trying to enlighten obviously darkened minds. My point to both of my retorts was this: How are you any better than the women you speak of? Are you not bashing? Self righteous much?.. I still respect and refuse to bad-mouth my Brothers.. my kings as a whole because despite the fact I havent come across many that I would personally date.. I realize their demeanor are probably due in part to negative experiences with women. But when I read a board of brothers who probably idolize these half naked, ‘bad bitches’/ with no moral substance bash sisters in the same manner they loathe.. its comical to say the least.
lol..’Think of me as that little voice deep within your subconscious, attempting to reason with what’s left of your sanity, calling you to come back home” .. hmm sounds a bit along the lines of talking ‘ish doesnt it.. Those were your words sir not mine.. another quote from ‘Mack”: Those who don’t can go join the lonely cat-woman’s club. I’m simply trying to enlighten obviously darkened minds. My point to both of my retorts was this: How are you any better than the women you speak of? Are you not bashing? Self righteous much?.. I still respect and refuse to bad-mouth my Brothers.. my kings as a whole because despite the fact I havent come across many that I would personally date.. I realize their demeanor are probably due in part to negative experiences with women. But when I read a board of brothers who probably idolize these half naked, ‘bad bitches’/ with no moral substance bash sisters in the same manner they loathe.. its comical to say the least.
@ Savvy:
Am I getting tired of telling everyone else whats wrong with them you ask? Not what I’m doing at all. But for the sake of argument, lets flip that question around. Do you think a doctor gets tired of telling sick people what’s wrong with them, or prescribing a remedy? How about a plumber: do you think he gets tired of telling people what plumbing issues they have or how to fix them? Do you ask the same question of your car mechanic when your car is acting up?
Some of us speak on these issues because they need addressing, and we actually care. The evidence of having a passion for something is often proof you’ve been uniquely designed to help heal it. Hence why I and others on this site can illicit the type of responses we receive, good and bad. And I don’t need to be ‘credentialed’ by an institution of Eurocentric learning to know what ails my folks. We didn’t need any credentialing agencies to get into this mess.
You mentioned taking a look in the mirror. Looking in the mirror is only effective if the mirror you stare into doesn’t present you with a distorted image. The mirror we’ve been looking into lately within our community is cracked, dirty, smeared and distorted. Like one of those carnival mirrors. All I’m doing is wiping that mirror off. Few seem to want to look at the ugly cold truth. But that’s the only way true and lasting change can happen.
We can hold hands and ‘kumbaya’ later. Right now we got work to do.
@ Ramses: Great drop homie…Man, that link is a beast. SMH
@ Lauryn: Thanks.
My brother you already know how I feel couldn’t have said it better at mack….they get the thumbs down in my book….when you think of black women nothing positive comes to mind…. nothing but drama…when you got beasts like amber rose saying she loves being referred to as a baby mama it makes her feel ratchet then what i have been saying on this site is true although most of these clowns would have you believe that’s an isolated event. If you do the numbers in a place like brazil in terms of the amount of available women of african descent opposed to those in america it’s not even a comparison….80 to 90 million people of african descent if you just took half of that number and said it was women, that would make the 13-14 million black women over here look like a bone with no meat on it. It’s a numbers game fellas. We keep circulating the same tired hoes!!! Lol. And then don’t get me started on the looks cause there’s no comparison. You have more women there who are not only physically more beautiful, but they require less from their men in terms of not being overbearing. They take pride in satisfying their men. Brazilian women outlook is that they feel they are God’s gift to Man!!! Think about that. They feel they are a present to Man. Juxtapose that with (oh yeah ladies i used the word juxtapose which means i am articulate) black women here and most come off as if they’re Satan’s spawn!!! Real talk….Deanna matthews what you have to overstand this is tough love. We wouldn’t get on these sites saying this stuff if it wasn’t needed to be said. Even if it’s a rant, haven’t we heard black women rant far too long? I can honestly tell you that I have generally no respect for black women. Not because i hate them but because they in general have given me nothing to respect. And to be honest with you I have never felt (key word felt) that black women have been on my side period. That’s just honesty and i’m pretty sure some brothers on here can attest to that. Deanna we are past that positive reinforcement, self-help, Iyanla Van Zant crap seriously. These chicks are appalling I mean look at this and tell me we shouldn’t rant http://tommysotomayor.com/?p=12265. Hell the ones who rant care. Why don’t people take the same approach when Black men don’t speak up? i remember when Oprah said on her show that Black women need to explore their options in terms of finding suitable marriage partners and not be so focused on a black man. If we say it we get blasted, but Oprah says it, she gets a free pass. And @ Tarak you need to come to Atlanta Georgia…whole different scenery here bruh like 666 Mafia Ass And Titties Ass and Titties Ass and Titties and Big Booty bitches. You have a city full of demonic women here. It’s so bad I don’t even like to go out in public seeing all these demonic hyper-sexual beings. Most people who disagree with Mack think this is racial but we are talking about something that exists on spiritual science level. As long as you look at it strictly from a racial scenario, then you’re gonna stay on this tired ass motif of the Queen Goddess Mother Earth bull. These chicks are nothing like the fertility Goddesses of ancient cultures. These women aren’t Isis or Anpu or Ishtar. You’ll need to read some ancient scrolls first then debate us cause clearly your reference point is slavery, which is the major problem within itself. The best thing i ever did was see King Tut’s exhibit because it was the first time I had saw our culture on display in a museum showing what we did when we were not in the control of someone else and really we aren’t now it’s just people’s minds are in a permanent brain freeze and that’s why they can’t accomplish anything. Don’t save her she don’t want to be saved. Hey Mack the music tell us all the time what the truth is. You can tell a lot about a people through their art. Look at the pop culture and it’s a direct reflection of what this nonsense is. And most white guys who date black women either have a complex about slavery and want to make up for it or were the weakest ones in the group and couldn’t get the top of the line white girls. Not to say that there aren’t ones who can’t legitimately love them but the ones who get on sites like this and try to defend them fit that profile to me because if you so happy with your black woman, why the fuck are you on here commenting in the first place? I wouldn’t be surprised if this mofo is a cointelpro trying to instigate shit and hell it might even be a black mofo at that because we know how niggas are adepts at selling they own out. Don’t even entertain him mack. I’ll tell you what it is…these white mofos, not all of them, but the ones in positions of power came along a few years ago and realized through the media that Black Men were going to other lands looking for other women so they dropped this article in essence, a magazine now owned by a Jew, (not white there’s a difference) to stoke up this back and forth between black men and women which is why you have steve harvey giving relationship advice, which is comical to say the least. However, this article tried to call out black men for going to brazil for sexual excursions (although this same behavior was celebrated in How Stella Got Her Groove Back) to embarrass brothers for seeking happiness. See what they are scared of is losing their control over black men (white men and black women). Their symbiotic relationship keeps him in line. He controls the media and she controls his flesh. It’s a tag team and when the brother breaks free of the shit, they both converge on him to make his ass get back in line. The problem is this shit backfired because now you see all these hoes in the media and it’s not rocket science to see that the reason black men don’t want to marry black women is simple: they are not worth marrying. Sex toys cool. All day. Wives….Mofo please. It’s unGodly to referto this generation of not only black women but american women in general as wife material. You have some of course but as a collective, most black women here aren’t really even fit to be concubines. We are not falling for that emotional shit NO MORE. We peeped your game and it’s tired and you have been exposed. I make no excuses for wanting to be with an extremely attractive and culturally refined Woman who not only i can teach but can learn from as well. These stank ass brawds always talking about I deserve this and that. Cool if you think you deserve a baller. My only question to you is “are you a virgin.” if you can offer virgin womb, that’s not defiled then I wouldn’t have a problem with a Woman expecting a Man with certain ambition. But if you don’t value your own womb, yet expect me to value you, you are sick in the damn head. And that’s what I love about virginity. You can’t play me on that shit. And I take it back to those ancient culture where women were checked before a Man went up in them. That’s culture. Hell you got mothers outh ere who let their daughters be screwed by their boyfriends but you want me to value these females. It ain’t happening. You brawds never thought the black man would wake up but you calculated wrong and now it has you scrambling, running for cover, trying to hide your iniquitous ways. Cats like myself and Mack got that Superman X-Ray vision and see right through you though and that’s what black women hate: they hate for brothers to peep their game because in reality they are the biggest pimps out here. And for the white boy on here who has a black woman, I’m not racist bruh i embrace the entire human family and if you and this black schik you with are truly in love, then who am I to stand in the way of that. But don’t get on this forum talking that Captain Save a Hoe shit when you have no idea what it’s like to deal with these monsters and quite frankly it’s many of you’ll that are running from your women in america too going to those jungles in south america too. So don’t front bruh.