The fact of the matter is that NOBODY SHOULD HIT ANYBODY. Men are no less valuable than women and vice versa. But there is a double standard and I have the research to prove it. Women hit men and we are told to walk away. But if men hit women, women are told to call the police. Everyone tore down Ray Rice for knocking out his then fiance, and he should not have done that. Yes he should have been the bigger person, but there is more to it than than. If you look at the entire video clip, you will see that she slapped him before they got on the elevator, he hit her BACK once they got on the elevator, she came at him to fight, he stepped back, punched her and she hit her head on the back rail of the elevator. Let’s be honest here. NOBODY SHOULD HIT ANYBODY.

If you are a female and you are not concerned that you make get hit back, why should the man be concerned for you?

Even many of the women’s rights groups (and I fully support women’s rights and equality) are really man-hating groups of bitter feminist women from the Can’t Get A Man – Can’t Keep A Man” Club.

I challenge any of you to email me at brainstormonline@yahoo.com and request the other side of the statistics. And for those of you who say “but the man is stronger”, I say that depends on what the woman hits him with. She could easily do just as much damage as he could. Plus stronger is not the issue, keeping your hands to yourself instead of abusing someone is the issue.

p.s. And no I do not hit women, I do not hit anybody. Fair is fair and right is right.

Homicide Type, by Race
Table 7 (page 12)
http://www.bjs.gov/content/pub/pdf/htus8008.pdf

I have seen exactly what you are talking about, where women allow their abusers back after police officers have been summoned. But there ARE cases where domestic violence is not taken seriously enough by some law enforcement officers. That indifference can be the result of simply not valuing black folks or as the result of too many cases where women take their abusers back. And women who think being beaten definitely have low self-esteem. Why else would anyone allow herself to be a punching bag? As I’ve said in another post, abusers are not always readily obvious, regardless of what socioeconomic status they are. A lot of them worm their way into women’s lives with sweet words and gifts. Then, they turn from Dr. Jekyll to Mr. Hyde when they are certain they have these women. Sometimes the abuse is immediate, while at other times, it gradually escalates from subtle emotional abuse to outright physical abuse. I did read somewhere a long time ago that black women are more likely to be killed as a result of domestic violence than any other group of women. That addiction to “bad boys” is unhealthy because they have nothing to offer but instant gratification. On the other hand, some abusers are much slicker and therefore, harder to detect–sometimes when it’s too late.

Yes, there are middle class and wealthy perps. They’re cases are on the crime channel and detective programs. But there are also many cases that don’t make television, the local papers, or the internet.

@akosua…Realman2’s comments do not indicate that he can’t/doesn’t have a woman nor that he’s less of a man, IMO.

Black women, especially black women, create many of these disasters by worshipping these Hyper-alpha males who are bent on destroying their own people and communities. I have known one called college educated black woman who tolerated the violence from their criminal boyfriend to the point she was almost beaten to death by him. Once she finally left this guy she ended up picking new ex-con boyfriend and started the cycle all over again. All women no matter their race tend to want a bad boy when their young for a little while, but black women take this to an extreme. Some of them have wasted up to 15 years of their lives doing this.

Not only do these women hang out and lust after thugs and bums, but they’ll remain in relationships with them for years. I know of women who’ll even protect these low life dudes.

Several years ago, a black woman shot and killed her estranged husband. She took legal action and placed restraining orders against him and he still continued to harass her. There came a point and time when he obeyed an order but wanted to see her. He had the nerve to sign a complaint against her just to see her in court. The night she killed him, he had broke into her home. She awoke to him punching her in the face. Her weapon was close by and she pulled the trigger. She had told him that if he came anywhere near her, she’d shoot him. Obviously, he didn’t believe her. I believe she did the right thing. She had no choice but to protect herself.