Earlier I stated I’ve been married almost ten years, and we were tested with life before we were well into our first year. I was so glad I listened to my elders and began preparing for marriage well before I met my husband. No, I’m not perfect but preparing allowed me to see him more clearly and speak for myself and thoughts more efficiently. Having an idea about who you are as a woman and what kind of wife you want to be gives you confidence going into a marriage.