(ThyBlackMan.com) This topic is a sensitive one and may offend those who think it’s nothing wrong with their behavior, as a woman I recognize that sometimes we can get drawn into things without being aware of it and once it happens, it’s a little too late. But what about when you are willing and wanting without thinking about the consequences and outcomes.. Come on this trip with me ya’ll…
Duped and Deceived:
Have I lost my mind? I should’ve known when I met this brother, who with his stellar good looks and his smooth, smooth talking that something was up because he said he had no kids, no chick and in a nice frank way, he had no baggage. I thought to myself could this be? Had I finally hit the I-got-a –man jackpot? But just as the inner I suspected, my Mr. Too- good- to- be- true 
turned out to be Mr. You- got a -what? My brother man jackpot became a pot of bad luck because yes, he has a woman. In that instant, I have suddenly become my own nemesis: I am the other woman….What can you do in a situation like this? He lied to you and certainly you couldn’t have known or did you? We all know that the signs are always written on the wall but by the time you read them you’re all ready to be wifed up and having his babies.
Truth be told, the signs may have been there but when you’re caught up in that thing called love you see only what you want to see and even God himself can’t make you see different. You are armed with the information and so, do you continue? If you decide to be the “other woman” in his life because you have fallen in love and are willing to do anything just to have a piece of your man, you are no longer the duped and deceived you have now become a willing participant.
The willing participant:
So, I am the other woman I know he has a wife or a girlfriend, it doesn’t matter to me I like what I’m getting and as long as I get mine I don’t give a damn. Really, and what exactly are you getting? Sex on the side when he can sneak away, a baby or two when you choose to be the other woman with wifely tendencies, a little money (I said a little cuz if he ain’t rich u really ain’t getting ish… cuz home does come first my dear) So the sad reality of your living fallacy is that this man could drop dead today and you and your children would be the family that’s left out in the dark. If you are one of the small fractions of women whose husband’s do leave them for the next chick, then to you I take my hat off. If you receive glory from destroying another woman’s home then I feel sorry for you. Don’t think the saying what goes around comes around was made up because people thought it sounded good, it has a truism to it that lets us all know to be careful of those Great Gatsby come uppings.
The worst type of woman is one who feels she is entitled to I will repeat; entitled to take someone else’s man. Now the truth is he can’t be taken if he doesn’t want to be and a happy man is not a cheating man but a sophisticated sista like me with my I- know- I –got- it -together attitude doesn’t want her cheating azz man either. Sista’s take inventory of yourself and recognize that what you thought was the start of something special might be your own worse nightmare. It’s not enough that we as black women disrespect each other on a regular basis but when we start disrespecting the sanctuary of God’s law we have crossed the line. No matter what anyone tells you or what the next chick says, when the sign reads taken sista’s please stay away…
And these are just thoughts from a sista…
Staff Writer; Nicole Moro
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