(ThyBlackMan.com) Studies suggest that a vast majority of people – up to eighty percent – get up in the morning and report to jobs they don’t like and work with people they virtually hate. In the process, ulcers are born, mental breakdowns rocket, physical fitness fails and dreams are aborted. Why? Because most people would rather wake up to such a reality than create the reality which exists in their dreams. In short, they walk away from their dreams. Here are three reasons, among many, why this happens. If you are guilty of one of the below, wake up and dream again!
1. Triumph of the Morning Heckler
For many, dreams are lost in the first seven seconds of the day. It is during this most crucial time that a man or woman is literally talked out of their dreams by what I call the ‘morning heckler’. The morning heckler is the voice in our head, the block in our path and the constant inner negative chatter that kills our spirit and lampoons our dreams. The morning heckler greets us when we open our eyes just as an usher greets a stranger at the doors of a church. 
The job of a morning heckler is simple: to remind us of the enormity of the task we wish to undertake and the likelihood of the fool we’re going to look like. The morning heckler opens up a can of ‘whoop ass’ on the person who dares to dream. For most, the psyche can’t handle it, and the person relents and goes back to doing what they hate to do.
Motivation:
When you arise in the morning, think of what a precious privilege it is to be alive – to breathe, to think, to enjoy, to love.
-Marcus Aurelius
2. Spooked by what they See
People also walk away from their dreams because they’ve seen others whose dreams went down in flames and they become spooked by what they see. They see the failure of others and, subsequently, begin to write the narrative of their own failure. They begin to mentally list reasons why they, too, will fail. Not enough capital; zero cash on hand; too many bills, and not enough knowledge about the industry they wish to enter. People also walk away from their dreams because they listen to the ‘experts’ in a particular industry who bemoan the prospects of success due to market conditions. These people conveniently forget that the period during which most millionaires were made in American history was the Great Depression.
Once the mental list is complete, there’s nothing left to plan for.
Motivation:
Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.
-Sir Winston Churchill
3. Their Dreams are Ridiculed by Others
Sadly, people walk away from their dreams because they face ridicule. The morning heckler is reincarnated into friend or family heckler who laughs at your dreams. In many ways, this heckler is two times more negative than the morning heckler – if only for the fact that this heckler reinforces the virulence of the morning heckler.
Your five closest friends, family members or associates will determine, to a great extent, the depth and height of your dreams. Think about it. Most people get up in the morning, go to a job they don’t like, pay bills and raise children – and then they die. Why shouldn’t you be entitled to the same?! Who are you to dream? Who are you to want to start a business? Who are you to want financial freedom? If you aren’t careful, these ‘hecklers’ will have you feeling guilty for wanting more than them – indeed they will kill your dreams just so that you can’t!
Motivation:
Love what you do and do what you love. Don’t listen to anyone else who tells you not to do it. You do what you want, what you love.
-Ray Bradbury
If you see yourself in one of the above categories, wake up and dream again!
Staff Writer; W. Eric Croomes
This talented brother is a holistic lifestyle exercise expert and founder and executive coach of Infinite Strategies LLC, a multi-level coaching firm that develops and executes strategies for fitness training, youth achievement and lifestyle management. Eric is an author, fitness professional, holistic life coach and motivational speaker.
In October 2015, Eric released Life’s A Gym: Seven Fitness Principles to Get the Best of Both, which shows readers how to use exercise to attract a feeling of wellness, success and freedom (Infinite Strategies Coaching LLC, 2015) – http://www.infinitestrategiescoaching.com.
