(ThyBlackMan.com) It’s a phenomenal experience to read an article that just grips you. Articles of that caliber are written by writers – oftentimes Award-winning – who have “SPENT TIME” caressing, massaging and speaking to and having the article chat back with them.
As a writer and editor I’ve awaken in the middle of the night to alter a single word – this because my mind wouldn’t rest. I have wrestled with whether a paragraph should be moved up or down a graph or two; contemplated if a different graph should be deleted all together. I’ve modified headlines with the deadline screaming, “it’s time to let the story go.” In contrast I’ve had writers 
submit stories for publishing that lacked compelling or relevant information; was void engaging quotes and demonstrated no respect for the readers. It was obvious the writer fail to “SPEND TIME” with the story.
There is a difference between “spending time” with a story and “SPENDING TIME” with that story. Equally there’s a difference between “SPENDING TIME” with your wife and “spending time” with her.
I recall having a conversation with a husband who just didn’t understand why his wife was beefin’. He had recently taken her on a weeklong cruise to the Island and thought her constant complaining after the trip was unwarranted. In our dialogue it became clear that while he had taken her on a cruise – she was rarely the focus of his attention while on the cruise. Her wish was that the time alone would help them to reconnect, but it was business as usual – her husband’s spirit was everywhere but with her on the cruise. The voyage became his badge of honor oppose to “SPENDING” quality time with his wife.
Too many wives must watch as their husbands invest quality time in their careers, hobbies, Sunday afternoon football games, hanging out with their boys or their dedication to the church, frats and extended family – all while treating their wives as “the” afterthought. It’s not enough to just spend time with your wife, you must be intentional about the time that you spend with her – this validates her. Hey, everybody loves to be validated.
Understand that I’m not suggesting that you not invest in your career or that you divorce your hobbies. But know when you invest quality time in your marriage you are in essence caressing and massaging the spirit of your wife; and by making yourself available to engage in committed dialogue with her paves the way for a phenomenal experience. While nothing is 100 percent, what you invest in the way of quality time will not return to you empty.
Don’t allow the story of your marriage to be poorly written. “SPEND TIME” with your wife and you’ll become an Award-winning Husband.
How do you “SPEND TIME” with your wife?
Staff Writer; Reginald Williams
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