don’t apologize for me, they don’t want to take accountability for anything. most that is their responsibility.

no

yeah we’re all taken you very seriously ” just a jezebel” you’re the embodiment of the problem. the world has said “phuq you to you!

Also, as a white person who has been to several black homes, I have seen in a majority of those home images of sexualization in open prominent display. I am talking about the paintings or statues of A black couple in a passionate embrace that adorns the walls or end tables in those homes. These are normally of a man and a woman in the nude.

I have also listened to how black people of opposite sex speak to each other. Often it has a sexual overtone or innuendo to the back-and-forth flow of the conversation. However, I am and was brought up very conservative and Christian and firmly believe any sexual language should be in private between husband and wife. but that’s one of the very few differences I notice between black and white families where there are both parents in the home.

Also, it’s hard to avoid when its being piped into our homes via TV shows, Streaming services and the internet. Or in our hands via smart phones. Porn is in our faces 24/7 and it distorts the proper role of sex and sexual relationships.

No one can make you feel inferior unless YOU allow them to. Therefore, the blame does not rest on anyone but yourself. When Jesus Christ was being brutally beaten for our sins, they shamed Him by stripping Him down to His naked body. TOO SHAME HIM! So ladies, you set the tone of how you are judged. God gave us all free will on this earth. Please use it wisely because there is a day of atonement.
Happy trails my friends. God bless you all.

Gina, I fully concur with your statement which seems to imply and subtly suggests, the black man isn’t holding himself somewhat accountable for the issues related to black women…YES, we have failed our women on many, many fronts, from the pulpit to the streets…black men did not “run to the fight” to protect and “take the hit” in defense of black women. However, this writer is merely unveiling a subtle detrimental movement that seeks to further degrade the black woman as only an object of sexual gratification…and, It Sells! I am proud to say after almost 46 years of marriage to a superbly magnificent black woman, with two educated and well-anchored daughters, I did my part…with my Wife, Partner, and Best Friend’s help. I didn’t know things because we were not taught how to act, because our fathers didn’t know! SO, on behalf of black men and specifically the writer, we are sorry if the article seems to suggest blame on the women only…that is woefully off track.

Elaine, Thank you, and Amen.

The more comments I read, I’m happy that I don’t necessarily need to make one of my own since so many are indeed expressing my sentiments on this subject. I have daughters and teenage granddaughters. As much as I preach to them, what they see on TV seems to have a greater influence on their fashion choices.

Let us all say AMEN, and again AMEN.