(ThyBlackMan.com) Bitterness is a hateful and spiteful condition of the heart that evolves out of being wronged or thinking that one has been mistreated. It involves continual contemplation of hurtful things done to you, which typically results in displaced anger that never seems to go away. Within the context of marriage, there are a plethora of husbands who dwell on what their wives have done to them, which continuously feed the poisonous root of bitterness. Left unchecked, this venom can lead to unhealthy harvests of emotional and physical pain, heated arguments, illicit relationships and ultimately divorce, in some instances.
The following list of bitter thoughts is not all-inclusive, but these 
rationalizations do represent some of the worst that husbands can dwell and act upon relative to their marriage. In lieu of letting bitterness adversely affect your health and your marriage, it is important to cast away such negative thoughts when wronged and to let go of all anger before the sun goes down each day.
1. She doesn’t love me. She only loves herself. It may be true that your wife does not express love to you, as she should or as you envision. But, does this necessarily mean that she doesn’t love you? There are certain cases where wives have the capacity to love but have problems with tangible expressions. Within the context of your marriage, it is important to be patient and allow her expressive capacity to love grow.
2. I do everything for her and I get nothing in return. Love for your wife should not be predicated on receiving something in return. Marriages based on this type of love will likely be filled with disappointment and frustration. In most cases, there will be some reciprocity of love shown over time for the wonderful things that you are doing.
3. I will never forgive her. Forgiveness within the context of marriage is absolutely essential. Oftentimes, there will be something that your wife will say or do that may hurt you and vice versa. It is important to let go of these offenses so that you and your wife can move forward with a liberated, abundant and prosperous marriage.
4. We shouldn’t have gotten married in the first place. A very negative thought that, when acted upon, represents the diametric opposite of commitment. With marriage, there will certainly be some good and bad times. On the whole, you have to remain committed to your vows and to the sustainability of one’s marriage.
5. I hate her. Harboring anger and hate in one’s heart can certainly prove to be detrimental to one’s covenant union. Sometimes, it is pretty difficult to display love when you don’t feel like it. But, it is absolutely essential to exercise longsuffering and to love your wife as Christ loved the church.
6. I’ll show her. It is relatively easy to act upon bitter thoughts of revenge against your wife. But, it is much more beneficial to spend time thinking about love, mercy, kindness, intimacy and the wonderful potentiality of one’s marriage. And, it is even more noble to pray for your wife and the loosing of all strongholds that may be preventing your marriage from being an abundant and blessed union.
Staff Writer; Anthony Jerrod
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