I do not think the impact should be reduced at all. The entire family should win or lose, overcome or fall. That would cause the mom and dad to think twice, resolve their issues and maybe save the family in tact. I say spare no one. If you don’t want casualties of war, think before you have a child with your partner. Then think again before you do something stupid and break up the family. Enough with single parent households in our community. God did not say spare the kids. If you want to spare them, men and women get your act together