(ThyBlackMan.com) Your baby is almost here and you do not feel ready at all. You keep asking yourself whether you can be a good father and whether you can provide good care for your baby. It is natural to develop anxiety over one of the most challenging tasks in your life. Just remember that parenting is a learned skill. Good preparation will get you ready and help you deal with the fear of becoming a father…
1. Take classes that teach infant care. There are many classes available at the hospital or childbirth center. These classes provide the basics of baby care, such as feeding, playing, bathing and diapering. Take an infant CPR class so you are ready in the case of emergency.
2. Divide up baby-care tasks with your partner before labor. Things might change in the future, but having a plan helps you feel more confident.
3. Take some time off from work. It may no longer be possible to bring work back home now that you need to spend time to care for your baby. Avoid business trips around the time before and after labor.
4. Take time to bond with your baby and nurture your partner. Do your share of the house chores to help your partner during the postpartum period.
5. Relax and enjoy this special time. Eat well and sleep whenever possible. Don’t panic if you have baby blues. It is normal; you will likely get over it quickly. Consult your doctor immediately, if your baby blues turn into full-blown depression.
6. Take whatever steps you need to get your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health to the highest point possible. Your child, boy or girl, is going to learn from you what a man is and how he interacts with the world– make sure you give your child the best example possible.
7. If there is anything shady in your life, stop it. Children do what they see even more than what they are told; good character and honest dealings in a father will pass on to the children.
7. If you do not yet have a plan to build your family’s wealth (as opposed to income from just a job), begin one. Explore entrepreneurship even on a small scale, so that your child gets the critical lessons of how to live life as an owner and producer, not just as a consumer.
Thank you, Dad and grandfathers, for showing those things to your offspring…