(ThyBlackMan.com) Have you ever said something and then reflected on it and later thought to yourself, “I should not have said that?” The new term I’ve created for this phenomena, is… “I shouldna”, as in “I should not have” said that. Now I can be somewhat of an opinionated and outspoken person, and some would even call me a “know it all”…those people are what I like to call…wrong!
Often times in my zeal for debate, I may cross the line in responding to others, especially if the conversation relates to politics or NFL football. And it is at these times I cross into the, “I shouldna” realm.
Most people who know me also know that I’m warm, caring, sensitive, witty and oozing with charm – which is my albatross. However, every now and then, I make a comment, or say something out loud “I shouldna” said. Sometimes in retrospect, I think, “Why did I go there?”
Now if you’re like me you really try to get along with the people you find yourself among. However, even if you’re lucky in that you generally share space with amazing, caring, principled people who always show respect and go the extra mile there are always one or two people you find yourself around (usually circumstantially i.e. work) that you’d really like to give a piece of your mind to, but can’t. This is when thinking about the attending guilt associated with “I shouldna” can really come in handy in keeping the peace!
Additionally, when met with potentially compromising circumstances I may also use the smile and shake your head technique. My kids – ok they’re 22 & 20 but they’re still MY kids to me! – know this move all too well. See if someone is telling you to do something that you know you have absolutely no intention whatsoever of doing, you can either deny the request and possibly get into a heated argument, or just smile and shake your head as if you’re in total agreement, knowing of course that you have every intention of ignoring their ridiculous desire!
Now I know divulging this information publicly may cause those who know me to pay added attention to my behaviors when I respond to any particular request, however, a smile and a nod is better than what I’m thinking because if I say what I’m thinking…..well you know, “I shouldna” said that!
Peace.
Staff Writer; Ronald L. Harris
This talented brother is a social critic and humorist and can be contacted at lharris7@ww.rr.com.
