(ThyBlackMan.com) Here we go again, with this silly debate over interracial marriage. With all of the real problems we have in this world, you’d think that people would realize that becoming fixated on who’s marrying who is just plain dumb. If you don’t like race mixing, simply don’t marry anyone of a different race and mind your own business. When two people fall in love and get married, it’s nobody’s business but their own. Yet, in spite of the fact that most people don’t have a firm grip on their own lives, they want to try to control everyone else’s. Life could be so sweet and simple if we’d just learn to mind our own damn business. But the fact that we just can’t seem to do that is causing much of our misery.
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We’re currently in a class war, and if the poor and middle class don’t cut out the nonsense, recognize that fact, and come together we’re doomed. The establishment has Blacks against Whites, straights against gays, citizens against immigrants, and Christians against any everybody who don’t look, think and act like themselves, and it’s killing us, because as we fight among one another, the rich are cutting all of our throats. That’s how we got stuck with Trump, instead of minding their own business, people voted their hatred and anger. Now many of them are threatened with having their badly needed healthcare taken away just because he wants to give the rich a tax cut. But they didn’t think that far in advance. All they wanted to do was erase Barack Obama’s legacy from history. Oh yeah, they voted to hurt people, but they didn’t think it was going to be themselves. But that’s the way hatred and bigotry works. It invariably backfires, as is the foolish backlash against interracial marriage, because bigotry divides people who should be allies – and in this case, it’s fruitless in any event, because you can’t barriers up against love.
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But if racial purity happens to be your thing, instead of worrying about other people’s marriages, you should be focused on many of our young brothers, because they’re the true stumbling blocks to that effort. They’re killing each other, going to jail, becoming dope fiends, and failing to educate themselves, while the National Center for Education Statistics has reported that “black women are now the most educated group in the United States.”According to the report, “between 2009 and 2010, black women earned 68 percent of all associate degrees awarded to black students, as well as 66 percent of bachelor’s degrees, 71 percent of master’s degrees and 65 percent of all doctorates awarded to black students.”
The report goes on to say, “By both race and gender, a higher percentage of black women (9.7 percent) are enrolled in college than any other group, topping Asian women (8.7 percent), white women (7.1 percent) and white men (6.1 percent).” On the other hand, here’s what far too many of our young brothers are doing:As nations go, The United States is in its infancy. It’s only 241 years old among nations like Iraq that’s been around for thousands of years before the birth of Christ. So we’re destined to become one people just like in other countries. .Considering the way people are intermarrying, in another couple of hundred years or so to be an American won’t just be a nationality, it’ll to be an ethnicity, and there’s nothing we can do to stop that – and our interconnections due to the media is rushing that day forward even faster. That’s the way the world and nature, works.
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African Americans have already been mongrelized beyond description. Yes, we have African roots, but pure-blooded Africans we’re not. I’ve had people remind me that Barack Obama is part White, and I tell them, yes, that means he’s African American, and 99.9% of all African Americans are part White. My great grandmother, Miss Cassie, looked like a White woman with big lips, and my great grandfather was German. And now that I’m getting older, I can’t even wear a natural anymore, because my hair has reverted back to being straight for some reason.
So as Afrocentric as I’ve always tried to be all of my life, some White boy deep in my ancestry is having the last laugh – He’s saying, “Hey Homie, peek-a-boo.” My mother used tell me that my natural looked like a carpet, so if somebody had told me 20 years ago that one day the wind would be able to blow my hair out of place I would have told them they were out of their mind, but that day has come. Thus, if racial purity is our goal, it’s far too late for that, so we might as well stop whining about it. We’d be much better served to focus our efforts on bringing the poor and middle class of the various races, and every other division, together to work toward our survival.
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What these brothers are engaged in all but insures that if things continue as they are there’s going to be a lack of suitable Black mates for Black women. So if we really want to slow down race mixing, we need to stop hating and do something constructive about this – and in a hurry. We need, somehow, to get these brothers to grow up, because 47 year-old teenagers don’t make good fathers.
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The fact is, many Black men have a lot of opinions about what it means to be Black, but unfortunately, none of them seem to have anything to do with improving themselves. Most of them have more to do with trying to be cool and macho. On the other hand, Black women are moving forward at an unprecedented rate. So while Black women have been renowned for their love of Black men, and their willingness to stand by them under the most trying circumstances over the centuries, for a highly educated and intelligent woman to have to put up with what is essentially a child with whiskers who refers to women as “bitches” and “hoes”, it’s going to prove even more than they can bear. But, in fairness, sometimes the reverse is true, where we have upwardly mobile Black men connected to foot-dragging women. I’ve also known that to be the case. But the point is, if we want to enhance our culture we shouldn’t be wasting our time worrying about who’s marrying who, because we have some serious work to do on our own lives.
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Due to our failure to address Black issues on a community level and clearly define who we are, and who we aspire to be, as a people, as individuals we’re growing, or failing to grow, at different levels. As a result, many among us are seeking companionship on emotional and intellectual levels rather than by race. After all, we are what we think, not what we look like, and you can only trust a person who looks like you some of the time, while you can trust a person who thinks like you all of the time.
So when looked at like that, it makes perfect sense to seek out and marry a person who’s more like yourself by disposition, worldview, and intellect. For example, if two people were drowning and I could only save one, I’d save Bernie Sanders long before I’d even think about saving Clarence Thomas, Ben Carson, or Allen West, because Bernie thinks more like I do, while those others may look like me, but they’re “brothers from another mother.” And finally, if we truly hate bigots, we should never allow ourselves to support their mindset and/or philosophy. When we do, that makes them our brothers; we’re simply on the other team.
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So as Black people, if we really want to promote what it means to be Black, it is essential that we educate ourselves and use our natural creativity to promote enlightenment. We need to stop walking around hating on people who are loving one another, raising families, and trying to be productive, because they’re doing what they’re suppose to be doing to enhance humanity. Instead, we should dedicate that energy toward working on our cultural dysfunction. Our failure to do that is what’s killing us as individuals, as a culture, and eventually, it’s going to kill our society as a whole.
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So if you’re a hater, your attitude betrays three inescapable facts about who you are – you’re ignorant, you lack focus, and you’re a burden on society.
Staff Writer; Eric L. Wattree
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LogicBomb, you speak of Clarence Thomas, Thomas Sowell, Ben Carson. All three of these men are idiots. what else can you call a man like Carson who suggests that the White man did us a favor by enslaving us? You must be a conservative, or what I call, a “bligot.”
Kirkland, this article deals with one issue – the fact that you ARE what you think, so you should marry who you love.
So you say you would save bernie Sanders before black men that defied white society stereotypes to each become something great and accomplished as black men.
But then you turn around and tell black men to “growup,” to be more accomplished like black women.
Maybe you need to have a seat and really think about what a functioning black community would ACTUALLY look like.
It would look like a bunch of clarence Thomases, Thomas sowells, ben carsons AND barrack obamas.
For you to sit up there and double talk the way you did shows you have no god damn clue what you are talking about or advising black folks to do.
Your poor logic and the common negro’s naivete to gravitate to slick talkers is why the “community ” is where it is and why we will never progress as long as your types of negroes keep getting the soapbox.
What black folks need to do is start studying logic , math, and stop listening to stupid folks just because they black or only listening to people they agree with.
As a family, relationship and marriage counselor, I have to say love should never be based on color, though I do acknowledge the pro-creation element and the need to further one’s own ethnic group or “race”. That being said, the big question is why would you want to marry your intended if he/she is outside of your race or ethnicity? If its primarily because of race or ethnicity, you may have other problems that stem from a hatred or disdain of your own people. And that can be a big problem.
Statistically and genetically, very few people (African American, Caucasian etc) are of pure ethnicity. Evolution teaches we all came from the same things. Creation concurs, atleast in Christianity that we all came from Adam and Eve and in Islam, that we all came from one drop or clot of blood.
Our differences are largely learned behavior and based on sociological environment. Don’t be an “Ice T” who really looks bad because he picked a blow up doll like Coco. Whomever you select, let it be for the right foundational, intangible reasons, setting up a foundation strong enough to sustain a real relationship.
This article does not deal with the pathology involved with black men’s thinking or the crucible of white female superiority complexes. IJS. Carry on…