Why Sexual Irresponsibility Is Harmful To The African Community In America.

by Staff February 10, 2017 1 Comment Health News Opinion Weekly Columns

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(ThyBlackMan.com) Growing up as a kid, I didn’t knew what the term sexual irresponsibility meant, but I knew I had 8 other brothers and 1 sister.

When I got older however, I finally realized that I was the product of sexual irresponsibility because my mom had 10 kids with 6 baby daddies in all.

I sometimes hear stories of ordinary and famous brothers like deceased rapper Shawty Lo that have over 11 kids through multiple baby mamas. My first thought was there is a huge lack of discipline and STDs are very rampant in our community.

There are a lot of guys in our community that often listen to bastardized urban music on the corporate radio that tells them that if a beautiful woman approaches them and offers them sex, they’re supposed to take it no questions asked and because of this, there are a lot of brothers that are basically baby daddies and this is very destructive to our family structure because many kids come out of these relationships and become angry and bitter that their fathers aren’t around to help raise and provide for them emotionally and financially because if they ain’t taking care of their kids from previous relationships, they definitely ain’t gonna take care of yours.

One of the most notorious cases of the baby daddy epidemic that has plagued our community over the past few decades is a football player named Antonio Cromartie, who is currently a free agent has 12 kids (4 with his current wife Terricka & 8 through at least 7 other women in different states).

To be honest, I feel sorry for the sista who is married to him because that’s not a complete man she’s married to, that’s a piece of man that she’s married to because there will always be a piece of him left behind with seven other women and it’s creates complicated situations, financial problems, etc.

I have said this once and I will say it again, “It’s never good to sleep with everything that moves very recklessly and irresponsibly and get multiple kids through several baby mamas because this negatively affects the kids that will cause them think and act in a certain way.

A lot of African men that are 20+ years old that still have the mindset of a boy will not make great husbands and fathers in the home, they will make great baby daddies which is sad.

A lot of the sexual irresponsibility that is happening in our community comes from the marketing and promotion of it from the rap songs that young African men listen to on the radio that constantly telling them to sleep with everything that moves and brag about it.

Sexual irresponsibility is harmful to our community because a lot of brothers that are not disciplined enough to understand that they can’t sleep with everything that moves.

The Conclusion – We should teach our young men the discipline they should have kids by women that truly love them and have a real relationship with them.

Staff Writer; Kwame Shakir (aka Joe D.)

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1 Comment

Slyfox says:

February 16, 2017 at 2:15 am

Great article my dude! I agree with 35% of this article and 65% that i do not agree with you on this article. Why?…… Here’s why and not to beat around the bush and to be flat out honest with you.

The reason why is “Should our black sistahs get a pass and or, are they “our Black Sistahs” are really Saints and Angels who should not be held accountble for their actions by choosing, selecting or partnering up with black males as mates; WISELY?”….. The Answer is: YES!

They “Our black sistahs” should be held accountable more so than anything. Women are givers, men are recievers. Women are the Gate keepers”….. They have most totally control over their emotions “which women are not logically programed like us men who use Logic” and they “black Sistahs” have a right to open the doors to their male suitors or male counterparts regardless who or what male attracts them even though half of us brothers can be wolf in sheeps clothing” whether they “black sistahs” know it or not for the wrong or right reason as to

Sorry to tell you that “Our black sistah MAKE POOR CHOICES and BAD DECISIONS when it comes to partnering up with a black male as a mate “Dating leads to a relationship/Shacking up” is lead when an unborn comes to this world behind close doors between the two.

How come our black sisters can’t seem to take into consideration of Good productive, responsible or humble black men or brothers other than your POOKIES, RAY RAYS, LIL SHAWN and them? You don’t know the ones in caps I’m hinting at???? The THUGS, Your NUCKLEHEADED black youngings who never had a decent job or too lazy to find a job while sagging their pants hustling and getting in and out of trouble with the law who have a criminal or felony record!………….
(Productive black brothers vs low grade black community pest black brothers)…………..
These are the ones who they “half not most” of our black sistahs are getting knocked up in bed by them? These young 18yrs old and up young black sistahs are having babies “left and right” by these Lil Waynes and Future type of dudes who are not “RELATIONSHIP MATERIAL”. It’s sad our sistahs see these guys as “Real men or Alpha males” instead of a decent, humble or respectable black brother who is trying or have something going good for himself esp: if he have no kids and never have been into trouble with the Law but oh, by half of these sistah’s eye “Good brothers are looked at as LAMES, CORNY or NERDY who they don’t wont nothing to do with but attracted to the Ray Rays, Pookie and them?

Also: Goverment stats by Facts
“Black women have a high rate of 70%-75% on the Goverment list as being SINGLE MOTHERS “black children born out of wedlock” who are raising kids/children on their own. That’s more than the white and Mexican community who are raising or supporting their kids with two parents alone “Household or non house hold. GOOGLE IT or Reasearch it i’m not lying amd also, Feminism plays a big role also in our black community.

They “Our black sisters” should make Good or excellent decision when it comes to partnering up with decent black brothas who are providers and a influence to the black commumites instead of low grade brothas who are irresponsible and a pest to the black communites who comes from broken black homes or the black house hold.

As i always say “There are rules
to every exception but, there are exceptions that doesn’t apply to the rules [FACTS]

(Counteract Rebuttals)

You say!
#1. “To be honest, I feel sorry for the sista who is married to him because that’s not a complete man she’s married to, that’s a piece of man that she’s married to because there will always be a piece of him left behind with seven other women and it’s creates complicated situations, financial problems, etc.”

I’d say: No need to feel sorry for her or any black sistahs who are in the same boat as her. These sistahs picked the worst or uncapable men “SHE KNEW HE WASN’T NO GOOD FROM THE START BEFORE SHE ENTERED INTO A RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM” no excuses for these sistahs who knows a bad apple from a good apple “They tend to do they opposite and think backwards”
Don’t feel sorry for sistahs who make POOR CHOICES IN MEN AS MATES because “She was somehow attracted to him” or “He was her Type” Somthing about him turned her on from the first place……. The worst case of delusions from delusional black sisters who they called Alpha men or Men “Playas”. These black sistahs know who’s all about Game and the ones who’s not about games. It’s who they “black women” find or feel attracted to “since me and you know that WOMEN ARE THE MOST PICKIEST type of people on the planet than men “Men go through and deal with rejection more so than women and women rarely gets rejected”. That’s why most make the wrong
decisions when it comes to choosing or selecting a male to partner up with……… Women are gate keepers and hosts to their hearts. They have the power and the key to give to any man “The talker, the pleaser or the convincer” who is the reciever, the male respectively since women are givers “It could goes both ways” either and or OR exeptional wise depending on the situation.

The type of EXCUSES that most
“Not all” of our black sistahs make with that SHAMING TACTIC remark that you’ve heard a thousand times from them the most and that is!
(Niggas aint sh$t)

Lol! No you all need to stop picking these aint sh$t niggas who you all are so attracted too. You of all black sisters ignore good and decent black brothers who are progressing in life who have no criminal record or not even have a child “one single child” of his own.

#2) You say!

“A lot of African men that are 20+ years old that still have the mindset of a boy will not make great husbands and fathers in the home, they will make great baby daddies which is sad”

Me say: But who are raising these black men as boys who will not make great husbands and fathers?

Wait, wait, wait and wait for it!
( BLACK WOMEN)

This is why the goverment stats have black women high on their
top Iist as “SINGLE MOTHERS” within the 70%-75% (Reaserch(Blam studies by Universities from the goverment census bureau proves this here in America in the black communities). Most black children on the whole note are raised by the single black woman “born out of wedlock” because black marriages are low in the black communities.
Blame the black feminist structure in our black culture, communities and homes here in black America!
These court structure designed or set up to support women like; Child Support court cases, Rapes and or domestic abuse sytems who are favoring women and taking up for or believing the women’s side or testimony “even women can come off as lying devils” to bring a man down all for her own revenge to cheat the system out of her favor “EVIL EYE or EYE FOR AN EYE”.

#3) You say

“A lot of the sexual irresponsibility that is happening in our community comes from the marketing and promotion of it from the rap songs that young African men listen to on the radio that constantly telling them to sleep with everything that moves and brag about it.

Me say: (PART TRUE )That’s not the big issue and you can’t blame it on Rap songs. The black family structure was torn apart since or during the SEGREGATION ERA/ THE GREAT DEPRESSION AREA UNTIL THE CRACK-ROCK DRUG PEDEMIC ERA OF THE 80’s that started plaguing the black communities and the black family structure along with the whitewashing money making media and the entrtainment world. Also “Note that the feminist movement started in the 40s and 50s” which also played a major role in the black communities by black women from their white counterparts “WHITE WOMEN” who were protesting against their own white men for equal rights as women. Black women somehow was influenced in that era for women’s equal rights. Why you think our black women aint like what they use to be in the early 20’s amd late 30’s????. They were seen as man’s property and they obeyed “Docile, obedient and nurturers by nature in the homes raising kids amd cleaning the home while men work and provide for his family. What happen now?, it’s the 2k modern world and our black women are not like that now today.

#4) You say!

“Sexual irresponsibility is harmful to our community because a lot of brothers that are not disciplined enough to understand that they can’t sleep with everything that moves”

I’d say: Partly true; and the same could be said about a lot of black sisters who are not discipline enough to understand that “THEY CAN’T SLEEP WITH EVERYTHING THAT LOOKS GOOD, LOOKS REASONABLE FOR THEIR OWN LIKING as a suitable mate or even think he’s man enough to be honest and upfront like a man “Regaurless what she may make of him to have or bear his own kids.

These sistahs Knows what a good black man is but, they don’t want nothing to do with him “HE’S TOO NICE” type of guy. They want these jocks “Entertainers of pesty black men” in the black community who they see like the THUGS, THE SMOOTH TALKING PRETTY PLAYBOY” or the Crazy throwed off black men who are for show “Mosty these guys end up as insecure or abusers in the relationship” instead of a well minded and respectful no drama responsible raised and respectful black man who want a lady to ride with to the end with him and form a strong black family structure on their own.

So black sisters should get most of the blame and start choosing “wisely” for a male as partner in a relationship instead of choosing these entertaining showboating wolf in sheep clothing or the broken black male all for their own attraction, pleasure or gain.
Our older generation is to blame for why our younger genration what and why they are now like today! (Stop repeating the cycle and form a srtong commited black love in a black relationship as the old days) away from the whitewashing media world and structure ever since day one.

I’m not blaming blacking women/sistahs but, there are some brothers who are messing it up for the rest of the good decent black responsible brothers as why our black sistahs are now caught up as being a baby momma and raising kids on their own from those sorry black brothers who they tend to get knocked up with which makes it worser of they “Black sisters” who should know the differences and start choosing WISELY as who they SEE FIT AS A MAN as a mate to have kids with responsibly and respectively in a black brother.

Black Sisters! Start making the right choices in a black male as a mate when it comes to partnering up in a relationship who you see fit “relationship material” and not for your own mutual pleasure as toys or temporary gain once you get knocked up. You should be held accountable for your actions and desicion making who you let into your door “Heart,mind, body and soul” instead of using the same old exuse and make the same old mistake after you have kid(s) by different guys in a relationship. Us men can’t put a gun to your head or force a relationship with you to have a child with you. It is your right to tell a man no and you have a right to think who you see fit to bear a child with you as you are a gatekeeper who you allow to let in. You are the gatekeepers and start making better choices in men who you put into your life respectively if you have respect for yourself as a woman. Thugs, Jocks, nuckleheaded or wolf in sheeps clothing well to do type of brother are not good for your well-being. Stop blaming and making exuses and or mistakes of your actions on poor choosing a black brother as a mate.

(Slyfox)
No kids for my age or never have been into trouble with the law who was raised by an Aunty and few Grandmothers who i always have held a job since 17yrs old as a humble rare respectful black brother.

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