(ThyBlackMan.com) Lupita Nyong’o, Oscar’s 2014 Best Supporting Actress is a role-model extraordinaire. She is beautiful, exciting to watch and represents a woman who is confident in her skin. I recently described her as ‘beauty from head to toe.”
For many of us, Lupita appeared from nowhere to master her first major movie role as Patsy in Oscar’s Best Picture of the Year, 12 Years a Slave. So compelling was her performance, I left the movie theater thinking more about Patsy’s survival then Solomon being freed. Little did I realize the young woman who played a sexually and physically abused slave, would months later rise to become one of the most significant people of the award season?
On a recent Hot 97 radio interview with Angie Martinez, supermodel, Naomi Campbell described Lupita as “The lady of the moment who is elegant and stunning, yet simple and humble.” Amazingly, comedian and host of Fashion Police, Joan Rivers was in awe and found it difficult to say anything negative about Lupita. How did she emerge as the break-out person of the year and quickly rise to the A-list in Hollywood? Most of the glamour portion of her rise, we can attribute to heavy media coverage, but it is Lupita who has turned her quick fame into a message of hope for many women of all ages, in particular young Black girls and women.
What makes Lupita stand out and why is she significant? What can we learn from this young woman who has inspired many by openly discussing her past pain?
In her well-documented acceptance speech at the Black Women in Hollywood awards luncheon, Lupita revealed publicly how she endured “teasing and taunting about my night-shaded skin” while growing up. As a teenager, her emotional pain grew so severe; she tried to make a deal with God to lighten her skin. Nothing she offered changed her skin color. God had a plan for her. He needed her to stay beautiful just as she was for a time such as now.
Women of color in all walks of life from celebrities to villages in Africa are sadly using extreme and often dangerous products to whitening their skin, Lupita’s comments are so profound and hopefully a welcomed alternative for many women who believe that somehow their lives will be better and they would look pretty if only they had lighter skin. As co-directors, Bill Dukes and D. Channsin Berry pointed out about their documentary, Dark Girls, the conversation is now open. We should continue the dialog and address the pain caused by the dark skin/light skin color issues and keep the conversation alive in order to raise awareness of the biases that govern the standard of beauty in our world.
As Lupita Nyong’o so elegantly pointed out in her Oscar acceptance speech, “It doesn’t escape me for one moment that so much joy in my life is due to so much pain in someone else’s.” I translated that to mean, “don’t get it twisted, we still have a lot of work to do and a long way to go.” The door is open for all to walk through. Your skin color does not validate you!
“…so that women young and old will recognize their beauty within…”
That type of recognition doesn’t sit well or happens among many black females. So many years of self-hatred and hatred towards others has blinded them to that fact.
“I’m so sick of the black community and this whole light vs black mess. How ignorant and stupid can we possibly look to other cultures?” I’m more than sick of it. It’s not only other cultures who view these types as ignorant and stupid. I view every black person as ignorant, disrespectful, and stupid when I hear them comment on the shade of someone’s color. I would love to suggest to them to grow up and grow out of being so childish, but that’s a goal that will only take place within themselves.
This is really good dialog going on. I wish we could continue in our homes, workplaces and communities so that women young and old will recognize their beauty within as opposed to another’s definition.
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I agree with, “Your skin color does not validate you!” It was beautiful what Lupita said. And when she said, “It doesn’t escape me for one moment that so much joy in my life is due to so much pain in someone else’s,” I also took that to mean: “she will not forget that her joy came at the expense of someone else’s painful past.” Because Let’s not forget, 12 Years a Slave was a true story told by the man who lived it, and on his unfortunate journey he met a young slave girl who was emotionally and physically abuse by her master. Having said that, I think also what Lupita was saying was, it was privileged to have played this courageous young girl.
Isn’t she amazing? She is Amazing because first and foremost she was made in the image of God. Lets start there. GOD. I’m so sick of the black community and this whole “light vs black” mess. How ignorant and stupid can we possibly look to other cultures? I strongly suggest that some of you all get it together real quick. The fact of the matter is God gave us an arrangement of colors, from pus bump Tom Joyner yellow all the way to wesly snipes black WE are indeed beautiful ly are. I long for the day when we can mature from colorism within our own community. Lupita is an accomplished actress and has moved a mountain. The looks white Hollywood gives Her is a look of acceptance and envy at the same time. It’s priceless. Rise from the ratchetness folks. Lupita, Naomi, etc. ..black is still black. The question is what will YOU do to contribute in a way she did?
This woman is flawless and fierce! Even more importantly, she knows who she is, and is filled with love, compassion, and hope for the future. Ladies, this is what a true role model looks like, regardless of your skin color. Men, in case you were wondering, this is what a “good woman” looks like, and sounds like.
If my little white daughter wants to grow up to be just like Lupita, I’ll cosign that 100%!
Everyone is not going to find dark skin appealing, everyone is not going to find pale skin appealing. Everyone doesn’t find skinny people or fat people or tall people or short people appealing and the list goes on and on. No sense of trying to convince or force the world to find your characteristics appealing. If you’re waiting around for world acceptance, you will live a miserable existence because that is no guarantee. Don’t put too much hope into Lupita, she’s human like we all are. Only person who change the world is our creator.
As mentioned in the article, Lupita’s dark and beautiful skin is a message of hope for many young girls and women who have been taunted because of their beautiful complextion. She even told a compelling story about her own struggles with dark skin growing up in Mexico where her father was a college professor. Lupita’s rise to fame will not solve all our struggles with hair and skin color, but she is an inspiration to many and hopefully some young girls will recognize their true beauty because of Lupita’s exposure. Yes, she is only one, but if one helps another, that is progress.
@Absolute truth… I don’t wish for Lupita to be “knocked off her porch.” Not at all. I want her, the other black actors, and director to enjoy all the success life has to offer. Please excuse me if I sounded that way. And thank you for the info about her that I didn’t know.
I was just saying that young black girls have had plenty of black woman they could learn from and admire. But in their daily lives these girls are taunted b/c of their dark skin then grow up to be mean, bitter women unless they accept themselves.
Imo, Lupita is more beautiful than Naomi Campbell and your post seems dismissive of Ms. Nyong’o as some flavor of the month. Its almost as if you harbor a hope she’ll be knocked off her perch. Ms. Nyong’o comes from an upper class family of African diplomats. She also has her degree in drama from Yale is a screenwriter and is a producer as well. She’s 30 years old and finds her fame at a more mature stage of life than Naomi Campbell or Whitney Houston etc. Lupita hails from a far more grounded reality and family background. So I seriously doubt she’ll end up a “crack addict.” There haven’t been many gorgeous dark skinned actresses as style setting “it girls.” I remember Judy Pace, Melba Moore, Debbie Morgan and Brenda Sykes. none of them had as successful a career start as Lupita. The exceptions maybe Melba Moore the Tony award winning Broadaway star. Not since the 1970’s has a dark beauty captured the spotlight and held court. All the best to this new star hopefully she can give voice to characters who are black women in sensitive, worthy portrayals that she may blaze a trail for others. Well done Ms. Lupita Nyong’o this is your moment in time to shine! I wish her peace & love!
Ignorant blacks tease, taunt, and talk negatively about skin color more than whites do. Little black girls grow up with their own moms and other females and males calling them ugly. There’s always been dark skin celebrities who could inspired other black people. Lupita Nyong’o isn’t the first, last, or only dark skin woman who’s had success. I’m sure she’s very talented and yes, she’s beautiful. But so are/were many others like Naomi Campbell. Some years back, she displayed erractic behavior only to discover one of the highest paid black models in the world was a crack addict. I’m hoping that Lupita doesn’t give into temptation and the so-called trappings of fame.
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