(ThyBlackMan.com) We turned to Michael Swaim and Cary McNeal of guyspeak.com for the love nuggets every married man needs to hear…
1. Lend a Hand
Nothing gets a woman hotter than getting down on your hands and knees, getting sweaty and … scrubbing the grout in the bathroom. Man up when it comes to household duties; it pays off.
2. R-E-S-P-E-C-T
Be respectful to your in-laws. They may not deserve it, but your wife does. Do it for her.
3. Hand-Holding
Hold her hand. Often. And if you ever lose your hands, hold elbows.
4. Work at Your Marriage
“Marriage is not a noun; it’s a verb. It isn’t something you get. It’s something you do. It’s the way you love your partner every 
day.” —Ann Landers
5. Confide Carefully
Sometimes when times are tough, you’ve got to talk to someone, anyone other than your wife, just to get perspective. But keep in mind that your friends are there to support you, not provide perspective, and don’t say anything you can’t take back once these troubles are behind you.
6. Don’t Write Off Counseling
Everyone should be in marriage counseling because marriage is hard. If your car is having problems, you take it to a mechanic. Don’t give up on a relationship you value without exploring every possible avenue for healing first.
7. Make Time for Sex
Never underestimate the importance of sex to marriage.
8. Surprise Her
Do something nice for your wife, with no provocation, no less than once a week. If you have to put it on your calendar, if you have to tattoo it on your forehead, make it happen. Your life will be longer and happier for it.
9. Apologize
Be the first one to say “I’m sorry” or “I was wrong,” even when you’re not sorry and you weren’t wrong.
10. Give Her a Hug
Hug her. They dig that.
11. Don’t Try to Change Her
Every new husband thinks he can change his wife. Every experienced husband wishes he could have back all the time and energy he spent trying to do so.
12. Be Open To Changes
People change as years go by, and so do marriages. Be flexible.
13. Fight Fair
When you fight — and you will — fight fairly. The causes of a quarrel will fade from memory, but cruel words are remembered for years, smartie.
14. Remind Yourself Why You Love Her
Marriage is a choice you make every day, not just at the altar. Once in a while, it’s important to remind yourself why you chose this woman, and why you still choose her.
15. Treat Her Right
Put her above all others. That includes your parents, your children, and yourself.
Written By Michael Swaim & Cary McNeal
