Thick vs. Thin Sista’s caught up in appearance…

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(ThyBlackMan.com) Some people may say I am a thick sista or a big boned sista or the ignorant ones just call you the F-word and we all know what it means and of course, it pisses me off. I don’t consider myself any of those things even if I have to shop in the plus size department. I don’t like it when brotha’s over look a beautiful sista because of her size and then she, like a fool run’s to go get skinny because they have made her insecure about who she is. I personally feel like this, I know that we can all check our weight and if you are over the medical limit, do something about it but I am not going to change myself because people, particularly brothers buy into society’s idea of what is beautiful.

Believe me, I can run circles around most of these chicks and the only difference between me and them is the size of my clothes. I am not ashamed of what size I wear or to go the best shops to find the most superior clothing for plus size sista’s. I am currently on a diet want to modify my weight for me, I have no illnesses all praises to the most highest God Almighty and his most merciful son Jesus Christ for that, but I am not ashamed.

Maybe I am not who you think I should be or the kind of woman that YOU want me to be but I know one thing for sure and that is I am a dynamic, educated, well mannered , beautiful and sophisticated one to myself and anyone who has me on their arm is privileged. I am not saying that I am a super model but I think we are all Gisele Bündchen in our own right; you don’t need society or some commercial to tell you that you are beautiful God made us in his image and for that we should be proud. Most men can’t handle me; my attitude, my vanity, my demeanor why not?

Why should I feel less about myself because people around this world think that everyone should be Barbie and because I am not I am less than her? Oh no way. I am so much more than that, so much greater and if you feel like you as a man should pass me by oh well, that’s your problem I know I am the bomb to my darn self.

Regardless of what people say or what society makes you believe you should always have pride in yourself. I have read on blogs how they make fun of Gabrielle Sidibe calling her fat and black and all kinds of ignorant and insensitive comments. I think Gabbie is a beautiful black woman and guess what: So does she. In reality we all need to be healthy; the statistics for heart disease, diabetes and other conditions are alarming for black folks and because we don’t take care of ourselves we are dropping like flies on sticky tape. However; if according to your doctor you’re being a little thick is in the right places, then so be it. The world doesn’t have the right to judge you and should not allow those in the world to make you change and start judging yourself. I am proud of whom I am and I dare anyone to come along to try and make me see different.

As always, these are thoughts from a sista.

Staff Writer; Nicole C.

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7 Comments

Bill says:

January 9, 2013 at 11:18 am

Fascinating piece, thanks for writing this. My wife is 5’8″, and weighs 272 lbs.
We lock horns frequently, but not how you might think. My concern with her obesity is tied in with her vital signs. I demand that her blood pressure, heart rate, blood sugar, glucose level, cholesterol, etc., be tested every six months. My wife is less concerned with this than losing poundage. The only problem is that, while she may go on a diet and lose 19 pounds in two months, within weeks she had gained it back. It’s as if her natural weight is between 270 and 280 pounds. As long as she stays under 280/85, all her signs are within healthy range. When she goes over 285, wham! And, oddly, when she loses weight, her blood pressure and heart rate goes up. Naturally, she is frustrated and full of self-reproach. I want her to be happy and relaxed about her body, but even more important is that she is healthy at whatever weight she is at.

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William Jackson says:

December 12, 2011 at 8:59 pm

I enjoyed the meat (no pun intended) of this article and the implications of self confidence and self respect. More of our young Black women need to feel confident and have more self respect not matter what size they are.
Teaching at a elementary school and HBCU I see and hear how others talk about
our plus size young ladies. These statements are cruel and inhumane, the very sad part is these statements are coming from their so called friends.
Black on Black hating is demeaning and culturally destuctive, but it happens every day. Personally I love our plus size women, because they do have more self confidence, personal drive to do better in their lives.
I know more Black women with Master degrees and PhD’s that are plus size than the sisters that want to look like a Black barbie.
The truth is we all loose when we hate on each other..

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Janet A. says:

December 12, 2011 at 12:40 pm

So what you’re saying is that you are entitled to making everything about you once again. This is not a stupid article, this is one that bears discussion. The existence of this one does not negate the importance of the other, what you need to do is write your own damn article and stop making this one about you.

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GaryW says:

December 8, 2011 at 11:32 am

@Janet

Your response is very humorous and you seem to contradict yourself with your statement. Speaking out when hypocrisy occurs is not an attempt to silence anyone’s voice but to bring awareness of double standards that are being applied. Nobody should be judged only on looks, appearances, social-economic status, size etc. In other words I refuse to “hold my tongue” whenever I see or hear BS, racial bigotry or any stupid comments.

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Janet A. says:

December 7, 2011 at 10:21 pm

@ Gary W.
Sir, I’m going to need you to stop erasing the voices of black women to talk about the voices of black men. There’s a time and a place and this is neither of those.

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BlackBeauty says:

December 7, 2011 at 7:17 pm

More power to you my sister!

And, you are very beautiful!

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GaryW says:

December 7, 2011 at 7:03 pm

Where are the articles about sistas who pass black men by that appear to be blue collar for what they think is a white collar man. Or the articles on sistas who pass black men who drive a Toyota for a guy that’s leasing a Cadillac. Where’s your article for black women who pass by black man who dresses conservatively but run to a clown wearing bling and looking like a thug.

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