(ThyBlackMan.com) My plan for this Thanksgiving was to sit home and play video games. I’ve lost a lot of family members, and though I love the small amount of family I have left we aren’t that close. I battle everyday with my illnesses, and sometimes when I’m feeling stronger, I just want peace and happiness. I take my wins where I can get them. Family is such a broad term for many of us. I’ve been blessed to have people in my life that are not blood, but they are the best family members a girl could ask for. they seem to know when I’ve spent enough time by myself, though I truly don’t mind. I never want my issues to be a burden to anyone, especially during the holidays.
However, they’ve decided I will have a full holiday through the weekend in true New Orleans fashion. Thanksgiving with family, and the weekend will be filled with the Bayou Classic. Originally, I declined the invitation, but in mediation I realize sometimes we need holiday buddies. These are the God given family members that think of you and move you out of your comfort zone.
Grief, health, or simply being low on energy can have you ready to spend the holidays alone. Though you can justify your reason for doing so 
there is usually a moment, no matter how small, whereby you have to fight the pull of being down about whatever caused you to be at home alone. You might be the person that is always there for everyone. You cherish your community because of all the things in terms of family you don’t have. These people have accepted you into their hearts, and there isn’t much you wouldn’t do for them. In many cases these people love on us and understand us in ways our blood family don’t. It’s because of this connection that your buddies are calling you out from under your rock to celebrate the holidays with them…your family.
Before you tell these loved ones no, think about what your presence means for them. No, you might not have a traditional family…but you have a family. You have people that love you, and value your company. You are a light that adds joy to their world, as they add such for you. Don’t deny yourself of the opportunity to be loved on, and love on those you care about. One thing grief reminds us of…is tomorrow is not promised. You might be sitting at home missing people that have passed, but you are also missing time to cherish those that are still here. Your good buddies remind you that you are still here, on this earth and while you miss those that are no longer here…there are people waiting to love and make memories with you.
I encourage you to challenge your grief, loneliness, or depression to allow others to pour love upon your heart. It might seem weird or hard, but you might find yourself having a wonderful time. I admit there is a large part of me that wants to just sit in my comfy chair, read, and play games. However, I know tomorrow isn’t promised and my health reminds me that every day I wake up is a gift from God. I’m going to get up an love on those that love me. I want to continue to make good memories, so that I have something to refer to on days I might have trouble moving. You never know what’s ahead of you. If you have people that you love, and they love you well…enjoy this holiday time together with your buddies.
Staff Writer; Chelle’ St James
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