I’d like a black person’s opinion on this since obviously only you have the experience from that side of the matter!
(and I have only like 4 friends and none of them are black)

How can we tell when we’re doing something that’s cultural appropriation compared to cultural celebration/exchange and are they different?

Because black (and other POC’s) culture is so much a part of culture it’s incredibly hard not to use black phrases or styles or all kinds of things! (and cuisine! I mean weren’t many if not most Southern dishes actually invented by black people!?)

Does it make a difference if I’m recognizing and celebrating the correct source of the cultural elements?

Or if not, then should black people decide which things that I can or can’t use and when, of the things they invented (which is reasonable, kind of like an artist with copyright)? and if so..I mean is one black friend saying I can enough? two? twenty? how many black people does it take to speak for black people as a whole? :\
Or should I genuinely just try not to act or talk or fix food or make music or etc. in any way that’s black or black-culture-derived? (or POC’s in similar situations like say Latino?)