Comments on: African Americans: Hoochie Dressing is a NO NO!

By: Rosalind

Rosalind — Tue, 10 Jan 2023 14:27:49 +0000

As a half-Black woman, my Dad (my Black half and my best half) always told me to dress modestly. He fell for the red-haired, white woman with curves. And aside from my birth, that relationship was disastrous. My Dad always taught me to use my head, not my looks, and to value brains and heart in others as well. But most Americans, regardless of ethnicity, are not taught the same. So even though it’s not right, not equal, not the way it should be, I have to agree with Thy Black Man on this. In this country, and many others, we are perceived by the visage we choose, and treated accordingly. And although the treatment is not right, and may not be warranted, it is a fact of life. Regardless of hypocrisy and double standards, it doesn’t change what is. Yeah, it’s sad, and yeah, it’s wrong, but wishing it away doesn’t do shit.

We can teach our children to think differently, but it would still take generations to change it all, and that is only if EVERYONE, EVERYWHERE was teaching their children of the true values of others not being based in looks or dress or money. And let’s be real, I don’t see that happening any time soon. But don’t let that stop you from teaching better values. It’s got to start somewhere. The more folks who see people for who they are and not what they can offer, the better. And as generations come and go, maybe we can be the beginning of weeding out these stereotypes and crooked ways of seeing the world around us.

Good Day to You All.
Roz

By: Geraldine Dismuke

Geraldine Dismuke — Fri, 06 Jan 2023 21:57:50 +0000

When a White woman dresses in a “hoochie,” fashion, Black men trip all over themselves to be with her, wine/dine her, AND marry her. Check out the wives of NFL and NBA players. Those guys could NOT care less about “modesty.” Their wives DID not and DO not dress modestly and they are being well-cared for. Don’t foist different rules on Black women and not hold White women to the same standard (or sub-standard, as the case may be). That’s my two cents from a minister’s wife who believes in modesty, but not judgment.

By: Derek H.

Derek H. — Fri, 06 Jan 2023 17:05:56 +0000

While I agree that double standards exist in our society, it is hypocritical to talk about how African American women should or shouldn’t dress. As an African American man, our focus needs to shift from what our eyes perceive to what we are willing to learn about an individual. I think it’s sad that we compare dress codes of other countries where a woman faces death by not adhering to a male dress code. There are more important aspects in life than what a woman is wearing. It says far more about you as a person when you label someone you don’t know a “hoe”.