Comments on: The Influence of No Father…

By: Laquisha pugh

Laquisha pugh — Wed, 14 Nov 2012 01:38:16 +0000

I’m sorry but I disagree with this report wholeheartedly. My reason is because a boy can be raised by a woman if she knows what she’s doing. My theory for this situation is that at one point in this child’s life he had a male figure in his life whether it’s the father, mom’s boyfriend whatever. That male was abusive to his mother. Its the environment he grew up in. I commend all the good men wanting to raise their sons but the mother’s selfish as hell. My mom raised my brother all by herself but his father, my stepfather used to jump my mom in front of us so my brother grew up thinking that he suppose to treat women like that. My aunt raised two boys by herself practically by herself, they got into a little trouble but they grew up to be great men and don’t abuse their wives. In conclusion a boy becomes a woman beater because he was raised my his mom’s alone is BOGUS!!!!

By: Liz

Liz — Fri, 12 Oct 2012 10:28:54 +0000

Does the system or bitter women prevent black American men from getting marriage certificates? Then, why are they being blamed for the failure of these men to commit to one woman,have kids only with her so he can keep his earnings under one roof and his kids can benefit financially and pyschologically?

The cassanova mentality of black men is responsible for most of the problems in that ethnic group. Every other group understands the importance of marriage in building wealth from generation to generation and looking out for each other. And yet the womanising with multiple baby mommas continue unabated. SMH

By: Energi

Energi — Fri, 12 Oct 2012 07:02:50 +0000

I still beg to differ in another sense. What about the high a** rate of single mothers in this world due to dead beat, no good daddies? These black men keep leaving these women high and dry. That’s what this article should be about!

Also I believe women should get more credit for raising a child alone. How often do you read an article that’s complimenting strong black women who are doing double duty out here and raising a child to be a good man or woman?? All of these respectable young men out here that never had a father and would never put hands on a woman! Like myself…

I don’t care, whether raised by mother, father, or both….I believe people will do what they want to do. That damn boy was messed up in the first place. I went to school with boys that beat their girl friends. Their dad’s influence just didn’t help. I’m sorry….this article just rubs me the wrong way because it is written to blame a child’s actions based entirely on the absence of a father!

By: Mack

Mack — Sat, 29 Sep 2012 10:55:11 +0000

Energi:

Not having your father around may have been good for you; but not having fathers around period is bad for the community. You mentioned the influence of gangster music and movies on our youth. But if men were allowed unhindered access in their kid’s lives, Dad would be the biggest influence and not some Hollywood creation on TV or the radio.

And not to diminish anything endured by you or your mother, but women get abused in relationships because they often choose the worst type of man to mate and procreate with in the first place. It happens…

By: Mack

Mack — Sat, 29 Sep 2012 10:35:07 +0000

Excellent post, and much needed. Calling this dude a beast is an understatement. He was a monstrosity. Because that’s what we create when we leave these young men in the hands of doting mothers to raise alone: we create overly emotional acting men who misuse their strength and power. Pure monstrosities. There’s too much estrogen running through these dudes’ hearts.

He actually lucked out. If it was a female from my family, he would’ve spent the next 3 years learning how to walk again…

By: Energi

Energi — Sat, 29 Sep 2012 07:06:08 +0000

Being raised without a father is not even half of this young man’s problem. Today’s movies and gangster music is also an influence on our youth. Not to mention what peers and doing and talking about doing. I was raised without my father and I’d never put my hands on a woman. And get this…my dad was abusive toward my mother. If he had raised me, I might have ended up just like him. Thank God I didn’t have dad around. This article is missing a lot!!

By: Natalie

Natalie — Wed, 19 Sep 2012 15:41:11 +0000

Boomboom,

Excellent post! A society that despises its men run the risk of creating despicable men.

By: Terrance Amen

Terrance Amen — Wed, 19 Sep 2012 07:43:30 +0000

As Black people we’ve lost our way. Even in the general population the values that were once the norm are now the exception. Because we follow what the general population does, we suffer dearly for it. You’ve heard the saying in bad times, when the white population gets a cold, we get the flu. Well now it’s so bad in our community, we get pneumonia. The family has disappeared. We no longer live together or next to each other because we choose to move away from each other. In the past, if the farther wasn’t there the uncle took his place or the minister or even the coach in this case. But we’re so interested in being independent and assimilating into the white population, we forget about our responsibility to each other.

We used to have a community that we could rely on, but those days have past. The only way to get our community back, is to come together and realize, in order for us to truly be the best we can be, we must support each other in all areas of our lives and I stress the word we. It is true we’ve made progress in having upward mobility, but our upward mobility has moved us further and further away from each other to the point it has divided us. We have to seriously do some soul searching. We will continue to hear and read about situations like this and even worse. No one can change the problems in our community but us, because we are the problem.

Black Unity means financial independence and happiness

By: Monk

Monk — Mon, 17 Sep 2012 03:14:29 +0000

Calling this kid a “beast” is totally wrong and a bit over the top. (He screwd up, ok I get it.) So criticize him on those merits , but stay away from the unnecessary ad hominems.

By: BoomBoom

BoomBoom — Sat, 15 Sep 2012 02:42:20 +0000

We don’t value men in this society, black men in particular. Black men have been dying a slow death (physically, socially and spiritually) since the 70s and we’ve only been content to joke about them, despise them and declare them as useless. I think it’s a shame that attention is mainly brought to it, not because we actually care about them, but because we only care that it makes life hard on their mothers or the women around them. We use them as utilities to make our lives more convenient. It reminds me of a statement by Hilary Clinton when she said that the primary victims of war are women because they lose their husbands, sons, etc. What are the men who actually died in combat, secondary victims???

Until we can learn to appreciate men in this society enough to help them without there being an ulterior motive to help women, this wont be fixed.