(ThyBlackMan.com) So I was watching the Soul Train Music Awards just jamming. A LOT of my old faves were performing! It was the perfect way to end a Thanksgiving Weekend.
Then it happened, R Kelly came on stage. As I watched him free I lamented for the girls who he raped that are not free. I lamented for the girls who’s names that we will never know and who feel some type of way every time her Aunties and Uncles jam whenever his music comes on the radio or television.
Does their pain means nothing? We fight for the rights of Black people, but who fights for the rights of little Black girls. Who protects them? And then I started thinking, “What if R. Kelly’s victims were not Black?”
If R Kelly’s victims looked like the Sweet Valley Twins the judges would not have been so easily purchased and he would be behind bars or just now coming out of jail, not coming off tour.
If R. Kelly’s victims were not Black we would not make ignorant remarks like,
“She knew what she was doing.”
“She didnt look 14.”
“Where were her parents?”
When did it become okay to blame rape victims? I remember being 14 and if some famous, celebrity wanted to do more than I had ever done before…yep, I probably would have done it too. It doesn’t make it right. It would have made me 14, and assaulted.
It doesn’t make it right that the horrible R Kelly tape ONLY came out because a should have been hit maker was falling off and sent his tape to the media and the authorities.
If you think that R. Kelly has paid his debt to society, then leave your 10 year old daughter with him. Will you be jamming to “Seems Like You’re Ready?” after he gets to know your niece or daughter?
The problem with R Kelly is that he is NOT an anomaly. 1 out of 3 girls is molested. So if you are sitting with your two friends, at least one of you was assaulted before you could even walk to the corner store by yourself…by uncles, fathers, aunties, teacher and pastors.
In the Black community we have consistently swept the assault of children under the rug, especially if a powerful man was doing the abusing.
For money, for convenience, to keep a man, to keep the jams going…it’s okay if little girls have to live in painful silence and pay for a sexual deviants behavior because we don’t want to rock the boat (no pun intended).
We need to Jared his a** and all other criminals like him. And when you jam to his music, buy his concert tickets and turn your head because …well your daughter is safe…you encourage a system that belittles the lives, vagina’s and hearts of little Black girls.
Plain and Simple, if R. Kelly’s victims weren’t Black, I would be saying, “Wow, that dude really had a good career ahead of him. It’s a shame that he ended up in jail for rape.” instead I am saying, “I hate seeing his a** on TV like sex with little kids is cool and a whole audience of people holding up red cups singing his songs.”
Point Is…stop buying his music. Rape is Rape.
Those who claim to be against the kind of predation that R. Kelly’s been engaged in for years but want to enjoy his music just need to be honest. That is, that their desire to be entertained by him outweighs their concern for his victims and how they’ve been impacted by his predation. I wonder if it has ever occurred to them that his “music” reflects his perversions.
Rape is not good but R.Kelly’s music is and doesnt take away from the mans talent. If thats the case we shouldnt listen to Rick James, Jerry lee Lewis, 2Pac, Al B Sure, all accused of rape. Man music would suck without those guys.
Let me start off by saying that I am clear that R Kelly is a predator and I would not leave a young child in his care, nor would I let any young child in my care listen to his music. However, I am completely on the boycott R Kelly bandwagon. Just as I can agree he is a predator I can also agree that he is a musical genius, which does not excuse his actions but is simply a fact. The problem with asking people to boycott R Kelly is that it’s easy to say I am not going to buy his records, concert tickets, etc. but it gets much more difficult to say you are going to boycott R Kelly when you look at all of the records he has produced for other people. Are you going to boycott Michael Jackson?, Tyrese, The Winans?, Whitney Houston? Are you going to not watch the Wiz tomorrow because he produced a song for Mary J Blige?
If you boycott everyone who has worked with R Kelly on a song, the list of music that you will be listening to gets real short, and that may be okay for some but real talk I am not going to go that far. Not to mention boycotting R Kelly does nothing to the $$$ he gets from producing. The one point that we definitely agree on is that this is not an anomaly. See I am one of those little(now grown up girls) who an older man thought he could touch and truthfully I am less concerned about protecting little girls from R Kelly than protecting them from the everyday predators that stalk them at school, at the mall, at the family reunion(yeah I said it half of this mess starts with a family member).
So while I don’t believe that we should sweep R Kelly’s transgressions under the rug I not going to jump on the boycott train either. I haven’t bought his music in years, and I have never been and would probably not go to a concert. But if his music comes on the radio or plays on my Pandora station, I am not going to turn the station, I am going to bob my head sing a verse or two and keep it moving. I am going to continue to focus my efforts on helping all of those little black girls who are living in silence and pain at what someone has done to them. I am going to continue to help stop the everyday, non-superstar predators that continue to seek out and target our young girls.
So if you are on the boycott train I wish you well on your voyage. This is such a big problem in our community that we need to approach this from all angles. I won’t join you on the train, but that doesn’t mean I won’t be doing what I can to combat this problem
you are an idiot! you think its okay to condone a pedohiple???? if the victims were black. idiots like you would be up in arms. you are a degenerate and you should be ashamed of yourself. she was 14. it doesnt matter if she concented SHE IS 14!!!! she is not allowed to drink, vote, get married or drive. even if she wanted to do those things. she is not allowed to for a reason. BECAUSE SHE IS TOO YOUNG!!! you are one of the many that hates black females because you think les of them as people. it doent matter if you are a male or female. you still have that view. you are the very reason I stay away from most black people. any other race would be condeming this pervert. there 60% of black females are sexually assaulted yet only 3% are reported. you know why? BECAUSE NO ONE IS BEHIND THEM INCLUDING THEIR PARENTS!!!! may you rot in hell for your views you are filth and you never should have exsisted!
Lol, I will keep purchasing. Stop the groupthink.