There’s a program that I just simply fell in love with. It’s titled “What Black Men Think”. They discuss slavery, racism, crime, etc. What I appreciate/respect the most is their honesty, straight-forwardness, and they don’t play the race/blame card. Steve Perry, I think that’s his name. He had a program on BET called Save Our Sons or something like that. Anyway he stated that, “The most dangerous person in the black community is the black man himself.” While I do agree and don’t agree b/c I’d word it differently. My version: “The most dangerous person in the black community is the ni**er. The reason I worded that way is b/c I find out very disrespectful to group good, decent black MEN in the same category as ni**ers. No way do MEN go around terrorizing ppl and neighborhoods nor do MEN sell drugs. Black men do not transform homes into crack havens and brothels. That’s what ni**ers do. If anything, black men will move out of the ghetto/hood to a much safer neighorhood b/c his character(istics) don’t blend with the boyz in the hood.

Black women LOVE cooking meal b/c 1.) It’s very important to have food. Without it, we would starve to death. No one starves in/at a black woman’s house. Oh, wait a minute, there are some ppl I won’t feed. Ghetto females and males, but I will feed their kids. And trust me, it has nothing to do with slavery.

Beautifully written! Much respect to you. I know of, not only the self-hate, but the hatred that black females (and males) spew onto the community. Years ago, a black man said something like, “There comes a time when black women need to sit down and be quiet.” He said it on Phil Donahue or Sally Jessy Rapheal(sp). I forgot which one, but it was a show about black relationships/marriages. Anyway, I’m on the other side of the tv and I’ve got my hands on my hip, got the neck roll going and I’m like, “Oh, uh-uh. No he didn’t say that. Who does he think he is? He lucky I’m not on that show….” Well, you get the picture. Now fast forward not even ten years later(time can really fly by). I took what he said, changed it a bit and came up with my own motto: “These b**ches oughtta sit the hell down and shut the f**k up!”
By that time, I had seen/heard how ignorant, disrespectful, and selfish females really were towards everybody and each other. But what REALLY shocked me was that many black males were the same way. I also realized that this type of ignorance causes division within a group/race of ppl that has nothing to do with other races. There’s no such thing as, for example, being selfish(or evil) and being in a fulfilling relationship at the same time, under the same roof. IMPOSSIBLE! When I took notice to this happening around me and even with a couple of my own relationships, I divided black ppl into four groups: Black men vs. ni**ers. Black women vs. ghetto-minded females. The reason I use the ‘vs.’ is b/c this means war. A real battle has been taken place among black ppl that requires more than a band-aid covering. Tempers flaring and egos bursting lead to serious injuries and senseless deaths. Especially throughout an environment that operates on hatred and evil towards your own kind.

Many times I don’t appreciate it when black ppl say ‘us’, ‘we’, and ‘our’ when referring to ni**ers and wh**es b/c I feel as though these are

They make it seem like black women can do no wrong, do no wrong, are perfect, then try to lay all the blame for black people’s ills on black men. But if you operate by their logic, since most black men are raised by unmarried black women, and since these women are always described as “strong”, then by definition, the men should be strong too huh? They are all over the place with their lack of logic. Jesse Jackson had an out-of-wedlock child, with a black woman (I think a secretary), while married. But this is black people’s leader? Same dude MLK didn’t even like because he thought he was an attention seeker. I mean look at these niggas and that’s what they are to me and I don’t want any white person getting on here talking about they don’t like me using that word with their liberal ponk asses.

Even in criminal street culture, you have a sense of honor. If you go against the grain, and do something that violates man law, you get dealt with. But with these dudes, they clearly show they are not men, with their weak ass articles, overly emotional like they mamas, and end up looking bout as stupid as their moms look when they start referring to themselves as cougars. Why does it matter that barack was raised by primarily by whites? If anything, he probably experienced more upfront racism than these niggas ever did. But he is supposed to be less “black” when it suits one of these infantile ass negroes assessment of “blackness.” But see how black people are so quick to strip other blacks of their “black card.” If you pursue education you’re considered “white.” If you light skinned you’re not really black. If your hair texture is silky you’re not black. I mean who do these niggas think they are. All of them follow in the same line of WEB DU Bois ponk ass.

Negro spent all his life fighting Garvey’s notion of Pan Africanism, only to try to be buried in Ghana to give off the notion he was about the “motherland.” If these black women are so strong, shouldn’t they be able to at least discipline their children instead of unleashing these demons on the public. Majority of black men are weak as hell because they think with a woman’s mind (a woman’s mind who hates herself). The “Dark Girls” documentary proved what I have been saying for years: black women are psychotic. I had an ex who I told was beautiful all the time. She was dark. But she felt unattractive, even though plenty of black men were pursuing her while I was with her and I even had to check a nigga on the phone behind it. But she took her frustrations out on me for her being dark.

Now I’m dark so when I expected her to love me, this was a futile exercise. She didn’t love herself. She had natural hair I loved too. She hated that too. But when she was with a white boy, do you think she demonstrated these issues she did when with me? Nope. All that time I spent encouraging her, saying she was beautiful, even when she was 230lbs, do you think she valued my perception of her? Hell nah!!!!! But she valued the white boy’s notion of her beauty and didn’t clown on him one time. I saw a black female on youtube who said “the first time she felt beautiful was when a non-black person told her she was.” Now think of that for a second.

If you go to the club, and you see attractive black females, we all know they get attention. If you are an attractive black females, physically, you get hit on all the time to the point black women complain about getting attention (which is arrogant in itself being that many women would love that attention and maybe if they used the attention to get a ring on their finger, then men would know that they are off-limits but that’s another story for another day). But she used the word “felt” which is very important. She never said ” a black man never told her she wasn’t beautiful.” She said she never “felt” beautiful until a non-black person told her. Even on the documentary, a brother said he loved dark-skinned women. So this notion of them not receiving attention is false. If a dude says he loves dark-skinned women, he gets praise. But if he says he only likes light-skinned women, he only likes them because they are close to white, so he really hates himself. But as we see in the documentary, the ones who are practicing the hatred of dark-skinned the most is dark-skinned women!!!!! Talk about psychotic!!!! One girl mother said if she was lighter, she would be more beautiful.

I spent years being attracted to dark women, but now, I don’ care for them. They display some of the most self-hating behavior I’ve ever seen. One thing I can appreciate about light-skinned women is that they at least have a certain confidence about being quality. I’ll choose confidence over low self-esteem all day. I’ve given dark-skinned women compliments and they would just keep walking: no thank you or nothing. Turn their lip up and all that if you just speak. But their mamas were the ones who called them ugly!!!! If they should hate anyone, it should be their mama. So imagine 18+ years of this. Even as grown women, black women value the opinion of their mothers when it comes to their self-concept. matter fact, majority of my relationships have been ruined because of the influence of their black mothers. Real talk.

These women have their confidence stolen from them by their mothers from infant to adult, to the point that when they are adults, they spend so much energy trying to get love from their mother they never will get because these mothers, although it sounds crazy to say, hate what they gave birth to. This self-hatred amongst black people has been primarily projected onto them by their mothers. Hate is a learned behavior as we all know. No one comes out the womb hating. I tried to figure out why my ex was so combative with me. And it wasn’t until I revisited some of our old communications on email, that I realized she hated being dark. Even though she had boyfriends from college in in 1999 wanting her back. She hated herself and I actually remember in 2006 us having an argument about her perming her hair (which I didn’t want her to do.)

When she went natural, her hair texture was actually silky, which was ironic because perming her hair was counterproductive because the hair texture she wanted to have by perming, she already had it naturally, yet she still felt bad about because it was natural!!!! The very hair she wanted with a perm she got naturally, but still hated it!!!!When I say these women are sick, that is an understatement. Now imagine the problems we would have had had we had a child? What if she would have wanted to perm our child’s hair (something I’m totally against)? I’d be ready to break a chick’s neck if she permed my daughter’s hair. Can you imagine what I would have had to deal with from this black woman, who in public, acted like she was the shit, but behind closed doors, was nothing but a wimp.

All this black woman shit she talked, but in secret, she hated being a black woman. Most black women suffer from this pathology, and I don’t want to hear nothing about no white people doing anything to them either. White people are not forcing black women buy hair from Koreans. Look at all these sites where black women are so happy to get white men. They say when black men get white women, they feel that they have a trophy. Pleaaaaassssse!!!! When these black women get that attention from these white men (and I’m not racist, just stating facts) they feel like they own the world.

When I asked my ex “if you could trade in your silky texture hair for that nappy hair, would you do it” and she said no, it proved to me right then and there that all this proud to be a black woman stuff is a joke. Look at how black women grilled Gabby Douglass. White people loved the girl. But who was the ones showing her hate so much? Black women. Mind you, Gabby wasn’t “twerking.” She wasn’t in rap videos with thugs smacking her on her ass. No baby mama. She was perfecting her craft.

Accomplishing things as a teenager many of these tramps couldn’t imagine. Yet, blogs, with self-hating black women writing on them, made fun of this girl with no remorse. Black women in their 40s can learn something from Gabby Douglass. Like close your legs. Damn if Gabby Douglass can avoid being a baby mama, why can’t a woman in her 20s or 30s can’t? Oh I forgot: slavery and jim crow. Keep using that black people and see how quick you wipe yourselves out. Notice how people don’t even court your vote anymore. Even your vote is insignificant. How does 40 million people vote become insignificant? Simple: ratchet culture.