(ThyBlackMan.com) Much of the time one parent does not realize what they are doing. The effect on the kids is unnoticed. It is usually experienced by the child as stress, tension, anxiety, guilt and depression. Kids may act out or hide it. Parents usually justify it. What is “it?” On ...
(ThyBlackMan.com) You can make a difference when it comes to insulating your children from the harmful effects of unavoidable divorce. Children of divorce are most affected by ongoing conflict, absent parents, and financial shifts in lifestyle. Moreover, how the child responds to the divorce is modeled by how each parent ...
(ThyBlackMan.com) My entire life, I’ve seen the costs and consequences of parents who don’t want to pay to take care of their own kids. My father abandoned me when I was child, and to my knowledge, paid zero or close to no child support. Over the years, I had two ...
(ThyBlackMan.com) When a new baby is born, fathers, mothers, family and friends all celebrate. For several days, balloons, flowers, gifts and cards flood the hospital and decorate the new parents’ home. The new parents experience a kind of euphoria: giving birth to a new creation that is a bit of ...
(ThyBlackMan.com) I needed a screwdriver. Passing the bag of recycled cans on the steps, I went straight to the tool shed in the garage and claimed my screwdriver. “Why would you walk right by this bag of cans and not take it out to the garage?” my wife shrieked. “Well, ...
(ThyBlackMan.com) When I was coming up, I would finish my homework as quickly as possible to join my friends, who seemingly never had homework (thanks Gifted & Talented program) outside to play football, basketball, ride our bikes or just run the streets. We would hurry home to preserve as much ...
(ThyBlackMan.com) “Guys, get out of the mud! How many times do I have to tell you?” The words spilled out of my mouth. I felt myself re-creating the same words my parents had said to me so many times in the past, and I felt powerless to change my kids’ ...
(ThyBlackMan.com) As soon as my wife said it, I could feel the tension. My “trigger point” had been hit, and an argument was waiting to happen. But our kids happened to be in the same room. And if you listen to the experts on parental conflict, you learn that arguing ...
(ThyBlackMan.com) As a coach who helps parents to be more effective, I’m often asked the same kinds of questions. “How can I get my kid to listen?” “How can I motivate my kid to do homework?” Or, “why does my child get so angry with me?” While there isn’t a ...
(ThyBlackMan.com) There is an old zen koan that says, “don’t just do something, sit there.” It has wonderful application to family life today. We’ve created the most overscheduled and busiest society in history. Our kids are moving from one activity to another, and they seem to have more schoolwork, more ...
(ThyBlackMan.com) This philosophy’s been around a long time. In fact, a study done by Zero to Three, a nonprofit child-development group, found that 61 percent of the adults who responded condone spanking as a regular form of punishment. The percentage of parents who actually use spanking is believed to be ...
(ThyBlackMan.com) They’re both called parents, but mothers and fathers bond with their kids differently. For the mom, the relationship begins at conception and grows through the pregnancy and throughout life. For the father, the bond is forged at birth, when he first lays eyes on and holds his child. Most ...