(ThyBlackMan.com) Why is Love never easy?
Why does love have to be so hard?
Why can’t it just be I bump into you, you bump into me?
I say oooooo girl you fine, you say you fine, I say thank you.
You give me your number I call you later, I come over I never leave.
You give me your keys, I give you my keys
I meet your mama and papa, I bring over my mama and papa, I go to your family reunion.
I gain ten pounds from your mamas cooking
I give you a ring, we get married, we live happily ever after with 13 kids LOL. *excerpt from ERRO*
but Nooooooooooo, normally its he/she got a friend already, there is distance between the two of you that makes it hard, one of you is bitter, or flat out WE make it hard, the smallest thing we can use to be an “OBSTACLE” because WE do not know how to except or receive love.
Now those of you who have read my columns know that I don’t like preaching but I love educating. I periodically refer to what I call the life manuscript it has EVERYTHING we need to make each other great. It’s widely used and known as The Bible.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 & 13
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the 
truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
I don’t see “OBSTACLE” nowhere in that! If you have loved and not been hurt before there is no true way for you to know what love is or capable of receiving it when you really have it. Bitter hinders your being better. You have to learn how to love with your heart “Guarded” and not with it “Hidden” when your love with your heart guarded is knowing and acknowledging that the person you love has the ability to hurt you by their actions, AND YOU ACCEPT IT, but loving with it guarded under no circumstances equal LOVE WITH YOUR HEART STUPID.
Stupid is a trait you develop all on our own by basically wanting what you want when you want it and not what you need or what’s good for you! We can have all the signs of “Perfect for US” but Stupid will tell you “that’s not what you WANT“. Stupid can be summed up in one word “selfish” Selfish can have your perfect mate standing in front of you butt naked with a sign with your name on it and you wouldn’t see it because “Stupid” got you in a whole another direction. Now on the other hand if you loving with your heart hidden it’s exactly that! It is not meant for any other to find at all and if you don’t want anyone to find your heart at all then I’m will be the first to tell you something is wrong with you. We were NOT put here to go through life alone. Being single is NOT the business. So to be shouting out “single and proud” only says that your heart is buried eight feet deep in, your heart is six feet deep and the person who buried it in the first place stomped on it two more feet!
I wrote little while ago from The Book of Paul in the manuscript. It says man and women are co-dependant on each other if it’s by the will of GOD. ALTHOUGH the first woman was made from man every man thereafter came from woman! We are made different on purpose, never perfect, but to be the perfect compliment to each other. I am what you are not, nor can you ever be what I am and that was on purpose! There is not one thing that can make a woman feel like a woman more than a man and vice versa. You don’t have to agree but that’s how we were made.
Some of y’all have these toxic unhealthy relationships. If you don’t not have and nurture good healthy friendships it is almost impossible for you to have good healthy relationships and in that case you are abusing GOD’s ultimate gift and that’s each other. Every person HE puts in our life does NOT mean that HIS intentions are for them to stay in your life. WE keep them there WE hold on to them and all the time it was just meant for us to learn from them. WE don’t even allow HIM to do his work, HE removes them and WE hold on and try to keep them.
So back to the original question? “Why is love never easy?” The answer: IT TRULY IS EASY, HE MADE IT EASY! WE make it hard. I could have said that from the beginning but I needed to fill the article. So there you have it! IT IS EASY and if you have problems with that just refer to the manuscript and apply it to your life & relationships and see how easy it is!
~So Sincere~
Staff Writer; Jamal Montague
